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Correction vs. Rejection: Understanding God's Love 0:02 We wanna honor God because He sees everything.0:10 You were born with a plan and a purpose. He's the God of all things possible. He's the God of all0:22 miracles.0:52 Welcome to Grace Grace with Naina Michelle. I'm Michelle Humphreys.0:55 And I am Naina Keegan. Welcome to the broadcast today. Today, we're gonna be talking about correction versus rejection and what the difference is because so many people1:07 have an issue with this. Like, you know, myself included, I'm preaching to myself, is that, you know, when the Lord, you know, corrects us, when it's so gentle, it's so kind, that a lot of1:19 times, you know, we might take offense to it in a small way or feel like we did something wrong and feel all the shame. You know, it's let me just tell you, every1:30 day we all mess up. It is like we are every day we are as filthy rags, Every day, we are in need of a savior. We are in need of the blood of Jesus to cover over us. And for him to gently1:42 gently, you know, just just convict us. He doesn't condemn us. He doesn't, you know, he's never, like, so mad at us that he he isn't gonna love us through whatever the problem is. You know, maybe it's just your attitude.1:54 Maybe it's whatever it is that God is trying to, to to show you where you're in error or where that you might be stalling out on hearing from Him2:06 or receiving His blessings because He wants us to have everything that Jesus died for us to have. And so, we want to, like, kind of figure out where we're gone, you know,2:18 maybe we've gone astray a little bit, maybe we're off a little bit in some way. And so, we're gonna see what the difference is because when God gently convicts us, he is never rejecting us. That is the biggest lie from2:30 the devil because he God loves us. He loves us with an everlasting love, and you are just not powerful enough to be able to do something too bad that God can't forgive you. And so we just wanna remind you of that today,2:42 and we're gonna talk all about that. Amen. Correction is not rejection.2:47 Exactly. And the Bible talks about how the Lord addresses us as sons and daughters, and that, that He corrects those that He loves.2:59 So when the Lord is beginning to correct you, don't feel rejected by the Lord. And and so many of us have maybe not had examples from our parents3:11 or from school teachers. I mean, I think about Lord. School teachers, have mercy. Do you know how much your authority is how you have? Lord, have3:23 mercy. I'm serious. You know, I mean, I could I was I was talking about this this weekend. We went to see family, and, 1 of our fourth grade teachers3:35 called called my brother stupid. She got mad at him and called him stupid, and all I heard was, you know, my dad peeling out. Peeling out. We had a gravel driveway, a3:47 long gravel driveway, and you could hear we know that that L'Oreal Hill is everywhere. My brother and I walked in, and we told our dad, and that3:59 was it. And he went up, and we don't know. The rest is history. As far as we know, she never did it again. But, I mean, that is the wrong kind of correction. You might be frustrated with a kid, and he certainly4:12 was not, you know, he's a very, very smart guy. You know, she was just frustrated, and that was an option to her. So it's like, I couldn't believe it, and that's not something4:24 that my parents actually, even though this is raised in a dysfunctional home, that isn't how they corrected us. They didn't correct us by calling us stupid or, in humiliating4:36 ways. They were actually pretty good for being as dysfunctional as a family as we were. It was actually pretty healthy, the way that they disciplined us, and I'm so grateful because it is easier to4:48 take correction, and it can be hard because, you know, you wanna do something right, and I know, you know, that sometimes, you know, especially Troy, my husband,5:00 when he tells me something, I wanna slap back, you know, and that's not healthy. That is something that we need to take correction, and on the other5:11 hand, you know, so does he, but Oh, here's the thing. In any marriage, right?5:18 I mean, it is, of course, But, you know, at the same time, like like, your me growing up, I I did not hear a kind word, whether it was from my parents or the school I attended. And, you5:30 always heard things like you're dumb, you're stupid, they don't amount to any amount to nothing. And, you know, I think about things, and as a little child, you know, you look to the you have no choice but to the5:41 parents you were placed with or the school you're going to. Like, that is who's surrounding you. And so what are you hearing constantly? And it's still to this day, those names, you know, are still5:53 they still ring in my voice a lot of times. Like, so so, you know, we have such a big responsibility for, like, our children and and for our spouses. And for, like, if there's6:05 chaos and arguing or if there's name calling or strife or anger, anger in a home, it can change the course of a child's life or a family's life through anger. And, you know,6:17 it can cause that anger