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Understanding the Shadow Self 0:00 Hey, men. Kenny Luck here, founder of Everyman Ministries. I'm so glad you're here from wherever you are, on your way to work,0:06 in the backyard, around a fire pit, with your men's group, in a church hall. We're just so glad as a part of the Everyman team that you've chosen to open up God's word and grow spiritually. Now a couple coaching tips.0:17 Just make sure you have your Bible handy. It's always a great reference point. Make sure you have the downloaded notes. Those help you not only follow along, but then you could teach it and give it away. Now fun fact,0:29 you know, this live stream is only 1 time a week. But we have a community of 70000 plus men who receive fresh insight encouragement from God's word in the every man0:41 daily devotional. If you wanna join that community and get just a fresh encouragement on a daily basis versus just the once a week meeting, go ahead and go to the bottom of the home page. There's a little space there.0:51 You put in your email and just sign up. Lastly, before we go to the study, if you have been ministered to or blessed by the every man in life for you, let me encourage1:03 you to bless another man. Somewhere in the world, on a military base, maybe it's a group of friends, maybe it's a church, but bless other1:15 men by becoming an everyman partner and give financially. There's a little donate there. It just helps us to get what you're gonna watch out into the spaces and places1:26 where men are so they can become like Jesus. Now let's join today's study. If you have a Bible, I want you to hold a couple spots for me. 11:38 in second Samuel chapter 12 and the other in Matthew 23. We're in part 2 of a series we're calling Shadow Self. And if you're joining us for the first time, that might sound aConfronting the Shadow Self 1:51 little mysterious. It's really not because every man has a shadow self. Who, like the name suggests, is not your image. It's not your persona. It's not your2:02 personality that you show publicly. No. The shadow self is the private you, the hidden you that struggles, alright, that you kinda wanna keep private. It's the version of yourself2:15 you don't want on display. It's a part of you that you're working on. And Jesus, as we saw in part 1, directly addresses the shadow self when2:27 he talks with people. Most obviously, in the Sermon on the Mount when he says things like, you've heard it said, don't commit adultery. But I say to you, if a man2:39 has anger in his heart toward another person, he is guilty. Right? Or he'll say, you've heard it said, don't commit adultery, but I say to you, if any man lusts2:51 after a woman in his heart, he's already committed adultery with her. Right? What does Jesus know? He knows that the symptom is not the same as the3:03 root. He knows that the problem of murder and adultery doesn't exist at the level at which you finally see it or where it finally comes out and3:15 becomes visible. Now, here's what I want you to remember about Jesus calling out the shadow self in people. It's3:26 this, Jesus sees us all. He sees all of us. He sees the good and bad in you. He sees your insides first, then3:38 your outsides, but he's more focused on your heart, on your insides. Why? Because he wants to change us from the inside out.3:50 So if you missed part 1, go back, watch part 1 because we lay the sort of the the the road map, the process for interchange. And then now in part 2, we're gonna start4:01 looking at profiles of men of God dealing with their shadow self, starting with the man after God's own heart. Can you imagine having that label4:14 in the Bible, the man after God's own heart. We are going to look at David and just for a little bit of context before we roll the film in second Samuel4:25 12. In second Samuel 11 is that famous scene in in biblical history. It's movies have been made about this, but4:37 where where David, King David, at the top of his game is roof surfing, he sees Bathsheba, and then the dominoes start4:49 to fall. Right? He lusts after Bathsheba, he has power, he goes and tells his his his servants to go get her, he sleeps with her, she becomes pregnant5:02 and then now he has to cover it up and then to cover it up, he tries to bring her husband home to sleep with her so that it can seem like it's her husband5:13 Uriah's baby. That doesn't work. He ends up having more honor than King David. While his men are at war, he won't sleep with his wife while his men are at the front lines of5:25 battle. And finally, David gives into his full shadow self and tells Joab to go put Uriah at the front lines where he is struck and killed5:37 in battle, right, in order to create now a context for taking care of and marrying, Bathsheba. So second Samuel5:48 12 is sort of the the the post chapter of David's shadow self is ruling. He's an adulterer.6:02 He's a murderer, his shadow self is in charge until God sends another man of God. Let'sSteps to Inner Cleansing 6:13 pick up the story in second Samuel 12 and roll the film. And the Lord sent Nathan to David. He came to him and he said to him, there were 2 men in a6:25 certain city, the 1 rich and the other poor. The rich man had very many flocks and herds, but the poor man had nothing but 1 little ewe6:37 lamb, which he had bought. And he brought it up, and it grew up with him, and with his children. It used to eat of his morsel and drink from his cup, and lie in his6:49 arms, and it was like a daughter to him. Now there came a traveler to the rich man and he was unwilling to take 1 of his own flock or herd to prepare for the7:01 guest who had come to him, but he took the poor man's lamb and prepared it for the man who had come to him. Then David's anger was7:13 greatly kindled against the man. And he said to David, as the Lord lives, the man who has done this deserves to die, and he shall7:24 restore the lamb fourfold because he did this thing, because he had no pity. Nathan said to David, You are the man.7:37 This is a game changing moment in scripture. It is a show stopper. Clearly, Nathan reels David in like a big mouth bass.7:50 Right? Chasing a lure, and the lure is the story about a shepherd. K? I mean, Nathan was was smooth on on his8:02 cast and how he how he sets the hook. Right? So Nathan sets the the hook, starts talking about, a a shepherd with 1 18:14 new lamb and then then this other guy who has has lots of flocks and shepherds, you