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A Journey of Faith and Purpose 0:06 I wanted to be a mechanic. I was fishing for a little bit to make some money, but the plans of God were not of that stuff. The plan of God was for me to to play0:18 baseball. The town that I grew was tough town. Tough town. You know, I mean, only by the mercy of God that I'm here talking about that, you know. In school, I was a lot in trouble fighting0:30 stuff. Kids, you know how kids are, you know, bullying and pushing you to the limit and I wasn't about to be pushed. If you push me, I was answering back and that was always fighting.0:45 So I end up working with my father. I was doing that just to save some money and finish and learn my trade of, auto mechanic. Baseball wasn't in my mind. Was just something that I love, yes.0:57 But not something that I wanted to do as a career. I was 20 years old playing for my home team and, we needed to win this game. Our best pitcher was getting1:09 beat at the time. We had no more pitchers. And I said, well, I pitch. You know, pitching and throwing is different things. I find myself throwing, but look like I was pitching. So we end up winning1:21 the game. 2 weeks after that, we were coming from the beach. I noticed 2 guys in front of my house and they were my 2 teammates. I asked, what you guys doing here? He said, oh, we we got you1:33 try out with the Yankees. With the Yankees, do what? Pitch? I said, man, I never pitch. He said, well, you did good that day. I said, well, I did, but I didn't know how to pitch. I told him, notice that my shoes is1:45 ripped. I need a new shoes. I need glove. I didn't have a glove. So he said, well, I will give you all that, you know, just come. I arrived to the stadium, then I saw1:57 the coach. They made me throw first. So I end up throwing 3 innings, no hits. Punch out like 4 guys and smell like roses. They like what I did, you know? So I mean, the next day, this2:09 cow sign me. They signed me for the New York Yankees. So I left. Panel, picture this, I never left my country. Never been in a plane. Never been nowhere else. Never. Never.2:20 Barely spoke Spanish. Forget about English. You know? So when I signed, that's when everything hit me. My whole life just just it was kinda like, a waking and the same time, a shock at the same2:32 time. I wasn't there when she2:44 got the news I was working, you know, so some friend of mine, his wife was with us, And, they invited her to, women's retreat that they have at the church. At that2:56 point, we were Christian. I knew that something was happening in our lives. Something the Lord was trying to cut our attention. We couldn't pinpoint, but we know that something was happening.3:08 Well, the Lord healed my son. My son now is playing baseball.3:22 I was in Tampa at the time. The preacher, made the altar call. I heard, like, that was for me. Everything that he preached was for me. I just get up, went to the front,3:34 and accept the Lord as my savior. That was just the moment that I said, well, I surrender. I can't I can't do this thing no more. But that moment was something special. I knew that that's why the Lord3:46 was doing all this thing in my life, in our life. My wife and me and my kid. And I said, well, you know, whatever you want us to do, God, we're here. 193:58 96, we won the World Series. So 97, I became the closer for New York Yankees. So 1 day, I was throwing the ball and the ball start moving, not knowing what was going on. Sometimes the ball is,4:10 has like little scratches, scuff. Then we see it and if it is scuff, that's the reason why it moved. Well, that ball was brand new, was perfect. And that ball was moving like it was something4:21 scuff or or or scrape. I grabbed the boat the same way since I was 6 years old, and the boat was doing exactly what it's supposed to do. Now, I turn the same pitch, the same grip,4:34 and the boat's moving. Now, I'm petrified because as I closer, you have to have great idea what are you doing there, especially in the night and evening. I was afraid of all4:45 this. Didn't matter how I grabbed the ball, the ball never stopped moving. It wasn't just something magical. No. It was a purpose of God. Miracle. Yes. It was a miracle. It was4:57 something that the Lord gave me to give me a platform to talk about him. Not because I was asking, not because I deserve it, but He want to use that to glorify His name. A lotThe Miracle of God's Purpose 5:09 of people wanted to tell the glory that they teach me, the vision, but no 1 did. I'm telling you right now that no 1 did that but God. I always respect5:21 the opposite team. When I broke their bag, I knew the sound. I knew that the bag was broken, and sometimes they shot. It wasn't just like something that I, wow, proud of it. You5:33 know, it wasn't like that. That. It was something that I had to do my job, and my job was trying to get you out. It was amazing though. I wish I would have a count of how many bats they were broken.5:49 In baseball, everything wasn't just shine, and roses, and laugh. There were tears. There were sacrifice, you know? But at the end, the Lord gave me the greatest6:01 platform that no man can give me. Because that greater platform is about His mercy and love and kind, you know. And He equip you with what you need to be successful.6:13 The problem is that we men want to have the success without going through the process. We need to go through that fire. But when we come out of that6:24 fire, we're stronger