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0:00 You are listening to Waters Church podcast. Waters Church is a multisite, multigeneration community of faith on the East Coast of America. Now for a message from our pastor.0:18 Part number 2 of how to, and the title is how to be a woman. And I would like you to take out your notes. They look somewhat like this. Take it out. Fill in the blanks. Follow along with us0:30 as we approach what I'm sure is going to be a very important and has the capacity to be a very impactful message. Now quick update.0:41 First Tuesday, this Tuesday at North Attleboro and Apollo Beach. We start at 5 30 with prayer. We we we worship at 6 30. We are gonna get you out0:53 earlier than we used to with the earlier start. So come anytime after 5 30 North Attleboro or Apollo Beach, and fasting on Monday. All day Monday, 12 to 12,1:05 we want you to fast and pray only liquids. Let's seek God for our spirit, for our church's season, for this season of our church, and for the power of the holy spirit. And and I've got a message in1:17 mind for you on the power of the holy spirit. And I I only bring this up now. You've probably already heard it in the announcements, but I I'm bringing it up now. Because if we're gonna be true men, if we're gonna be1:29 true women, we need the Holy Spirit. We need the Holy Spirit to do what we're talking about both last week and this week. So notes out, how to be a woman part 21:41 of this how to series. Take out your phones. If you need a phone to take notes because you don't have the paper notes, go to waters church dot guide. Click on the the tab that says today's message, and you can fill in1:51 the blanks there digitally. I wanna say this first. The Bible is the most pro woman book in human history. The Bible says that every human, other than the first2:03 2 humans comes from a woman. Evolution doesn't teach that. Ancient cultures didn't teach that. The Bible teaches that everybody outside of the first 2,2:15 Adam and his wife, come from a woman. The Bible addresses women regularly. The Bible contains heroic women. Women like2:27 Sarah who ventured across the ancient world with her husband Abram. Women like Deborah who fought a war and won it for Israel. Women like women like2:39 Abigail who was wiser than her foolish husband and secured her children's safety and her property and ultimately married David. Women like Ruth and2:50 Esther and Elizabeth and Mary in the New Testament. And Mary Magdalene, a woman from whom 7 demons had been cast out in the Bible says that she was the first person in history to tell3:02 somebody else that Jesus Christ was not dead. He was alive. I want you to understand that when we approach the topic of woman with the bible, we are not being3:13 oppressive. We are not being, rude or arrogant. No. The bible exalts women and lifts them up. We just read the passage that the final act of God's3:25 created order was to fashion a woman from the rib of a man. The word rib could mean mean side. It could mean side. So so men, you're not missing a rib. Just letting you know. So from the side of the3:37 man, not his head so that she would rule over him, not his feet so that he would dominate over her, but right from his side that she would be equal in value and in worth and in responsibility with the man over the3:49 creation to rule and subdue it. We have a beautiful picture in the scriptures that in in the created order, God's creation goes from general to very specific4:01 and complex. It really does. If you look at it, it starts with light, general, and, you know, basic. And and then it goes to planets, and then it goes to, you know, land, and then it goes to4:13 rivers and waters, and then it goes into animals, and then into fish life or marine life, and then finally it goes to man. Man being far more complex and far more architecturally designed4:25 than animals and fish and land and dirt and and the worlds and the heavens. And then it leads and and then it ends with so so so this is the thought. The spectrum goes from4:36 less complex and less intricate to more complex and more intricate. And so the final act on the spectrum of complex and intricate is women. And this is why men never4:48 understand you, ladies, because you are the most complex and the most intricate creation of God. And it doesn't mean that you're less than valuable, and it doesn't mean that we have the right to treat you poorly. No. We4:59 are to do what Adam did to rejoice over you, to celebrate you, to honor you, and to lift you up. But listen to me, not as the world does, but as God5:11 does. As we talked about last week, we need to stop celebrating boys who can shave. So too, we need to stop celebrating women who feel empowered by the lies of this age. And so today, I want to5:23 speak on women, and I speak from authority of this of of this basic authority. You're not hearing my words. You're hearing God's words. I'm not coming up with these thoughts5:35 on my own, and I'm not here to tell you what I think. Ladies, what I think doesn't matter. What God says is what matters. And so today, my heart my my prayer for5:47 you is that you have an ear