to just multiply into the child can take that on, and then it becomes like a generational pattern of some kind. And so, you6:29 know, there's a pause button. Now, if you think about how Jesus would correct us, He's never gonna come and shame you, He's never gonna yell at you, He's never gonna get angry6:41 and bring fear on you, because we're we we don't wanna bring fear, like, to our children either, like, you know, or to our or anyone, a loved 1 of any kind. You know, because Jesus, he6:52 he he brings he he can just convict you with love. Love and mercy and grace and kindness. And so think about just think about this for a second. You know, Jesus says that, think about you7:04 being a parent, right? And, you know, you tell your child he can't go outside or something's up, you know, and yet the kid doesn't listen and he runs outside. And then he's outside7:16 and you see where he almost gets hit by a car or something's happening because he did not listen to you. And yet your first reaction would be to, you know, to yell and scream at this kid. But aren't you7:28 gonna first hug him and say, Thank God you're okay. You know, and then we're gonna have a talk about this. Like, I'm so glad you're okay. And, you know, then later there could be, like, a consequence. Now, you know, now7:39 you're not gonna go outside, you know, for the rest of the afternoon. There's gonna be something, but it's never gonna be screaming and yelling, and everything needs to be done in love. But you're never gonna be like,7:51 you did something wrong, I don't wanna see you ever again, you're done, because that's the problem that people have. They think they've done too much wrong for God to love them. That is such a chronic problem8:02 that people think that that God doesn't love me, I just messed up too much. Are you kidding? We all are every day, we fall short. Every single day. And yet, God just is standing right there saying, I love you,8:14 let's work on this. You know? Or he's gonna tell you, You need a little attitude adjustment? Like, I feel like that's my conviction.8:23 And I do need an attitude adjustment.8:24 And I will get that conviction, and I know, because I'll read it in the Bible, and I'm like, That's me, I need to hear that today. And so that's how He is. But He's I'm sorry. He's never gonna say, you did too much wrong8:36 or yell at you. And so we need to take those cues and bring them into our own lives. And that goes for a spouse, a child, a grown up child, a little child, anything that you're dealing with, or even, you know,8:48 some kind of spat with a sibling or a friend.8:51 Right. And we are gonna come right back.Healing from Rejection: Embracing God's Love 8:54 Hello, everyone. I'm excited to announce the next generation of energy drinks, Rev 7. It has no sugar and no caffeine. Instead, Rev 7 uses GoBHB.9:06 GoBHB is 1 of the body's primary ketones, and it provides the most efficient and clean fuel that your body needs. It also helps you stay energized all day with no crashes.9:18 Not only that, it produces 3 times more brain energy than sugar, which helps boost your memory, focus, and mental sharpness. It also helps reduce stress and helps balance your mood.9:30 Rev 7 does all that while being the best tasting energy drink ever. So go to my pillow dot com or call the number on your screen. Use your promo code to save 20 percent today. I'm so sure9:42 you're gonna love Rev 7. For a limited time, you get our introductory 3 pack absolutely free. I drink Rev 7 every day, and I absolutely love it, and so will you.9:55 Welcome back. You are watching Grace Grace with Nina and Michelle. We're talking today about how correction is not always rejection. And so are are you 1 of these people, you know,10:06 like, if somebody's got something to say, maybe they're saying something, criticizing even something, maybe you made for dinner, or something, maybe you've got some kind of critical spirit around you. Do you jump to10:18 the offensive and do you take that on? Or do you take constructive criticism? Like maybe something that you're like, okay, I see you or I can make that better, or you're right about that, or, you10:30 know, like, how are you with that? Because maybe somebody around you is telling you something because they love you and because they want they see something.10:41 Well, and the Bible says that a fool will slap back at correction, and I've been both, you know, I have been the fool, and I have been the wise 1. It just depends on the day. And I'm10:53 getting better as I've gotten older, you know, but seriously, you know, I always thought when I was a child, you know, you get these, mentalities, and,11:06 I always thought, you know, I cannot do anything to stop this train wreck that is happening in my house. I I I think that, you know, I've shared with11:18 I'm sure you've heard the story, but my my father was an alcoholic, but he was a a good man. He wasn't a bad man. He just was a very severe alcoholic, and I could see it happening.11:30 And, I mean, he died when I was 17 at 40, of of he he was detoxing off of alcohol, and it killed him. It's called DTs.11:43 And so, I was watching this whole train wreck. So in my