than when we went into the fire. The Lord will put you in your path. People that will teach you if6:36 you want the help. Since I met Willie Alfonso, has been a great relationship. So when Willie told me about his life, I see the grace of God. I I see the love, the mercy of God on his6:48 life. Willie was a person that always was there for me. Every time that we got together, he spoke life into he's teaching me ways that the Lord was using him to help me. Made me a better7:00 person, made me a better husband, better brother, and better everything. I think a lot of men think sometimes that we need God in in some areas, but we don't allow7:12 God to go into my private room. I don't want God to be in there. I want God to stay in the in the living room, or in the dining room, or in the family room, but not in my7:24 special room, you know. And that's where God wants to be, because He wants to change that room, to glorify His name. You know, and, and, and when we allow the Lord to enter in our life7:36 and change that area that you call your master bedroom, He change everything. He make you better for His glory.7:56 I never thought that after my career, we become, pastors for Jesus Christ. That wasn't in my palace, but but was in the mind of God. This is not our church, this is the church of8:07 God. And everything that we have done, everything we have went through, that's what we do. We glorify the name of Christ. Why? Because, He has been my strength. He's been my everything.8:19 When you talk about me, we need to talk about Jesus, because that has been the center of my whole life. My name is Novella Novella.8:32 My name is a servant. I'm a servant of Jesus Christ.8:55 1 spirit empowered man changes many things.16:39 Ignition sequence starts.17:03 What did Jesus give the city of Jerusalem? He gave the city of Jerusalem a movement of spirit empowered men.20:02 Welcome to the global live stream. We're starting a new series called Fight for the Fam. Now fam, as you might guess, is short for families. Alright? Those are collections of people, of human20:14 beings by blood, by adoption, by blending of families, their moms, their dads, their sons, their daughters, their brothers, their sisters. And when you20:26 think of family, your first thought has to be this. Alright? That God has created every person, you, me, everybody listening, everybody in the world today, God's20:37 created every person to give love and to receive love, and families are the first community of love and acceptance where that is designed20:50 to happen. You see, everything that God creates is an expression of God's nature, and family is central to God's nature. Now in the Bible,21:02 God uses terms that reflect family. God is presented in the Bible as our Father. We are his children. Right? Jesus21:14 is our brother. The Church is the family of God. Jesus himself uses terms that are family oriented when talking about you and I and our21:25 relationship. He talks about how we're born into the family of God, or we're born again. In the pastoral epistles, it talks about new birth. In in21:37 the book of Romans, it talks about spiritually being adopted into God's family. Alright? So why is it important that we have that context?21:49 It's this, that family is not man's idea. It's God's idea and it's his chosen model. I'll say it again. It is his chosen model for relationships22:01 that he wants us to have. In fact, before there was a church, there was family. Right? There was a husband that was made, there was a wife that was made, and there was an instructionFight for the Family 22:13 to that husband and to that wife, start making babies. You know? And and it's clear that we have obeyed that command, because we're about 7000000000 strong, in the22:25 world, today. But, this this is a big but, because we live on a fallen, broken planet, because of sin, nothing works correctly22:37 or perfectly. All you gotta do is turn on the news to see that. All you gotta do is look in the mirror to see that. All you gotta do is look at your own family. Right? There's no perfect husband. There's no perfect22:49 wife. There's no perfect family. But in spite of all of our dysfunctions, in spite of all of our flaws, in in spite of all the frustrations that come23:01 from being a part of a family, family is still God's number 1 choice for fulfilling his creative intentions with23:13 people and in history. See, God wants to use families. Right? That's his unit. It's a basic unit that God wants to use to impact23:25 and advance his purposes in individuals, in communities, in societies, and in countries. God also wants to work on you23:37 through your family, and there are things that you can only learn in the context of being in a family. Now, because all of that is true, not23:49 because I say it's true, but because God says it's true, God wants men to fight for their family, for its health, for its well-being, for its character, and listen, to24:00 protect the people that are in your family. So why fight? Because family has been and always will be God's idea. And because24:12 that's true, family has been and always will be attacked. And right now, it is being openly and aggressively attacked in culture.24:25 In every ethnic community that you can think of, in every metro urban city that you can think of, in every suburban community, in every rural community, family is being24:37 attacked by cultural movements that are, listen, 1, anti God, and because they're anti God, they're anti family. And