to hear what the Lord says. Secondly, would like to say, I I'm preaching to you on this topic from the authority of the fact that I was raised by a wonderful woman who honored and served and5:58 worships God still to this day. I am married to a wonderful woman who honors and serves God and worships God still to this day. And lay and listen. I have raised a woman who6:10 I have who who honors God and serves God and worships God to this day. I'm surrounded. I'm so blessed. I'm surrounded by godly, wonderful women. So so I've had a front row seat6:23 to a a godly woman in my life all the days of my life, and they have been a blessing to me. And in some ways, they have confounded me. But ultimately, my life is so much6:35 better, so much richer, so much more multiplied because of the woman, the women in my life. Someone once said, whatever you give a woman, she will multiply it. If you give a6:47 woman intimacy, sexual intimacy, she she intimacy, she will multiply it and make a baby. If you give a woman groceries, she will multiply it and give you a meal. If you give a woman a6:59 house, she will multiply it and give you a home. And then someone said, but if you give a woman trouble, she will multiply it, and she will give it right back to you. So7:10 husbands, don't give your wives trouble, but give them a man of God that they should and can respect. I said there were 4 problems facing men last week. Let's talk about, and I said I would say this, the 4 problems7:22 facing women. And I wanna let you know that I ran this by 2 of those great women in my life. I said, here's where I feel the Lord is leading me to address the the problems in our age. What do you think? And they agreed7:31 with 3 of them. And so 1 of them, I just had to I just had to call pastoral authority on. And I won't tell you which 1, but here they are. Number 1, write this down in your notes. Women are facing a measurement problem.7:43 Measurements. And I thought about this. Women are constantly being measured. Men will ogle an attractive lady, and they will say, she's a 10 or7:55 she's an 8. And they'll even regionalize it. They'll say, well, she's a 8 in this town, but she's a 6 in New York City. This is an anathema to the heart of God, measuring women. By the way, not just8:07 men measure women, but women measure women. Clothing measures women. And not just your body size, but your bust size, your waist size, your hip size, everything is8:18 a measurement, and you are being measured for better or for worse in this culture in a way that I believe leads to a second problem. I call this the8:30 comparison problem. Because you are constantly under measurement, and I'm not saying just from men, I'm saying from yourselves, you're also constantly in this in this stress to8:42 compete. You go to the grocery store, you get your food, you try to do the best for for your family, for your body, for your nutritional, you know, value. And and then what do you do? You go to the checkout aisle, and8:54 and if you turn to the left of the checkout aisle, what's what's filling the the the shelves? But but pictures of of women, old women who have been photoshopped into a9:06 20 year younger version of themselves. And and the question on the cover is, how does she do it? Or so and so at 65, and and she's really an unrealistic presentation9:18 of what a woman at that age should look like. Or even the younger women are sometimes photoshopped, many times still photoshopped, airbrushed to perfection, to this impossible goal by which you are not9:29 just measured, but then in your internal functioning, you are comparing yourself to them. And the most ironic thing about those checkout aisles is that, ladies, there's not many men on those covers. If there's9:41 men, it's like a fitness magazine, and and they're not there usually. But but you look on the left, and there's all the beautiful women that you are comparing yourself to if you fall into the church. You're comparing9:51 yourself to, I need to look more like that woman. I need to have her measurements. I need to have her face. I need to have her happiness. But you turn hundred and 80 degrees, and what do you see on the other side? You10:02 see candy and chocolate and all kinds of fattening, undoing measures by which you have no chance to look like that woman. This is the trap. This is the trap that10:13 ladies have been put in by our society. Not only are you compared in the checkout aisle or the grocery line, but this little device that we have in our hands, this little device is a comparison garrison. It just10:25 puts you in a trap of constantly measuring and comparing yourself to other women. Look at her. She looks so happy. Look at how happy she's she is on that beach. Look at how thin10:37 she got. Look at how successful she is. Look at how behaved her children are. How handsome her husband is. And you are being thrust into a garrison10:49 of comparison, and it is weighing on your mental health, ladies. I'm telling you the truth, and you know it. And not only are you being measured against each other, and not only are you11:00 being compared against each other, but here's where we are right now. Listen