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Understanding the Shadow Self 0:00 Hey, men. Kenny Luck here, founder of Everyman Ministries. I'm so glad you're here from wherever you are, on your way to work, in the backyard, around a fire pit, with your men's group, in a church hall. We're just so0:10 glad as a part of Everyman team that you've chosen to open up God's word and grow spiritually. Now a couple coaching tips. Just make sure you have your bible handy. It's always a great reference point. Make sure you have0:21 the downloaded notes. Those help you not only follow along, but then you can teach it and give it away. Now, fun fact, you know, this live stream is only 1 time a week. But we0:33 have a community of 70000 plus men who receive fresh insight and encouragement from God's word in the Everyman daily devotional. You wanna join that community and get just a fresh0:44 encouragement on a daily basis versus just the once a week meeting, go ahead and go to the bottom of the home page. There's a little space there. You put in your email and just sign up. Lastly, before we go to the0:56 study, if you have been ministered to or blessed by the every man in life for you, let me encourage you to bless another man. Somewhere in the world, on a military base, maybe it's a group of friends, maybe it's a1:07 church, give financially.1:19 There's a little donate there. It just helps us to get what you're gonna watch out into the spaces and places where men are so they can become like Jesus.1:31 Now, let's join today's study. If you have a Bible, I want you to hold a couple of spots for me. 1 spot in Romans 7, the other in Galatians chapter 2.1:43 We are in part 3 of our series called Shadow Self. And if you're joining us for the first time, that might sound a little bit mysterious, but it shouldn't. Why? Because every man has a1:55 shadow self. You just don't like talking about him because it's the you that struggles. It's the you that battles temptation. It's the you that acts inconsistently, maybe2:06 acts immaturely or selfish in some aspect of your private life and no 1 wants to to celebrate those things. And2:18 you see in the New Testament, in the gospel specifically, Jesus not preaching and teaching and talking to the images of men,2:30 you see him preaching to this person, the shadow self, consistently, especially with those men who are religious. You could you could say that Jesus2:42 is the shadow self surgeon. He's cracking open this veneer, this armor, and he's getting right to the insides of men. He's2:54 saying things like, okay, don't don't kill people, but I say to you, it's the anger. Alright? He says things like, don't3:06 sleep with someone else's wife. Don't commit adultery. But I say to you, if a man has lust in his heart? He says things like, you guys clean3:18 the outside of the cup and dish, but on the inside you're full of greed and self indulgence. Just think about that for a second. Jesus isn't3:29 taking them at face value. He's not believing the images that they're projecting. He's seeing way past that right to their insides and telling them where3:41 the problem really lies. And hopefully, those guys are gonna go, oh, he knew he knows me, he sees me. Because Jesus knows the problem doesn't exist at the3:53 level at which it finally is visibly, tangibly seen. It goes to a deeper root problem. And so in part 1, if you missed4:05 that, go back. We talk about the process of inner change. Right? In part 2, we talked about the man after God's own heart, David, and his process of dealing4:17 with his shadow self, which actually involved another man of God kind of confronting him. And then David realizing that, seeing that, responding to that.4:29 In part 3, we're gonna look at probably the greatest Christian man to ever walk the planet after our Lord and Savior Jesus, the Apostle Paul. And the4:40 Apostle Paul is an example of a God's man, a Christian, who has a shadow self. He has an old Paul. He's battling in the flesh, but his4:52 problem is not a lack of knowledge. His problem, is is not a lack of desire. Plenty of passion. Right? You know what his5:04 problem is? Power. He does not have the power to defeat his shadow self. I mean, we're gonna look right now at Romans chapter 7,5:17 and I want you to listen for the helplessness in Paul's voice. Romans chapter 7 verses 15 and 19, Paul writes this, for I5:28 do not understand my own actions, For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. Now if I do what5:40 I do not want, I agree with the law that it is good. So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. For I know that nothing good dwells5:52 in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. For I do not do the good I want, but the6:04 evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells6:16 within me. Do you feel the hopelessness and the tension of this follower of Jesus as he's trying to work6:28 out his commitment to God, but he is at war. And his problem is not desire. He's got the desire. He6:40 says it right there. This problem is not knowledge. Paul knows the scripture. He knows the Hebrew scripture. He knows Jesus. His problem is6:52 with power. He doesn't have the power to defeat that part of himself that is sabotaging his relationship with God. Right?7:04 And so what's cool about his journey is that he does break out of this and he does reveal the solution in7:16 Romans 8 and in other parts of the pastoral epistles. But I want to go now to his letter to the Galatians, and I want you now7:28 to detect okay, let's be your your truth detective. Put those glasses on and see if you can see now in Paul's voice, hope and the solution. He says this in7:39 Galatians 2 20. He says, I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me.7:51 And the life I now live in the flesh, I live by faith in the Son of God who loved me and gave himself for8:03 me. So you have kind of a compare contrast. There's the helplessness of Romans 7. I'm trying to live out my life in God, and I'm not8:14 winning. And then you say, well, look at me now. The life I now live in the flesh, I live by faith in the Son of God who loved me and gave himself for me.8:26 The solution in Paul's voice and letter to the Galatians is Christ's love. Getting in touch with Christ's love, more specifically,8:38 Christ's sacrificial love. Because it is for him the core power which now allows him to live his faith8:50 out successfully, defeating that guy in Romans 7. I've been crucified with Christ. He's crucified that guy. How? By getting in touch with9:02 Jesus's love for him, his sacrificial love for him. So Jesus's loving sacrifice, listen, is the saving power in Paul's life. It's the sustaining