they're out to destroy the unit that God says is24:48 critical for any healthy community or society. Now these cultural forces, listen, they might masquerade as political movements or just ways of thinking25:00 or or philosophies, but make no mistake, they represent demonic and evil attempts to destroy what God loves. I'm gonna say that25:12 again. It might masquerade as political movements or philosophies or ways of thinking that are enlightened, but you know what they are because they hate family and they hate God? They're demonic25:24 and they're evil movements that are out to destroy what God loves. How do we know? Because anything God creates, right, and loves, evil attempts to25:35 destroy and hates. And that's especially true when it comes to the family. You know, today, you'll watch the news, and it will sound like this, that that marriage itself25:48 is somehow an instrument of oppression, that family is the tool of the upper or capitalist class, and that fathers are the patriarchal guardians25:59 of broken male culture who abuse and oppress, and that children and women are the innocent victims of male and family oppression.26:11 So if those things are true, then the obvious conclusion is, well, we just have to tear the whole thing down. Right? We have to eliminate that and replace it with some enlightened26:23 humanistic new and improved version, and and that somehow God and husbands and wives and brothers and sisters and sons and daughters, they failed. We have to we have to replace26:35 that. And, and I want you to recognize that because you need to know, this is not it's not what it is on the face of it. It's not a political attack on the family. It is a spiritual attack26:47 that goes all the way back to the first family that God created. It's really just an old attack, but with a new face. And right now, we're seeing it more openly and26:59 more aggressively. So when you see things that God loves, like life, like marriage, like family, those are creation orders of God. Right? I want27:11 you to get that term, creation order. Right? And wherever you find a creation order of God, you will see an evil assault. But by who? Okay. Here we go. Let's just say what the Bible27:22 says. By the hater of all things good, of all things God, and the hater of your soul. Satan himself using27:34 people, cultural forces, the fears of men to attack what God loves. So life is a creation order, Satan attacks life.27:47 Living life, life yet to be born. Marriage is a creation order of God. Satan attacks marriage. And the connection between man and woman and men and women,27:58 he'll attack that. Family is a creation order of God. And so Satan attacks family because God chooses family as the first community where28:10 we're supposed to experience love and acceptance. You see, Satan hates God. He hates life created by God. He hates marriages created by God.28:22 He hates families created by God. Satan hates any healthy human relationship because healthy human relationships glorify the God who created28:34 them. So when family is attacked, you gotta recognize that the real objective is the next generation. The real objective is the health of28:46 people, and children, and women, and cities, and communities. Right? And God's mission, and people in the church are also under attack. That's why28:58 this series is called Fight for the Fam, and we're like, what I like to call a fist fight in a phone booth with evil itself, and his sights, listen, his sights are set on your family. It doesn't matter29:10 whether you're a husband, whether you're a dad, whether you're a son, you're a a daughter, you're a brother, you're a sister, you're an uncle, or you're a grandparent, if you're connected to a family, just know29:22 that Satan wants to destroy and to divide your family using any means possible. And a lot of times, it just looks like culture29:34 or a way of thinking. So take a look at your message notes. We're gonna see, as a follower of Jesus Christ, why we're called to fight for the family. And I wanna look at what Jesus29:45 models for us when it comes to his spiritual family, which includes me and you, if you're a follower of Jesus. Listen to the family language and Jesus's effort in Hebrews29:57 chapter 10 verses 10 and 11. It says this, in bringing many sons and daughters to glory, it was fitting that God, for whom and through whom everything exists, should30:09 make the pioneer of their salvation perfect through what he suffered. Both the 1 who makes people holy and those who are made holy are of the same30:21 family. So Jesus is not ashamed to call them brothers and sisters. Why fight for the family God has given you? Because Jesus fought30:32 for us. He fought all the way to the cross to create a way for family, to create connection for us into his family, for me, for you, so that we could30:44 enjoy him, so that we could become all that we could be according to God's intention. And listen, Jesus is not ashamed of his family, he's proud of his family. You wanna know why we30:56 should fight for the family? Because Jesus fought for us as members of his family, to be adopted into his family. And he's he's not ashamed to31:08 call you and I his brother. So we're gonna look at 5 things, 5 really practical ways right now, where you can strap on and you can fight for your31:20 family. And the first way you fight for your family is you must fight for your convictions. You gotta fight for your convictions. Okay? That's number 1. Because in