to me. Ladies, you are being compared against men. Against men. You you are11:12 being this is the number the number 3 problem, the repurposed problem. I I can't believe I'm here. I can't believe we're here, but ladies are being11:24 compared to men and being expected to compete with and measure themselves constantly against men. This is the constant argument of the gender pay gap, the11:36 gender equality index. This is the problem of our age that instead of celebrating the distinct characteristics by which God created woman in his image and in his likeness11:48 to function in a way that is distinct and complementary to a man, a woman is now being forced or being indoctrinated into the idea that the ultimate woman is a man dominating or a man11:59 equivalent woman. What does that say about woman? It says that woman is less just by being a woman, and that man is somehow significant or superior just by being a man. This is a lie of our age. And for12:11 70 years, ladies, let me throw this phrase out there right off the bat. Please don't get offended. But for 70 years, feminism has been destroying you.12:23 The 19 sixties revolutionized our world. At the same time, they're very true, very just, very right civil rights movement was destroying the segregation of our culture and elevating the status, the12:35 value of black people and and and calling to account the atrocities of our country's past. At that same time, we are also experiencing a12:47 radical revolution of the genders and sexuality and what we are to do as men and women, and we are still not only bearing the results of12:58 that catastrophe, but we have yet to wake up for wake up from the insanity. Feminism is often heralded as some kind of progressive13:10 movement, not just in the world, but even in the church. Even in the church, feminism has snuck in, and women again are being asked to13:22 compete with men. Men now preaching from the pulpit, now pastoring churches, doing what God has reserved for the man. The woman is now expected to, demanded, and even celebrated to to fulfill that calling as if as if13:34 what God's given her is not enough. She has to now do the work of men. And and this is this is a terrible thing. It has not worked out well. And I want to just give you some hard facts about the roots13:46 of feminism because some of you don't even realize the founders of this movement. I'm gonna give you some names. Some you will recognize, some you will not. And I wanna give you direct quotes from their own writings. So13:58 listen to me. Feminist heroes of our of the last century, here's some of their sayings. Are you ready? Gloria Steinem said, quote, by the year 2000,14:10 we will, I hope, raise our children to believe in human potential and not God. Gloria Steinem. Sheila Cronin, author of the book radical feminism,14:22 said, quote, since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the women's movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom from for women cannot be won without the14:34 abolition of marriage, end quote. Marlene Dixon, 1 of the founders of the Democratic Women's Workers Party, in the 19 sixties said, quote, the institution of marriage is the14:46 chief vehicle for the perpetuation of the oppression of women. It is through the role of wife that the subjugation of women is maintained, end quote. Feminist activist Andrea14:57 Drokin Drokin said, quote, marriage is an institution developed from rape as a practice, end quote. Doctor Mary Jo Bain, this is a woman who has a professorship at15:09 Harvard Kennedy School of Government right now. She formerly worked at Wellesley University. She said, quote, in order to raise children with equality, we must take them away from families and communally15:21 raise them, end quote. And it's just a leap and a skip away. You get to Hillary Clinton writing, it takes a village. Feminist blogger Amy Glass more recently said, quote, you15:33 will never have the time, energy, freedom, or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids, end quote. What do you hear over and over from the roots of the feminist movement but the absolute15:45 hatred and disdain for God's design for the family? For the celebration of what a woman brings to the table in ray in birthing at first in gestating, and then birthing, and then15:57 raising children to the glory of God. See, this is why the feminist movement is working hand in hand with the homosexual movement and the transgender craze. It is a16:09 family destroying movement. And I said last week that children need a father. Ladies and gentlemen, children also need a mother desperately. Desperately. In fact, most of the surveys, most of the research16:21 shows that a mother is the chief architect of the emotional well-being of children right through their early twenties. Women are16:32 essential. Mothers are essential. And we need, as a church, to say it and speak it and stand up against the onslaught of disinformation and misinformation and16:44 lies from the enemy who wants to destroy the very architectural build of God, a father and a mother raising children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.16:56 This