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0:02 We wanna honor God because he sees everything.0:10 You were born with a plan and a purpose. He's the God of all things possible. He's the God of all0:22 miracles.0:52 Welcome to Grace Grace with Naina Michelle. I'm Michelle Humphreys.0:56 And I am Naina Keegan. Welcome to the broadcast today. Today, we're gonna be talking about something I know is probably gonna hit hit home with just about everybody, and it is what triggers you that1:08 causes you to lose your temper. And, you know, the Bible says, do not lose your temper, it only leads to harm. And that is Psalm1:19 37 8. So do not lose your temper, but how hard is that? And so we have to just really like stop. We have to think about what triggers you,1:31 what is the devil. He he he tries to bring strife, he tries to cause division, he tries to bring up all these things that are gonna cause you it to get into anger, to1:43 lose your temper, and then the bible bible says where there is strife, there is every kind of evil. So we're gonna talk about our triggers and how we can recognize what the devil's1:55 trying to do and not respond to him. Right.1:58 Naina and so basically what we're saying today is we're gonna talk about anger management. Right? I mean seriously. And and we both come from Italian2:10 families and I don't know if your Italian family was like our Italian family but there's a lot of You2:17 know a guy.2:18 There's a there's a lot of drama and you know, somebody's mad at the other Exactly.2:30 Christmases can be eventful, not just because it's the birth of Jesus. Let's just say it like that, right? It's because everybody's in the same room.2:38 Oh, yeah. You know, and you can't hear anything because everybody's like outdoing each other. You know, the the thing about it is is that if you think about your buttons, you know, like I don't even think2:50 about my kids and you know, if they're ever upset about something or if they're having a bad day about it is almost always the same old button. It's the same old and3:02 I always say like if you could just picture this, the devil's sitting there going, this is easy. I'll just push this button again and again because it always works. You know, he is not creative and he doesn't have an3:14 endless bag of tricks because he knows what works on you. He knows what gets your goat. He knows how to push your buttons. And so if we don't fall victim to that by recognizing, okay,3:26 this isn't what God says, this isn't how God talks to me, this isn't what this isn't how I'm supposed to react to this. If I refrain from this and and and change up how I respond,3:38 then maybe we're gonna get somewhere. Maybe we're gonna have a better outcome.3:41 Well, I know, you know, I had I have 3 children and they're all grown now, but when they were still in the house and still, you know, there's a3:53 scripture that describes it. A brother was born for adversity. And I mean kids just get on 1 another's nerves. Right? They're wonderful and4:04 terrible. And I felt like judge Judy often because they would say, mom, this 1 said this and that 1 said that. And and my husband and I would tell our4:16 3 children, don't let them know where your goat is. Don't let them get your goat. Just stay calm and they won't know that it upsets you because the whole reason4:27 they're trying to do this is because they want to get your goat. They want to push the button. And it's the same way with the devil. He wants you to be upset. He wants you to be4:39 tumultuous in your life. He wants you to to to live in that angst that is anger. Yeah. You know? Because like the bible says, be angry but sin not. Yeah. And4:51 so how do we keep ourselves from sin when things are so easy to get mad at. Right? Right. You just get so upset It's the beta5:03 Satan,5:03 and then you feel like you're on for that whole loop, you know, when you're laughing and you're talking about your kids. My kids, 2 boys, I had to adopt a do you need an ambulance policy because blood.5:15 Yes. They would be like, mom, mom. And I would be like, okay. It's his story, his story, and then there's the actual truth which is somewhere in the middle. And so I when they would yell this, I'm like, okay. Wait. If5:25 you don't need an ambulance, if you're not dying and bloody and need an ambulance, then you guys work it out because otherwise, you're both gonna it's there's a this is a party of 2. So you're both gonna wind up in time5:37 out or something over this this fight. And then you would hear later after I adopted this policy, mom, and then you'd hear, stop. Don't don't tell because, you know, we're both gonna get in trouble, and they would work5:48 it out. And so I think that that's how the Lord wants. If you know, you know, the Bible says even with there's a divisive person in your life, you know, the Bible says, warn them once, warn6:00 them twice, and then have nothing more to do with them. And that doesn't mean that, you know, maybe this divisive person is, you know, in your house. But what it means is you're not gonna engage this6:12 anymore because it's useless. You know, at a certain point, you're throwing pearls to pigs because they're not hearing you. They're not gonna listen. They're not gonna change because it you can't change somebody, but you6:23 can pray. And so when you say, Lord, help me to handle this. Help me to not lose my temper over this. Help me to know how to handle this situation. And sometimes, the best thing to do is6:35 just to say nothing. It's just to walk away. It's just to to not have this desire to always be right. You know, to just know sometimes, you know, you're gonna agree to6:47 disagree, and you're gonna stay out of strife, and you're gonna just ask the Lord to work on their hearts and and walk away.6:54 Well, know, in my family, we