mind, even though my dad always said he loved me, he oh, he called me super shell. He was always so11:54 sweet to me. I don't ever remember him saying 1 negative thing to me ever about me personally. So I'm grateful for that because I hear Christians talk about how their12:06 dad talked to them, and I think, oh my goodness. How did you stand how did you bear up? But I guess in my mind, I always thought if I could just try to be perfect, you know, like, if I could do12:18 everything right, then then maybe I I know I can't stop him from drinking, and I can't stop my mom from enabling, and I can't stop all these things that are going on around12:30 my life, but maybe if I could just do my part. And so it was very important to me to try to be like, to do everything right. So when someone told me something, you know,12:42 because I had tried so hard, it would hurt my feelings. I mean, really hurt my feelings. And and and Troy, you know, my head,12:49 but took it as rejection. I took it as rejection.12:51 Yeah. And when Troy would talk to me when we first got married, we got married young, and he really we didn't know. We had never heard about PTSD, but I had it. I had PTSD,13:03 from the way I was raised and all that I went through, and he really handled it graciously. And I remember the first time I tried to argue or pop back, he was like, hey. Hey. We're not gonna talk like13:15 that. And he had been raised in a godly home, and, you know, I mean, seriously. So for years, he he had worked with me on, you know, not going,13:27 what do you mean? You know, I was trying so hard, and I would get so hurt, and I saw it as rejection, you know. So and it wasn't, it wasn't rejection.13:36 It's patterns. And it is always what the devil wants to do. He recognizes the patterns. And, you know, it's like those things, if you don't recognize those, and you can ask the Lord, Please13:48 help me in this area to to recognize the pattern so I don't repeat them. I don't wanna keep doing these things. I don't wanna keep living in anger because a lot of that sows into being angry about14:00 things because you do think you can't do anything right and or you live in fear, you have anxiety, because rejection will bring that on. You're fearful of what others14:12 think. You start to fear, you know, like, being in public or what people will say, and it's it's just what the devil wants. And then before you know it, he's got you, you know, that you're14:23 you're you're not you don't wanna step out. You're very critical. You have a critical spirit. A lot of times, a critical spirit will be, what you you're criticizing everything to make yourself feel better because of your14:35 own insecurities from rejection. Right. And so there's there's so many things that come along with that. But when we when we can we can ask the Lord to point these things out in us14:46 and that we can give it back to him to to help heal us from those things and to to deliver us from those things. Because, you know, all of these things are what the devil loves. He knows that14:58 if that's a certain button for you, you know, that what's gonna, you know, bring on anger or your insecurities, he's gonna keep presenting you with those situations. And unless you pass the test and say, you know what?15:10 I'm not I'm not buying this. I'm not gonna go down this road. The buck stops with me. I'm not gonna keep doing this. I'm not gonna bring this on in my family or my my my work environment or whatever it15:22 is. And you can make a decision and a choice that you're gonna bind any spirit of rejection off of you, you're gonna take your authority over that, and you're gonna say, my security comes15:34 from the Lord. It is not from I'm not a human doing. I don't have to be perfect. I I just get to trust the Lord with everything, and he loves me in spite of myself,15:46 and He's gonna help me get through this. And when you start to realize that, because the people who have hurt you or the reason you are having this situation or in the situation in the first place are because15:58 that's an imperfect person as well. They hurt people hurt people. And so we can be the ones who now change that, who can stop these patterns and16:09 just decide that you're you're not gonna believe this, you're not gonna listen to this, I don't have to keep going down this road, I don't have to live with the spirit of rejection or fear or anxiety. I can let God16:21 gently correct me, show me where I'm off, where I need his help and guidance, and he will restore me. And you can pray that over your children and and and anything that you need. Amen.16:33 And and and when you think about it, Satan himself is the rejector in chief. That is what he does. The Bible calls him the accuser of the brethren. Yep. He is the father of16:45 lies. Yeah. So when you begin to hear that that voice that is outside because the Holy Spirit speaks from inside, but that outside voice that is like, you're worthless.16:57 You're not good for anything. Where are you even going with your life? I mean, just on and on, when you hear that, command it to stop. Yeah. Because that is not your17:09 father. The father your father God loved you so much