is why the church exists, friends, to stand in the gap and to fight for truth in every generation. Ultimately, the feminist movement gave rise to the transgender17:07 movement. And now today, women are forced by executive fiat in some states to compete with men in sports. Consequently, their heads are bashed in on17:19 the mat of the UFC match. Their bodies are bruised on the basketball court, and their awards are stripped from them and handed to men. All in the name17:32 of female empowerment. This past week, a ladies basketball game in Massachusetts had to be stopped. The score was 10 to nothing.17:44 1 of the teams had a male playing as a woman on the team. He brutally injured 3 of the opposing players, and because the coach was fearful for the health of the rest of his female17:55 players, he surrendered. He threw in the towel. He forfeited the game, and it was called I'll let you guess which team had 10 points. Also, past week, 5 West18:07 Virginia middle school women, girls, women, beautiful daughters of God, who protested a transgender athlete's participation in a track and field event18:19 were subsequently barred for life from future sporting events in West Virginia. Stand for truth and you get vilified.18:31 You get attacked. You get prosecuted. This is the age that Isaiah warned about. Woe to them that call evil good and good evil.18:43 Ladies and gentlemen, I'm not going to play games. I'm not going to bow the knee. I'm not going to silence my tongue for the sake of fitting in with this culture. Let God be true and every man a liar. And it's18:54 time for the church to speak up and say what God has revealed in the scripture now and for all time. A woman is a beautiful creation of God, and there is no way19:07 a man could ever become a woman, and doing so only hurts women. Number 4. This one's gonna hurt, ladies.19:19 You're facing a truth problem. You're facing a truth problem. Men have a spiritual problem. Women have a truth problem. And I don't19:30 mean to demean you at all, but I do want you to see how it plays out in the holy scriptures. When the serpent slithers into the garden,19:42 he targets the woman. I don't know if you've ever seen this. Genesis chapter 3 verse 1. Now the serpent was more crafty than any other piece of the earth. So there was this cunning. There was this craftiness to the19:52 serpent, and he decided to aim his craftiness at the woman. I believe he did that for 2 reasons. Number 1, and and hear me, stay with me. Number 1, Adam wasn't doing what20:04 he was supposed to do. Know what Adam should have done? He should have rebuked that serpent right out of the garden. He should have used the authority given to him by God through the word of God to say, stop talking to20:15 my wife. She's mine. She's not yours. She's God's. She's not yours. I rebuke you. And in authority of God, the serpent would have had to slither away. So Adam wasn't doing his job leading and feeding his wife20:27 in the things of God. Who knows if he wasn't playing video games or running around with scissors somewhere in the garden. I don't know. But he wasn't doing what he was supposed to do. Secondly, I think that the woman was20:38 targeted because of Adam's failure, and this led her to a susceptibility to deception. And listen to me. Ladies, you're still being lied to.20:50 I've I've addressed some of them already. You're still being lied to at an astonishing rate by men. Men who see your attraction, they21:02 value your physical attributes or what you can do for them, but they don't value you for what God made you to do. And the devil has taken root in the heart of men. And men, instead of honoring and upholding women in21:14 honor and dignity, they have denounced women. They have used women. They objectify women. The reason why those ladies are airbrushed on the magazine is because of the publishing leaders of those magazines oftentimes21:24 being men. The the the reason why women are left to lead in areas where men should lead is because men have become apathetic. And so ladies, listen to me. What you have been left with is a a deceptive21:36 spirit. What you have been left with is a cunning craftiness from the evil 1 who is coming for you. And I wanna make sure you understand something. The last 70 years of supposed progress21:48 have actually been regress in every measurable facet of human life for you, ladies. Because men are still failing to deliver your deliver truth to you, feminism and21:59 cultural progress have ruined you. The good news, ladies, is that you are graduating from college at higher levels than men, and you are getting positions of power in the22:11 executive offices and the political offices and the educational offices. But the bad news is, ladies, you're more depressed and anxious and emotionally distraught than ever before. The22:23 Wall Street Journal had an article August 20 22. The title of the article, how the sexual revolution has hurt women. Studies constantly find that hookups in hookup culture, women more22:34 likely experience regret, low self esteem, and mental distress because you're not made to have random sexual encounters with strangers or 1 night stands