know, and, you know, we got the we got the characters going here. The the man with the 1 ewe8:26 lamb is Uriah. His wife is the ewe lamb. Bathsheba. The rich man is and the powerful person is David. And David8:37 takes advantage of this man's wife, and then he he's got David's energy boiling right now. David David's energy I mean, his8:49 blood is boiling right now. And then that's when, bam, the hook is set. It gets yanked back. David gets reeled in, sucking air on the full the floor of the boat.9:02 You are that man. Now we can go 1 of 2 ways, with this. We could really focus on how, you know, this confrontation happens,9:15 the Lord sending Nathan. But what I I wanna focus on here for for shadow self is just this confrontation, this this mirror9:27 that gets held up to David and and and why god allowed Nathan, sent Nathan to hold up this mirror, tell the story,9:39 hook David, and get him feeling and thinking, the thoughts that he started to think in response to the story. Alright? So there's there's there's 3 3 reasons,9:51 and they directly apply to you and I in this discussion of dealing with our shadow self. Number 1, I need insight before I invest10:03 my energy. K? I need insight. You know, working with men for the past 30 years, 1 of the greatest weaknesses that I see in men,10:15 that we see in this moment of David's life is a complete lack, listen, of self awareness. I mean,10:28 Nathan's spinning this tail, and and David's looking at it like, you know, that guy, you know, that guy. Right? You know, it's that guy. Who is this guy? You know, this guy, you know, I'm10:40 angry at this guy. This guy deserves to die, and he he's gonna he's gonna give it all back and and 4 times as much to to the poor man, you know, because he had no pity.10:52 I mean, David's commenting about it, like, in the third person. There's Nathan. There's David. And then Nathan tells the story of this guy. I mean, David has no11:04 insight into himself. Right? Until, Nathan drops the bomb. So what do we need to deal with our shadow self? These parts of it. Man,11:16 we need insight. We need to search for insight about ourselves. We gotta know where we come from, what happened to us, what's going on inside of our11:27 hearts that could create this this person who could, you know, see and do things and then completely separate11:39 ourselves and, like, listen to a story of someone else who's kind of done the same thing, but then not see it in ourselves. Okay? Secondly, I need11:51 to know what God knows about me. You know what's cool about this story is that David's relationship with God is there, but David is12:02 lacking the self awareness at the moment. And so what does God have to do? God has to use another man of God who who sets the hook12:14 and the lure, right, so that god can reveal David to David. K? What do we learn about god in this process?12:26 Is that god as god as you have a relationship with god, he will he will do some things that other people in your life won't. He'll reveal you to you. Why? Because he sees12:38 you from the inside out. Right? That's we that's what we read in the bible that man looks at the outward appearance. God looks at the heart. God sees your shadow self, God12:50 sees your intentions, God sees your whole history and maybe some of the things, the unresolved pains or traumas or or or hurts that that have shaped you,13:02 and he sees your heart. He sees this part of you, right, that no 1 else sees. So not only do we need insight before we start investing more energy in our in13:14 our journey in life, our journey with God, but we also need to know what God knows about me. Now you'll see David in other Psalms saying, surely you desire truth13:26 in my innermost being and in the hidden place. Like, David knows, that this is God's process. You know? Third, we need13:38 a pure source to draw from. K? We need a pure source to draw on. You know, you've got you've got Nathan and you've got everybody else. You13:50 know, everybody in the palace, you know, saw all this stuff that was going on. You know, his his his officers, his first circle, his, you know, and14:02 nobody's confronting this, you know. Most likely because they're they're concerned with losing the favor of the king. You ever did that before? You ever been a man pleaser versus a God14:14 pleaser? Right? And you weight the opinions of men ahead of what's right and good and true and what God wants. K? Not Nathan.14:26 Nathan, God's man, is listening to God's voice, and he's willing to risk it all to help a brother. Now let's just pause for a14:38 second. Let the paint dry on that 1. Nathan is God's man, listening to God's voice. God's man listening to God's14:50 voice becomes willing to risk it all to see God's purposes advanced in another man's life. And in this series,15:03 what I want you to know is that we're kinda doing the same thing. Okay? We're not directly confronting any man,15:15 but we're not comforting you. But we are doing 1 thing. We are challenging you to hold up a mirror and to be strong and courageous15:26 and really take a look at your inner man, that shadow self, and deal with him the way God wants.15:38 Alright? And that's what I love about this story is that God sends a man to David. You know? That's what we need in the body of Christ. That's what we need15:49 wherever God's men is. You need other men in your life who can be a pure source, like, 1 you could trust. Like, David knew he could16:01 trust Nathan. And because Nathan knew that David trusted him, right, because he was a man of God, Nathan could could drop the bomb.16:13 Now it wasn't a stab to kill. You know, there's people who, you know, stuff comes out of their mouth directed toward you, it's a stab to kill.16:25 This is a cut to heal. Like, God needs to cut into David's character a bit and remove16:37 the very things that are holding him back, but it starts with self awareness. It starts with revelation about himself, and it starts16:49 with a pure trusted source that David can draw on. Okay? Now, here's the question. You see how David had that that17:00 blind spot? Alright? You think maybe you have might have a blind spot or 2? Alright. Just like the shadow self. Alright. How every man has 1 of those. Every man has partsShow more In this video 0:00 Understanding the Shadow Self1:42 Confronting the Shadow Self6:02 Steps to Inner Cleansing17:09 The Power of New Beliefs
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