that he sent his only son to die on a cross so that you could have17:21 eternal life and that you could live a life abundantly Yes. And to have a good life, 1 free from fear because God does not give us a spirit of fear and 1 that is victorious.Living in Love: God's Correction and Our Relationships 17:33 And that's how God wants us to live, and we will not take any will not have it any other way. And we'll come back in just a moment.17:41 Hello, everyone. I'm excited to announce the next generation of energy drinks, Rev 7. It has no sugar and no caffeine. Instead, Rev 7 uses go b17:53 h b. Go b h b is 1 of the body's primary ketones, and it provides the most efficient and clean fuel that your body needs. It also helps you stay energized all day with no18:05 crashes. Not only that, it produces 3 times more brain energy than sugar, which helps boost your memory, focus, and mental sharpness. It also helps reduce stress and helps balance your18:17 mood. Rev 7 does all that while being the best tasting energy drink ever. So go to my pillow dot com or call the number on your screen. Use your promo code to save 20 percent today.18:29 I'm so sure you're gonna love Rev 7. For a limited time, you get our introductory 3 pack absolutely free. I drink Rev 7 every day, and I absolutely love it, and so will you.18:42 Welcome back to Grace Grace with Nina and Michelle. And today, we're talking about, you know, whether it's rejection or correction, and what is what is the difference? And I have a couple of really cool18:53 scriptures. You know, Matthew 7 15 warns against a hypocritical judgment and encourages self reflection. And the same kinda goes for,19:05 Galatians six:one says, restore others gently through love while examining your own self, examining oneself. And, you know, James 5 19 through 20, the19:17 importance of bringing someone back to the truth in love. That means you can you know, whether a wayward child, whatever, by love. That's how they're going to respond,19:29 not shut down. You know, you can fight with your spouse with love, you know, not name calling, not not screaming, yelling, not any of those things. That is never going to work, and it's19:40 never going to be out bring out the victory that you want or need because it's not done in love. It's not done in the way God would have you do it, you know. And so imagine if you gently spoke19:52 things and say, you know, let's work on this. I love you. What can we do to fix this? Like, really get into the loving part of of correction the same way that20:04 Jesus would do for us. And if we could follow that example by simply saying, would Jesus be happy with the way I'm treating my spouse or my child right now? Would he be happy with20:16 my performance, my behavior, my attitude? And when you know that it's he's you're gonna feel no because you're gonna feel a conviction, then you ask him to help you with that. Say, help me do better. Help me to20:28 just and let me just tell you an apology, sincere apology can go so, so, so far. When you say and I'm telling you, if20:40 you start to try it, if you just say, you know what? I am so, so sorry I hurt you. I am sorry that I spoke like that, I am sorry that I had a bad attitude, there is no excuse, can you please forgive20:52 me? Even if you don't feel like you were wrong, but if you can say that because your response might have been wrong in the situation, and you can say, I should have responded better, I'm very21:03 sorry, and I love you, and I wanna work this out, and it can change everything. The devil hates apologies.21:09 Well, and do you ever, like, are you ever in a bad mood, and your spouse is in a good mood, or vice versa? You know? Like, the Bible talks about how a soft answer21:21 turns away wrath. Yes.21:22 So when we're speaking to people, we don't want them to feel rejected. You know, you know, in the South, we have the sweet bittersweet method,21:33 where21:33 you say something nice, then you get to the point, and then you say something nice, so you surround it. And with with, you know, that way, they're they don't feel like they're21:45 they're being rejected. You also we we all need to give people a way out, you know, because just because your child left something on the floor doesn't mean they hate you,21:57 or that they're rejecting all parental advice, you know, so we we have to keep it in perspective, and we need to make sure that we're not too hard on people when on our22:09 especially our children like the Bible talks about when we're too hard on our children the Bible says don't exasperate your children because you will cause them to be sullen, morose. This22:20 causes all kinds of issues later, and they begin to hear your voice, not just the devil's voice because the devil has used, you know, this voice that should have been kind to them22:33 to attack them. And Breaks their spirit. Person. Breaks their spirit, and it causes all kinds of issues. And so then the child will feel rejected, And22:45 so we never want our children to feel rejected. I mean, my goodness, when you consider how much you love your children, you know, how in the world can they ever feel rejected? You22:57 know, I always tell my