we there were arguments and the way we handled things was different than my husband's family. So they7:06 were calm, they they went to church, they were very like almost English Yeah. In how they handled things. Like I couldn't believe it. Like you you know, no 1 was saying it, you know, anything really7:18 terrible to the other person. And so when Troy and I married he I remember him at 1 point saying to me, no we're not going7:30 to argue like that. That's not how we're going to handle things. Because I had developed over the years and I've shared with you guys my testimony that you know, no 1 in my7:42 family was saved. I got saved at 7 but you know, I wasn't really discipled. They all got saved eventually. But I had learned those patterns of being temperamental and upset7:53 unnecessarily even. And Troy was saying that's enough. You've got to handle these things differently. And so then I thought, okay, I8:05 will. But it was a lot harder than I thought. It really was. Like, if you go through some of my Bibles, you can go through certain years when I read this Bible or that Bible, some of the years, God8:17 was really dealing with me about handling my temper and all of the scriptures in the bible that are about anger or you know that that that an angry man can inherit8:28 a foolishness and folly and all these things, it's all underlined. The anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. All of those scriptures are underlined because8:40 God really had to deal with me about that. And when we come back, we'll talk more about that.8:47 The world needs to be reached with the message of Jesus. And that is the mission of Grace Grace with Naina and Michelle. To see people's lives change with the saving power of Jesus8:58 Christ. When you donate to Grace Grace Ministries, you're also reaching orphans and the underprivileged throughout the world, as well as the United States. The Bible says that when we help the least, the forgotten and9:10 the overlooked, we have done something for Jesus himself. Will you be a part of what God is doing to help those in need and those who are hungering to hear the real message of Jesus? Give today by logging9:22 on to naina and michelle dot com or text the word give to 3 2 5 6 0 3 3 3 5 4. You can also send in a check to 63 15 b f m 14 88 road9:34 number 1 22 Magnolia, Texas 7 7 3 5 4. Grace Grace Ministries is a 5 0 1 c 3 charitable organization. Gifts are tax deductible, so join us in the great commission9:45 today. Give now.9:49 Welcome back to Grace Grace with Naina and Michelle. We're talking about how do you handle your tempers. Don't get don't let the sun go down on your anger. And, I I think about10:00 don't let your emotions be your decision maker. And that is so key because sometimes when your your temper's flaring, when the strife is happening, and when you're10:12 angry, you you might throw out a sentence that you could regret forever. Yeah. Like because it's weird that you could be a deal breaker. You cannot take back your words. Right. And so10:24 I think that is the warning to not get so angry and not lose your temper because you should be so watch what you say, and I know like the holy spirit will stop me like, don't say it, don't do10:36 it. You know, you're so tempted because you're so mad and you think you're right. And, you know, it's does it doesn't matter because it it all that matters is that you follow God's word and when he says10:48 don't get angry, don't don't do that, don't allow yourself to lose your temper, that you have to step back and you have to say, you know, is this about me being right or is this about me that I'm11:00 going to listen to the Lord? Because at the end of the day, that's what we want and that's you being right, you throwing out that sentence that could just really really hurt somebody and and yet sometimes when you're11:12 mad that's all you care about. You just want to hurt them back because maybe you're hurting and that's never gonna that's never gonna change anything. That is gonna make it worse. That's gonna cause a cycle and it's11:23 gonna cause deep hurts. You know, somebody could say a zillion nice things to you and compliment you and then hurt you so deeply with some very serious thing, and then you are not gonna11:35 forget that. And and you're gonna have to work on forgiving that or asking for forgiveness. And, you know, so many people say, oh, I was just kidding. You know, they'll say something mean and terrible and go, well, I was11:47 just mad. I was kidding. But the bible says, from the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. And so if you're tempted to say these bad things or you just wanna hurt somebody or you wanna get that last11:59 sentence in, you have to ask yourself and ask the Lord, what's really going on in my heart? What is my heart saying right now? And again, don't let those emotions be your decision maker in12:11 that moment. Let let the bible be your decision maker.12:15 Well, and and, you know, it's it's a form of pride to answer harshly.12:20 Mhmm.12:21 You know, because, you know, you you you've heard people say, I'm just gonna give them a piece of my mind. You know, I mean, seriously, people say that and sometimes I think that you must not have any12:32 left because you're always giving a piece of your mind. Everybody needs to hear it. Exactly. And, you know, and and we can be right and12:44 not say it. Sometimes you just have to put it on a shelf, you know, especially now that I have grown kids, you know, now when they're saying something and I know the scripture,12:56 I know that, you know, God does not agree with what they're saying, but and I know I'm right because I'm standing on the word of God. But, you know, the Bible13:08 says be quick to listen, slow to speak Mhmm. And slow to anger. And seriously, my heart sometimes