a31:32 family, beliefs drive behaviors. And so we have to look at, well, what do we believe that is gonna drive our behaviors in our families because our behaviors and31:44 choices are what shapes the culture of our family. Right? And beliefs reside in a certain place. The Bible talks about it here in Proverbs 4 23. It says this, above all31:56 else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. You see, beliefs come into your heart, beliefs that emanate32:08 from either truth, what God says is true, or lies, what the world, the flesh, and the devil tell you. And guess what? We take in those beliefs from God, or the world, the flesh, and the devil, and we take them into our32:20 hearts. Alright? And then out of those beliefs come behaviors. That's why the bible is so emphatic. You gotta guard your heart. You can't32:31 just let any belief in, any way of thinking in. You gotta be discerning. You gotta, you gotta really search and say, wow, is this gonna be a good thing or a bad thing? You gotta stop thoughts at the border of your32:43 heart and examine them, right, and to see what's the long term impact. How is this gonna affect me, my relationship with my wife, my kids, my family unit? Alright? You gotta guard your heart and32:55 develop the right convictions and the right beliefs so that your behaviors protect and guard your family. Everything you do flows from beliefs and33:07 convictions being lived out in the open. And the first place we do that is in our families. Listen to what Jesus says in Matthew 12 35. He says, the good man brings good things out of the33:19 good stored up in him, and an evil man evil things out of the evil stored up in him. There's that reflection again, Jesus saying, hey, your insides and what constitutes33:31 your thoughts and your beliefs and your convictions, those will leak out in choices and behaviors, and the nature of those things will be good or bad based33:42 on what you put into yourself, which is either good or bad. The word of God is good. The words of Christ are good. Truth is33:54 good. And those are the things that we're supposed to store up inside of us, things that foster healthy relationships with God and with people, truth that does that, that's what you're supposed34:06 to stockpile and to store up inside of you. You see, it involves yeses and noes. You're not a neutral figure out in culture. There's there's there's truth and lies coming at34:18 you everywhere, and you gotta say no to lies and yes to truth and no to temptation and yes to God. Talks about that in the context of the fight. Right here in first Timothy 6 11 and 12, it34:30 says this, it says, but you, man of God, right, flee from all this and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance, and gentleness.34:42 Fight the good fight of the faith. You wanna fight for your family? Fight for the good fight of faith. Because when you fight for the good fight of faith, you are fighting for truth and belief in the truth. And the34:54 truest thing about anything is what God says is true in his word. And so we're gonna say no to culture and the lies of culture, and we're gonna say yes to God. And in saying no to culture, we're really saying no to35:05 Satan. Alright? Culture being that ecosystem, right, of of beliefs that are either exclusive of God or don't like God at all.35:17 Right? So we're supposed to say no to them and pursue what? Righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance, gentleness. Right? Those are the convictions and qualities. We gotta fight for them though. So that's just35:28 gonna be like mysteriously given to you by some mystical osmosis. Alright? You have to be proactive. So first thing we can do right now is just fight for what you believe. What do you35:40 believe? What do you believe about the family? What do you believe about marriage? What do you believe about relationships? Can I encourage you to do something? Say, believe and support what God says is true, because the35:51 truest thing about all of those is what God says is true. Alright? Secondly, and now we're gonna move into relationships. I must fight for my connections. First, I gotta fight for my convictions. Second, I gotta36:03 fight for my connections. Okay. I've been doing men's stuff for over 30 years. You know who the smartest men are? The smartest men are the ones who discipline themselves toward36:14 their most important relationships. And where are the most important relationships? Wives and children and the family ecosystem. Why? Because that's36:26 God's chosen unit. You're a smart person if you focus on the health of those connections. So let's talk about the first connection. First, with your bride. I'm36:38 talking to all the husbands out here, all the servant leaders of their families. If you're gonna focus on 1 relationship to start off with, focus on your relationship with your bride.36:49 Right? Because historically, when that breaks down, the family breaks down. When the connection between husband and wife break down, alright, then the rest of the relationships that are connected to37:01 them all fragment and divide. It's like dominoes falling. And maybe some of you know exactly what I'm talking about. That's my story. Could be your story. Alright? So that's why we have to focus37:14 on the woman God gave us. You know, this is not a new thing. God's been talking about that, and I I pulled a passage from the old testament that that's talking to husbands and how they have to fight for their connection37:26 