kids, you know, if you knew how much I loved you, you'd blow up because you can't even hold it. It's impossible that you you can't even hold it all because I do. I just feel23:09 Exactly.23:09 Feel I just I adore them. It really doesn't matter what they're doing. I mean, I get mad or whatever, but nothing takes on Exactly. Takes over that love that I23:20 have from my child. Just like God. You can't you can't do anything that would cause him to stop loving you. And it's like, you know, we've gone through all the teenage years and the hardships and everything23:32 with our kids. Does any of it has any of it changed our love for them? No. We've loved them through it. And it's how it's how it is in this with with our loving father. And so God's correction23:44 in your life is never a rejection, just like you are not gonna reject your own kids. But but maybe let's recognize where we haven't corrected in love. And let's try to have23:56 And if it's the Lord correcting us, we better listen because it says if we don't listen to the Lord correcting us and we remain stiff necked, then we can be destroyed. So, God,24:08 there's a very fiery end to not listening to the Lord's correction. Now is the day of salvation. Now is the time to make those changes that God is saying, hey, make some changes.24:20 Yeah. So with that, we're gonna pray, and we're gonna pray that you would just know, you know, that God would gently correct you in wherever you need it.24:29 Amen. So, Lord, we call upon you. Let us gain your Holy Spirit perspective on correction and rejection, and that, God, that that everyone24:41 that is listening would feel the love of the father. Lord, your precious love for them, I pray that you would flood the room wherever they are, flood the car, Lord, wherever they are,24:52 just fill their spirits with your love and and the understanding of your love. We pray this in Jesus' name, amen.Rejecting Rejection: Embracing God's Healing 25:01 Amen. And I pray for heal healing and wholeness in any brokenness in anyone out there that God would heal your heart, heal any brokenness, any spirit of rejection. We take our25:12 authority over it, and we cast it out in Jesus' name never to return. And we ask for the healing balm of Gilead to just fill up any place in your heart that has been wounded or hurt, past hurts,25:24 childhood hurts, and that you would walk in a new place of joy and love and grace, that you would extend those to others, into anybody that might have hurt you25:36 or anybody that, you know, you might have authority over, that you would be able to extend that same kind of mercy. And we pray that over over you for Jesus to be completely healed. And we we pray25:48 that over ourselves too, that we always wanna walk in the love and mercy of the Lord. So thank you for joining us today. We just love our viewers and our partners, and we're so grateful for you guys, all26:00 of you, and just for, you know, all the wonderful messages we get, and we love hearing from you what God's doing in your life. You might have a praise report or a prayer request. We're happy to just get with you on that26:10 and pray with you. You can find us all over. You can go to YouTube. You can go to Grace Grace with Nina and Michelle in Google. You can find us on pray dot com. You can binge watch us there, any subjects you might need.26:22 We love you guys. Stay tuned. You're gonna wanna hear from Daryl Youngblood. We love you. God bless.26:28 Why do atheists care so much about Christians anyway? Well, they'll tell you this. Religion is bad. It's the cause of most wars. But again, evidence shows differently. It shows26:40 that out of 1763 documented wars, only a hundred and 23 were due to religion. That's between 6 and 7 percent. When you take out Islam, that only leaves 326:51 percent of all wars that could be attributed to religion.26:59 Does science disprove God? Is there a war between science and faith?27:04 We don't need God to create a universe. There's no evidence for God, and it's irrational. Is I delusional for my beliefs? Am I brainwashed? Do I ignore reason?27:13 Logic. Critical thinking. Science.27:29 RDOF uses logic and reasoning. RDOF has empowered my sons to defend their faith with facts.27:37 If you want to be equipped to defend against the biggest objections to the existence of God, RDOF is the place for you.27:47 Has science really ruled out God? Is faith at war with science? If you wanna be equipped to respond to these claims and more, check out r d o f dot org.28:05 The evidence he presents is so powerful and overwhelming.28:08 Incredibly compelling, yet easily understandable.28:12 We believe in rationality. We believe in reason. We believe in science, and we believe in the existence of God. To book a presentation or watch our free videos, go28:24 to r d o f dot org or find us on Facebook at RDOF events.In this video 0:00 Correction vs. Rejection: Understanding God's Love8:53 Healing from Rejection: Embracing God's Love17:33 Living in Love: God's Correction and Our Relationships25:01 Rejecting Rejection: Embracing God's HealingInterview With Frankie Mazzapica (Part 2) Nina & Michelle
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