when I can when I13:20 hear something that they're saying, what I what happens is I know they're in error, you know, and when when I hear it and it makes me afraid. And so13:32 because I'm afraid Yes. I feel Yeah. Angry. It's a secondary emotion.13:38 Mhmm.13:38 And so that fear is really the opposite of faith. So when I hear it, I think, okay. Now I'm getting better at it. It's been many, many years, many highlighted bibles, many going13:50 over those scriptures over and over and changing the way I live, changing the pattern, shifting everything, but I do believe14:02 that it is just so much better. So when I hear someone say something in error, I think, okay God, you're gonna have to deal with their heart14:14 or they are not going to get it because it's a revelation.14:18 Mhmm.14:19 The bible and the word is a revelation. So what you really need to do is keep your mouth closed, now you know how to pray. Nag the Lord, not them.14:28 Well, there also, the word of God is alive. And so so many times, if you just if you would just speak the word, just a scripture. And a lot of a lot of the ways you can14:40 handle things or say, you know what, you know, all I know is what the word says. So, you know, I'm sorry you're dealing with that right now, but guess what? This is what the word says. And I have to go by what the word14:51 says. And it sort of it sort of takes you out of the conflict and lets let that word speak over them because God's word is alive and it speaks and it is always there, and15:03 that's how the whole world began was was God spoke it. And so, when you are speaking the word, it's like you're you're praying that word over the situation and that can give them pause. You're planting15:15 seeds even though they might yeah butter it up and say yeah but yeah but but what I do know is that when you see somebody even if you're you're even if you're say say you walk in and someone's having a fit about15:26 something else like maybe somebody's mad at the news or somebody's having a bad day in some other regard and you're feeling that strife coming off of them, you know, instead of like just say, you know what? Let's calm15:38 down. Let's pray about this. What does the word say about this? And, you know, the the world is never gonna be changed by your opinion, but the world could be changed by your example. And so15:50 when you do things That's with the example of Jesus what would Jesus do in this situation? How would he handle this? And when you when you just come at it with the16:02 word of God, and and you know, you can we can hear some pretty crazy things from from youth today, and from kids, and from our kids friends, or whatever things are going on, but when you say, you know what? This is what16:14 the word says, and and there is nothing that can ever come against God's word no matter what they think. God's word is truth and every man a liar. So when you speak those words with16:26 faith and a gentleness, you know, that's gonna begin to work on them. It's gonna begin to work on their hearts. They're those you're planting seeds instead of just being part of the16:37 escalation of of anger and tempers. Right.16:41 Yeah. You always wanna de escalate things and my husband Troy is the king of de escalation. I mean, he really knows how he is. He's very calm. That16:52 that was something that really attracted me to him because I really didn't like the commotion that I grew up with. So I was attracted to that demeanor, and and and he does seem to17:04 know how to shift the atmosphere with a soft word. And a soft word, the bible says, it it changes wrath. It turns wrath around. And17:16 so you wanna make sure that even if you're not feeling it, you don't have to do exactly what you feel, that you obey God's word. In those moments when you don't17:28 feel like it, you a kind word softens wrath. Mhmm. And so always remember that, and when we come back, we'll talk more about that.17:39 The world needs to be reached with the message of Jesus. And that is the mission of Grace Grace with Naina and Michelle. To see people's lives change with the saving power of Jesus Christ.17:51 When you donate to Grace Grace Ministries, you're also reaching orphans and the underprivileged throughout the world, as well as the United States. The Bible says that when we help the least, the forgotten and the18:02 overlooked, we have done something for Jesus himself. Will you be a part of what God is doing to help those in need and those who are hungering to hear the real message of Jesus? Give today by logging18:14 on to naina and michelle dot com or text the word give to 3 2 5 6 0 3 3 3 5 4. You can also send in a check to 63 15 b f m 14 88 road18:26 number 1 22 Magnolia, Texas 7 7 3 5 4. Grace Grace Ministries is a 5 0 1 c 3 charitable organization. Gifts are tax deductible, so join us in the great commission18:38 today. Give now.18:41 Welcome back to Grace Grace with Naina and Michelle. We're talking about anger and tempers and all of that stuff that every 1 of us deals with. And so what does God think about all of this? Like, what18:52 is he saying to do about that? Like you know when the bible says that, you know you know if you think about Satan being the accuser of the brethren, and so he's gonna come at you with with you know,19:04 oh, I'm so mad at this ex whether it's a child or your spouse or a coworker or whatever. God is is saying that that we are to walk in faith. We're to stand no matter19:16 what and know that God's word is truth that no matter what the accuser of the brethren is saying, no matter what you're hearing him accuse you of or say or talk or bring up or bring up past things that, you know,19:28 beating a dead horse and all those things. What are you gonna do? Are you gonna remain calm? Are you gonna stand in peace? Stand for peace. And no matter what, just