power in Paul's9:14 life. It is the defeating power of the old man, or as we're calling him in this series, the shadow self. So what I want you to to do is to9:25 just kind of go down some key truths with me, 3 key truths of the power of loving sacrifice number 1 loving sacrifice shocks us9:37 internally okay when someone does something in a Sacrificial way for you doesn't it hit you? It's sort of like wait9:50 You would do that for me That's the power of Jesus's sacrifice. He says the life I now live I live by faith in the son of10:02 God who loved me and Gave himself for me. Do you see that there's that connect connective tissue? He didn't just like love me like I love you10:14 Paul He gave himself for me Paul's like oh My gosh, I get it. You know, I mean talk to someone who survived10:27 after someone else sacrifices their life so that that they can live talk to a Medal of Honor survivor or talk to somebody who shields someone from10:39 a bullet or it shocks them and resets them internally. Has the love of Christ and what he's done for you, have you just said to yourself,10:51 wait, he would do that for me? And the answer is yes. And it pushes you off your mark internally.11:03 Right? Secondly, loving sacrifice convinces us emotionally. Right? It convinces us emotionally. When someone says no to themselves to11:15 say yes to you in any context, emotionally you're like, that's real. I like this person. They they I may I may not11:26 know them completely, but I know what that means. That means that they they set themselves aside, said no to themselves, and that in order to say yes for me, they they11:38 didn't take from me. They gave up them themselves and What they gave up they gave to me. They they they gave up time to be with me. They gave up resources to give with me.11:50 They gave up their day to be with me. That convinces you actually emotionally. More than words, more than call me. That convinces you. When you see someone12:02 sacrifice for you because they love you? Okay. It convinces us emotionally about the other person. Let me ask you a question. Are you convinced12:14 in here that Jesus Christ loves you. You should be because of his loving sacrifice. Number 3, loving sacrifice12:26 wins strong commitment relationally. Okay? So it shocks me because we're used to people using us. It it convinces us emotionally12:39 and then now my my commitment to this person, it gets strengthened. Our12:51 relationship gets stronger. You see, loving sacrifice secures 2 things, complete trust and complete13:02 confidence. Like, I have friends. They've sacrificed for me. I know that if I'm in a situation, I can trust them. I have complete confidence that13:14 they will act on my behalf, just as I hope they have complete confidence that I will act on their behalf. Right? Sacrifice, loving sacrifice,13:27 secures trust and confidence. And so I wanna put that out there because I want you to see that if you're a follower of Jesus and you struggle, you're in good13:39 company. Last week David, this week the greatest Christian who's ever walked, you know, the planet. Right? But you're not supposed to stay there. Right? But you are supposed to dig in and dive13:51 in to God's love and get in touch with it so that you can defeat the things inside that are defeating you.14:03 God's love is life changing. Your savior who sacrificed his life, dwelling in you, his love deepening in14:15 you your soul filling within you and guess what leaves unhealth and immaturity and that's really where we want to go now14:26 Because in this this idea of shadow self, shadow self is immature, it's the it's the part of you that struggles, it's the part of you that's not grown up, it's it's it's14:38 the part of you that you don't want to celebrate and wanting to win your new self that God created, the main theme in all of that is going14:50 from immaturity of the shadow self to the maturity of the new creation. And so on your downloaded notes, it talks about the shadow self challenge, inner man15:02 versus inner boy. Okay? If you haven't seen This video, it's it's it's titled toddler tantrum after missed15:14 putt now I I play golf I've seen I've seen some temper tantrums. I've seen some clubs break. I've seen some grimaces. I've heard colorful15:25 expletives come out when, when men miss putts. But when you watch toddler tantrum after miss putt, this is this will crack you up because this little boy has a15:37 plastic club. The ball is that far from the hole. He hits it and it lips out. Right? And it's like shock and awe.15:49 And then what you witness is like what's called in neuroscience a stress response. Right? There's an amygdala distress signal that that activates16:01 your hypothalamus and then that activates the adrenal glands and then that pumps epinephrine into this little kid's body in the time span of maybe 1.5 seconds.16:12 Right? And what follows is a sustained nuclear temper tantrum, you know, on the ninth hole. And, you know, it's hilarious16:24 to watch. It's it's cute. In 24 hours this video got 4000000 views, okay? So that's how cute and funny it kind of is and it's cute because he's 216:38 Okay, And you kind of expect that. The problem is, in a grown man, you don't expect toddler maturity. Right? So what we're gonna do16:50 now is okay, If we have this part of ourselves that doesn't feel grown up, that's immature, that doesn't have the character to defeat certain issues, what's the17:01 solution? And I'm saying based on the apostle Paul's own journey and scripture that it is the love of God. Maturity in God's love. And so17:13 let's let's look at how we defeat the inner boy and become an inner man. Number 1, maturity in God's love is a battle of ways. Write17:25 that down. Maturity in God's love is a battle of ways. Okay? In first Corinthians 13, Paul's talking about himself and he's now17:37 following Christ. First Corinthians 13 is a chapter, it's a very famous chapter. You hear it and the preceding verses are all about God's love, Right? And what17:49 love is. Listen to what Paul says the outcome is of love. Verse 11. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I18:00 reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways, circle that, of childhood behind me. Okay? A relationship with God18:12 and an encounter with this love is both a battle of ways and an exchange of ways the more you become mature in God's18:24 love. Right? Ways of being, ways of believing, and ways of behaving. That's why Paul's repeated theme is love and growing up likeShow more In this video 0:00 Understanding the Shadow Self18:31 Maturity in God's Love40:35 The Power of Community and New Beginnings
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