or sleep with the guy on the third day. You're22:46 made for a covenant with a man whereby he honors to love you and protect you and give you God's word and leads you in God's truth. Abandoning God's truth leads to the devil's lies. The devil's lies leads to22:58 destroying you. A study from 2023, September, from the neuroscience news department says, quote, the paradox of progress, why more freedom isn't making women23:10 happier, end quote. The summary of the study says despite gains in freedom and employment opportunities, research indicates women are experiencing higher levels of anxiety, depression, and sleep issues than ever before,23:21 end quote. And then the whole abortion argument. This is presented as some kind of female empowerment mantra. If you have a child out of wedlock, if you have a23:32 inconvenient conception, and if you don't want to, if you want to chase the the college degree and not raise the child and not be encumbered by by the heinousness of a of a of a child, which is just a lie from the23:44 enemy. There's nothing more beautiful, more wonderful, more miraculous than a child. And ladies, you've been lied to for for hundreds and thousands of years. This is not a new thing. This is not a this is not an American23:53 thing. Abortion has existed on the face of the earth since man has been here. In the ancient world, they sacrificed on an altar to Molech. Today, they do it behind a closed door in a sterilized environment. It's the same24:04 act. It's the same up up operation of of idol worship. It's the same destructive force of the devil. And the and the stats are out, ladies. This is from CBS News. No in24:16 no way a religious outlet. CBS News reports abortion is tied to a sharp decline in women's mental health. A study from September first 20 23 from the British Journal of Psychiatry found that women who had an abortion24:27 were far more likely to develop anxiety by by 37 percent, far more likely to experience depression by 40 percent, far more likely to abuse alcohol by 110 percent, and far more likely to commit suicide24:39 by 155 percent. That's not from a religious publication. That's not from some right wing bible thumping preacher. That's from CBS News. And this is our culture, and this is the24:51 madness, and this is the cost of the lies that have been foisted upon the female gender. Now I am not saying that women should be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. Absolutely not. Like25:03 I said, this week, I head down to Liberty University to watch my firstborn, a woman, graduate, and then head off the next week to pursue her master's degree in business. No. I25:15 am all about women succeeding and fulfilling their God ordained purpose and calling. But what we have seen for the last 70 plus years is25:27 the diminution of a woman to compete with a man, measure herself by everybody else, and fall into the rat race trap that leads to a life of despondency and anxiety. And I'm offering you a better option today if you25:39 will hear it. If you will hear it. Now the scripture that we have in mind today is from Titus chapter 2. Titus chapter 2 literally gives us the game plan for women. How to be a woman is not my25:50 ideas. It's not it's not Paul's ideas. It's the Holy Spirit inspiring Paul the apostle to write this down for the churches of Jesus Christ on how women are to act. Let's look at it. Verse 3 in Titus chapter 2. Older26:02 women, likewise, are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderous or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self26:14 controlled, pure, working at home, and, kind and submissive to their own husbands that the word of God may not be reviled. Understand what's at stake here with that last26:26 phrase that the word of God may not be reviled. Ladies and gentlemen, God has put into the laps of women26:33 the ability to honor the word of God.26:36 So 4 characteristics of a godly woman. Understand. Number 1, a godly woman is honorable in behavior. I'm just reading the text26:48 to you. I'm just giving you exactly what Paul says. A woman must be reverent in her behavior. Verse 3. The word reverent can be translated holy, but the word27:00 is not actually the most commonly used, word in the Greek for holy. The word in the Greek is herioprapez, and it's actually a Greek word that applies to27:12 the priestly function of the instruments of the temple. The temple was the most holy place in Israel's life. And if a instrument, if a object, if a27:24 person went into there, they would they would describe that person as reverend Heria Pepez, holy, a person of significance. Why? Because they enter into the presence of God. Ladies, listen to27:35 me. This is what God wants for you. A behavior that leads people to the presence of God. And what happens in a temple is God is honored, and God is worshiped, and27:47 God is focused on. So hear me. Ladies, listen. What God wants for you is a lifestyle that puts the focus on27:59 God and not you. Oh, I hope you heard that. You are created. You are created to live in such a way that when28:11 people see you, God is honored. God is brought into the picture. You've got a