Stop "Fixing" and Start Listening to Your Spouse
Episode · 2 min · September 25, 2026
About this episode
When your spouse shares a problem, simply asking "do you just want me to listen, or do you want solutions?" can transform how connected you both feel. This one small question helps you meet your partner's real need instead of accidentally making them feel dismissed. _______________ We want your marriage to thrive!
Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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