with their wives. Listen to what God says in Malachi chapter 2. He says, another thing you do, you flood the Lord's altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with37:38 favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. And you ask, why? It is because the Lord is witness between you and the wife of your youth.37:50 You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the 1 god who made you? You38:01 belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the 1 god seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your38:13 your youth. The man who hates and divorces his wife, the lord, the god of Israel says, does violence to the 1 he should protect, says the Lord Almighty.38:25 So be on your guard and do not be unfaithful. Wow. Gee, God. How do you really feel about my relationship with my wife? There it is, right38:37 there in the bible, in Malachi chapter 2. Take a good long look at it. But you gotta see sort of the overall wireframe and picture that God is setting up. It's a marriage covenant.38:49 Alright? There's a creation order, a marriage covenant. Covenant of God is always attacked by evil. So, any like I said, it's not a new thing. Happened in Genesis39:01 3. It happens throughout history. Man and woman, they reflect the glory of God. Man and woman's oneness reflects the glory of God. Men and women creating families reflects the glory of39:13 God. That is attack. But to disintegrate the whole enchilada, you gotta put division between the man and the woman, which means that for you and me, we39:24 gotta fight for that connection with our bride. And you see the domino effect. Alright? You see it says, and what does the 1 God seek? Godly offspring. Okay. There we are. It's it's not39:36 just offspring, it's godly offspring. See, there's a quality to a man and woman before God, growing close to God and growing close to 1 another, and they create39:48 godly offspring. It's generational impact. There's a character quality to the family that is at risk. And so what is the command?40:00 Guard. Right? Go be on your guard. Don't be unfaithful. Protect. Right? Be on your guard, again, it says, and do not be unfaithful. It says it 240:12 times for emphasis. When God says something once, that's enough. But when he says it twice, guys, listen up. Your marriage is spiritual warfare. Alright? There's a oneness that's40:24 being attacked right now. There's so many voices, so many feelings, inside, outside, messaging, culture. Alright? Guard your relationship with your bride.40:36 Now, what's the victory we seek in this fight? Write this down. Emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy. You gotta see the center of your family,40:48 right, is the husband wife relationship and their connection. And you have to see that the family rises or falls on the quality of the40:59 husband wife connection. And guys, I know that you know this. You know if you're connected to your wife or not. You know if you're connected to her physically, for sure. But you know what? Before that, you know if you're41:10 connected to her emotionally. Right? When you're connected as man and woman in God's covenant, there's peace. When you're not connected in God's covenant, there's division41:23 and anxiety and fear and anger and conflict, which is exactly Satan's end game. So, guys, you gotta fight for your41:34 connections. The first connection you have to fight for is your connection with your bride. And, guys, this doesn't matter if you're if you've been married 1 year, 20 years, or 70 years. Right? That is the covenant41:46 that God, ordains. That is the covenant that Satan will attack. Second, when it comes to your connections, is you gotta fight for your connection with your babies. And I just call them41:58 your babies because, you know, even though my kids are in their twenties, I call them my babies. Right? Or your kids. Now, your kids may be literal babies. They may be young. They may be teenagers. They may be older. But42:09 you gotta fight for your connection with your babies. And you know what? God models that. Right? Our job is to help bring them to the destinations, alright, where God has42:21 intended for them. And as men, as lead as the servant leaders of our families with that mantle, we gotta bring them along and fight for that connection. Listen to what God says in Deuteronomy chapter42:33 1 verses 29 to 31 in the context, of family. Alright? Then I said to you, do not be terrified, do not be afraid of them. The Lord your God, who is going before you, will fight for you42:44 as he did for you in Egypt before your very eyes and in the wilderness. There you saw how the Lord your God carried you as a father carries his42:56 son all the way you went until you reached this place. What an amazing picture of God as a43:08 father carrying his children to the destination of promise. I don't know about you, but I used to love it when my when my kids, they were younger, and maybe you have young kids now, where they reach up and,43:20 you know, they want you to hold them, but then they're upset because that's not where they wanted to go. They wanted to go like this, plunk, right on your shoulders, right? And when your kid is being carried on your43:31 shoulders, there is just this connection and and there's this pride, and they get to see like you see. Right? Because they're on the shoulders of their leader. Right? And and43:43 that's why, you know, God models this for us. He carries us like a father carries his son