representative calling on your28:23 life, ladies. This is a beautiful privilege from your father in heaven. The reason why is because, ladies, due to the competition problem and the measurement problem,28:35 you are constantly tempted to put the focus on you, to get people to pay attention to you. I mean, the facts of this, it's the women28:47 stripping down into their bathing suits and getting on Instagram. It's the women who oftentimes are diluted into the ideology that their body and their sexuality is the only thing that28:59 will get somebody to pay attention to them, and so they use it to their advancement. And we live in a culture that readily embraces that mindset and ultimately abuses and hurts women.29:11 Ladies, do not fall for the lie that your value and your word come from people paying attention to you. See, if you follow29:23 God's plan, you'll have a husband who should be paying attention to you. And we talked about him last week. And you'll raise children who will think the world of you as you learn to raise them in the fear and29:35 the admonition of the Lord. That's what you're made for. You're not made to be a showpiece. You're not made to be a trophy. In fact, you're made for discretion. Proverbs 11 22 says, like a29:46 gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion. Notice, the bible doesn't say a beautiful woman is like a gold ring and a piece pink style. No. A go a a beautiful woman is a gold29:58 ring. But if she doesn't have discretion, if she doesn't have a I I would like to say a a a atmospheric protection around her, a modesty, a30:10 decency, a propriety around her that that reflects worth and value within her so that she doesn't have to seek it outside of her. No. That is like a a gold ring in a pig's nun. Ladies, you are30:22 meant to shine and glorify God with your inner beauty and your modesty. And you don't need to fall for the lie of the enemy that only externalities bring about some kind of valuation to yourself. First Timothy 2 verse30:34 8, Paul says, and this is funny. Nobody's gonna have a problem with verse 8 in this in this in this room right now. Nobody's gonna have a problem with this. First of all, he says, I desire that in every place men should30:44 pray, and everybody would say amen to that. And men should lift up hands, holy hands, without anger and quarreling, and everybody would say amen to that. And so the ironic thing about first Timothy 2 8 is that we would30:54 have no problem with verse 8 in church. But now let's look at verse 9. Likewise, also that the women should adorn themselves with respectable apparel, with modesty and self31:06 control, not with braided hair and gold and pearls and costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness with good works. Okay. Some of you are probably here today, and you've got braided hair,31:18 and you're like, am I breaking the scriptures? No. No. Quick answer, no. Long answer, in Roman times, it was customary for a woman to have her head covered with a veil, not her face, but her head would be31:30 covered with a veil. Her hair was for her glory, for her husband, and a woman who was married would cover her hair. A woman of the streets, a loose woman, would show she was a loose woman by revealing her hair, and then31:41 some woman went another step. And instead of letting her hair fall, long and over her shoulders, they would they would braid it up to attract even more attention to themselves to let the world know that they were31:51 available for sexual prowess of men. That's the context to which Paul writes to Timothy. What Paul is saying is, don't let the women in the church reflect the32:02 spirit of the women in the age. Ladies, your body is beautiful. It is something that attracts men, and it's32:14 made to attract 1 man. And if you listen to the word of God and you walk in this way, I'm telling you, God will bless you with a man who will honor you.32:27 And if not, he will honor your life through you regardless of a man. This is what God has created for you to be, to be a woman of modesty. There is nothing more attractive, by the way, even in the secular32:38 world, than a woman who guards her purity. This is a cultural euphemism in our in our times. It's called body32:50 count. How many people have you slept with? Body count. And even in secular podcasts that I have observed, even in godless podcasts, the women with high body counts are disregarded and mistreated and33:02 devalued. It's ironic. The same men who will use you are the same men who will destroy you and decry you. It's33:14 just the lies of the age. Number 2, a godly woman is sanctified in speech. Now I almost put soft in speech. Soft.33:27 And I want to say soft, and you could put soft there. You could put, like, sanctified slash in sanctified slash soft. You can do that. But the word for woman in Hebrew,33:39 when Adam says she shall be called woman, his his word is Isha. Isha. The word for man is Ish. Now the word Isha is not just the word for woman. It's actually the same derivative33:51 from the word we get soft. A woman was created to be soft. And and so I think that the way that a woman can be the most beautiful34:02 