say, you know what? Sometimes19:40 it's just better to apologize. Sometimes you just say, you know what? Let's just I'm sorry. I'm sorry for whatever you think right now. I've if if I made you feel this way. Sometimes just19:52 if you were the bigger person and just just just throw out an apology, you can just absolutely bring that whole fight to a halt by that. And sometimes you just if you20:04 say it again, I'm sorry you feel that way. I didn't realize I was hurting your feelings that way. But on the other hand, there's things that we have to stay away from. There's there's times when the bible20:16 says sometimes you just have to be done. What does darkness have to do with light? There's times where maybe somebody at work or somebody that you just know you are not to be around that person, you don't want20:27 what they're doing getting into your spirit, you don't want that anymore. You don't wanna be part of that. Like, you there's a certain point that you're throwing pearls to pigs and you just need to walk away, and20:39 sometimes it's just okay to be done because because God says just walk away. He says that what does evil have to do with good? What does darkness have to do with20:51 light? You can be an example, you can try your best, but as I said, do not engage in some of this evil. It's sometimes it's just time to be done and it's just time to walk away.21:00 Well, and you know, an angry man, the bible says don't hang out with an angry you know, and and an angry man does not mean that they're fiery red hot because on the opposite side, you can have a21:12 passive aggressive anger. Yeah. And that is also dangerous and very hurtful and it causes people to feel rejected. And so you need to watch all anger and21:24 whether you're explosive or whether you are passive aggressive, both are very damaging and it's like a bomb detonated in a relationship. And21:36 so both sides of the fence can can be watched. And God wants us to walk so closely to21:48 him that he's speaking to us while these people are talking or while these situations are going on. And you know, I I've shared this on the last several22:00 shows, you know, that God really has been dealing with me about what does it mean to clothe yourself in humility? What does it mean to seek righteousness? What22:11 does it mean to walk humbly before God? And you know what? To walk humbly before God, we have to say, God your word is true. And so the wisdom of22:23 of God is first and foremost found in peace. Mhmm. And so if you're not living in peace, you know, did your did your parents did you ever hear them say, all I want22:35 is peace and quiet? And I don't get it. You know, if you want peace and quiet, then you can't control what the other person is doing, but you can control how you are responding to it.22:47 And if you will respond with the word even if you're not feeling it, you may be upset, you know, but it's like it says, be angry and sin not. Mhmm. You can feel22:59 upset, but don't sin,23:01 you know. Well, it's about breaking patterns and sometimes, you know, you're not you're not meant to rebuild a bond that you didn't break. And sometimes, you know, we23:13 have to stop with all of that. Like sometimes there's just a brokenness in someone else that no matter what you do or say, it's you're not gonna you don't have the ability to change another person, but God23:25 does. And so sometimes if if there's a a the same old sort of song and dance, the same old cycle or the same old circle because, you know,23:37 they do this and you do this and you respond like this and it keeps going in that same pattern. Unless and until even you, even if you know you're you're doing the right things, sometimes you need to step away23:48 because you are not gonna be able to fix that person. You are not gonna be able to do 1 thing but God. And so sometimes just be strong, stand on the word, know that God's got it,24:00 pray more than you're complaining about it. You know, the bible says that God God inhabits the praises of his people. God inhabits our24:12 praise. So who's inhabiting our complaining? Think about that. Who's inhabiting lives?24:19 Strife Yeah. Which is what happens when you do all these things opens the door to every kind of wickedness. Yes. If you have all kinds of of wickedness in your life, maybe it's you open the door to strife24:31 and let's lock it back and replace it with peace.24:34 And you have to disallow what the devil's trying to do and let letting that be in your in your environment. You know, you're the 1 who gets to set the stage for what you're allowing in your life. You24:46 stay in peace. You stay in prayer. You stay in worship, and you just ask the Lord, I can't fix this. I can't change this heart of this person. I can't do this, but Lord, you can. And and24:58 even if it's a like right now, you know, we can't change the news, and we can't change all of society and the way things are happening right now, and it seems like evil is winning.25:10 But guess what? The devil may be winning some battles, but God wins the war. Amen. And let's pray about that. We're gonna pray about that and get to the bottom of this right now.25:19 We're done. Lord, we thank you that you are shifting any anger issue that anyone has that is listening or watching right now. God, that you're going to deliver them from25:31 this evil and that from this moment on, they are going to be delivered from a spirit of anger and from rage and from anything that is hindering them in the holy spirit we pray. In Jesus25:43 name, Amen.25:45 We love you guys and we are so grateful for you. We're loving all your support and your emails and you know, head on over. We have a couple of podcasts. We have Grace Grace with Naina and Michelle, Naina Keegan25:57 Ministries. 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