to this destination of promise. And that's your job.43:55 Dad, are you carrying your kids right now? Are you supporting your kids? Are you giving them what they need to get to that destination? Now, there's a warning about how you44:06 carry them or about how you do that, and it talks about that in Ephesians chapter 6 verse 4. It says this, fathers, do not exasperate your children. Instead, bring them up in44:18 the training and instruction of the Lord. You know, as a parent, right, and as a counselor to couples and parents, what I see many times is44:30 exasperation and frustration in the family. And that exasperation and frustration comes from dads or parents projecting their44:41 own issues on the inside of their heart onto their children. So whether it's control issues or whether it's anger issues or or or whether it's insecurities44:54 or fears. That's why step 1 was step 1. You gotta get your heart right. Because then when you get your heart right, you'll get your connections right. You'll get your connection with your45:05 wife right, and you'll get your connection with your kids right. But let me give you some just practical, easy, accessible ways, dads, to to fight for45:17 your connections with your kids. Alright? I'm gonna give you 1 set, just kinda this is the what to do, and this then the next set is how to do it. So what do I do? 345:29 things. Alright? Number 1, you gotta model. You can't give away to your kids what you don't possess. You gotta model the behaviors that you wanna see. You gotta model the love that you wanna see. You gotta model45:41 the forgiveness that you wanna see. You wanna gotta model the family encouragement, that you wanna see. Second, you want to mentor. Alright? So first is model, then you mentor.45:53 Alright? And that means that you come alongside them, and then you message while you come alongside. I model, I mentor, I message. Alright? And and46:05 that just makes sense. Right? So that's the what to do, model, mentor, message. And then how do I do that? How do I model? How do I mentor? How do I message? Right? Listen very closely. Through time,46:17 talk, and touch. Right? These are the 3 languages that kids receive and perceive as love. So they perceive time as love, talk as love, and46:29 touch as love. Alright? Time, your most valuable commodity. Alright? You can't be in a hurry to pour into your kids, to model and mentor and message. You gotta spend time. Your kids46:41 are interpreting you spending time with them as love. You gotta talk to them And not just order them or tell them to do stuff or coach them on the athletic field. Alright? You gotta sit down.46:53 You gotta put them to bed. You gotta say, how was your day? You gotta listen like a human being. Take it in. Respond. Give comfort, give encouragement. Alright?47:05 Talk. Alright? And then, appropriate physical touch. Alright? That is so key. Now, why is it so important that47:17 you model for the family, that you mentor your children in the family, and that you message your kids and the family through time, talk, and touch? Here's why. Here's the victory. Write this47:28 down. Emotional security. What do I mean by that? If you model and mentor and message God's love and acceptance in a family through time and talk and47:40 touch, Your children will experience, listen, the 2 things that every child needs, peace and worth. Peace and worth. They're supposed to get47:52 peace and worth and value and love and acceptance in the family unit. And if they don't experience you, dad, giving them that, they're gonna48:04 find a second community of acceptance. Why? Because they are hardwired for acceptance. The family's job is to help solve48:15 the acceptance issue so that children don't pursue second communities of acceptance. Listen. And the barrier to entry in those second communities of acceptance are doing things that are48:27 unhealthy or harmful. But the pull for acceptance and the need for acceptance is so strong. Boys and girls will do unhealthy things to get the acceptance. And then48:39 once they get into that second community, because the acceptance need is so high, they won't stop doing the unhealthy things because the acceptance is primary.48:52 So when children of parents talk to me and they their children have entered these second communities, could be a gang, could be a sexual community, could be some political49:03 community, could be I know what's going on, and I know why it's hard for any child to leave that second community. It's because they experience belonging and identity49:15 and acceptance. So dads, do you see how important it is for you to not just be in the family, but be disciplined toward your relationships49:27 with your wife? And then with your kids, modeling for your kids, mentoring your kids, messaging your kids. You know, again, God models49:39 how to do this. What's so great about the Bible and so great about God the Father and Jesus the Son and the Holy Spirit, we see them all modeling family in Matthew chapter 3 verses 16 and 17.49:51 Check this out. What does God model? Watch for it. As soon as Jesus was baptized, he went up out of the water. At that moment, heaven was opened, and he saw the spiritShow more In this video 0:00 A Journey of Faith and Purpose5:00 The Miracle of God's Purpose22:09 Fight for the Family50:00 Building Strong Family Foundations1:12:52 Call to Action and Spiritual GrowthComments No comments yet. Start the conversation.
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