representation of God is to have her speech softened by the sanctifying work of the holy spirit. Now let me just be real.34:14 Men find it hard to tell women the truth. This is why pastors won't teach pastors. This is what I'm going to teach today. They find it hard to teach women the truth, and the reason is simple. It's a very sociological,34:25 simple rationality. Men are raised by the words of a woman for the first 18 years of his life, and then something happens. He has to turn on a switch and then lead a woman when he gets married. And it's a very hard34:36 transition, and a lot of men never do it. They must. They must learn to speak tenderly and kindly and with authority into the life of their wife. Not in their own34:48 authority, but in the authority of God. And the woman must learn, and this is so important, to guard her mouth in how she speaks to her husband and to others. So here's what Paul says in first 3. Not35:00 slanderers or slaves to much wine. There are 2 things that will loosen your lips, ladies. Gossip, always looking at others, always measuring others against yourself, always comparing yourself, always being in the rat35:12 race of comparison, and alcohol. Alcohol will loosen your lips, and loose lips sink ships. And the ship it's gonna sink is you. Quietness.35:24 I don't know if you understand this. It's a characteristic of God. God is quiet. He doesn't shout. He doesn't raise his voice. He's more he does at times, but more often than not, God35:36 speaks quietly through the voice of the holy spirit, through the text of the bible that God is speaking to you right now. Not screaming at you, but guiding you, gently leading you. Over and over again, the bible talks35:47 about the fact that women need to guard their speech against gossip. First Timothy 5, in addressing the widow list at the in in the early church, widows would be put on a list for care and compassion from the church.35:59 They would supply their Paul warns. He says the the younger widows, those who have lost their husbands and they're still young should not be on the list. He says they're gonna be tempted to go and get married again, and36:07 then they'll get, you know, financial need from the church, and then they'll have a husband who can take care of them, and that's not fair. He says, here's here's here's what he says. If they are on the list, they will36:15 learn to be lazy and will spend their time gossiping from the house to house, meddling in other people's business, talking about things they shouldn't. He says, so I advise these younger women, these younger widows36:23 widows to marry again, have children, and take care of their own homes. Then the enemy will not have anything to say against them. Ladies, if you are gossiping about everybody else, don't you understand that makes you a36:31 gossip, and people know you as the gossip. You do not wanna be known as the gossip. The enemy will then use that to to call you out. You you don't wanna be known as the Karen. You don't wanna be known as the36:43 neighborhood tattletale. You don't. It will ostracize you. It will vilify you. And you must be silent and sanctified in your speech, quiet and sanctified in your speech. Proverbs 25 24.36:55 Are you ready? It is better to live in the corner of a housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome woman. I didn't write it. I am not the author. I'm just the mailman. I'm just delivering it. I didn't write37:07 it. Okay? First Peter 3 1 to 2. If you have an unbelieving husband, Peter counsels, likewise, wife wives, be subject to your own husband so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be 1. Notice the37:19 next 3 words, everybody. Without a word. How are you gonna win your husband to Christ? Without a word. Now why is that the way? Because the propensity, the the commonality of your of your of your femininity37:31 is that you are prone to think that if I can just if I can just talk to him enough, if I can just needle him enough, if I can just, you know, convince him enough. Men don't work like that. They just don't. They just37:41 don't. And ladies, some of you have tried it that way for years, and your husbands have walked further away. And I have stories after stories I can share about that with you, but I don't have time for that. Though what37:49 what scripture says is, why don't you try righteous conduct? Why don't you try a submissive spirit? Why don't you try respectable and pure conduct and not lecturing him and see how38:01 that works out for you? Women are to be quietly learning in the church. This is a principle throughout scripture, first Corinthians 14 33. Look what it says, as in all38:13 the churches. Now the word for all in the Greek means all. So I just wanna let you understand something here. This is not this is not just a first century category. This is not just a Corinthian category. This is a38:25 church wide category. He says, as in all the churches, the women should keep silent in churches for they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission as the law also says, if there is anything they desire toShow more
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