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Some days, life feels like a relentless storm—nothing goes right, nothing is under your control, and despair feels heavy on your chest. On those days, the hardest thing to do is to let go of the chaos swirling inside. But here's your lifeline: bring your junk to Jesus. When you have those days where everything is out
of your control and nothing seems to be going your way, bring your junk to Jesus. When you feel defeated and in despair, bring your junk to Jesus. When you are struggling in your situation, bring your junk to Jesus. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com This isn't about pretending things are fine or putting on a brave face. It's about honesty with the One who already knows every piece of your mess and still loves you unconditionally. No one promised this life would be easy. Pain, hardship, confusion—they are part of the journey. But what is promised is something far greater: eternal life and a peace that surpasses all understanding. Choosing to let your circumstances dictate your mood or your faith is dangerous territory. Instead, choose what 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 commands: "Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." Notice the power in those words. The charge to rejoice always does not ignore pain. It acknowledges pain and insists that joy is available beyond it. To pray continually means you keep an open line to God through every triumph and trial. Giving thanks in all circumstances isn't naivety; it's recognizing the hand of God even when your eyes can't yet see it. The K.I.S.S. ~ Bring your junk to Jesus! There is no part of your life that Jesus wants you to hide or carry alone. We are often the ones who try to fit God into neat little boxes—limiting His power, His comfort, His presence to only the "good" parts of our lives. But God refuses to be boxed in. He is big enough for your mess, your confusion, your anger, and your brokenness. So why keep Him on the sidelines? When your world is crumbling, look for the blessings hidden in the rubble as you bring your junk to Jesus. Maybe it's a lesson, maybe it's hope, maybe it's a hand reaching out in unexpected ways. That's the relationship God wants with you—not a surface-level connection but raw, real, and authentic. You can't build that kind of relationship by only sharing your wins. Let your walls down. Give Him your junk—the doubts, the pain, the fears you can't put into words. There's nothing God doesn't already know. Stop pretending. Bring your junk to Jesus, and watch how He turns it into peace and purpose. Lay it all down at the foot of the cross. Let Jesus carry what you simply can't handle. Then, if even just a little, start to rejoice always, pray continually, and give thanks in all circumstances. That's not just advice; that's God's will for your life (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). The junk isn't too much. You're not too broken. Jesus is enough. So bring your junk to Jesus—right now. Bring Your Junk to Jesus by Kristianne Wargo When shadows press and hope feels thin, When losing feels like where you begin, Don't bury pain or wear disguise— Bring your junk to Jesus' eyes. No need for masks, no need to hide, He knows the storms you're trapped inside. He's not confined by earthly rules, No boxed-in love, no guarded tools. The broken pieces, heavy loads, The tangled paths and weary roads, Lay them down at mercy's throne— He'll turn your junk to healing stone. Rejoice in dawn though night is long, Pray your grief in steady song, Give thanks through tears, through doubt, through pain— For grace and hope will rise again. Bring the mess, the ache, the fear, Jesus listens—always near. No junk too ugly, no shame too deep— In His arms, your soul will keep. So when the world feels off and cold, When you're weary, worn, and sold, Bring your junk to Jesus' feet— There lies peace you can't defeat. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" #SweetSpirit #CreateYourNow #SoulfulSunday 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. 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View all- 14200 Speak Truth to YourselfThere's a version of you that shows up every morning with a smile already rehearsed. She knows the right words — I'm fine, I'm blessed, I'm good — and she delivers them so well that most people never think to ask a follow-up question. She's pleasant. She's put together. And she is exhausted from the performance. But today, let's get a little I uncomfortable; speak truth to yourself. It's not truth aimed at someone else or spoken from a stage or typed out in a text. It is the kind of truth that happens when you close the door, sit with God, and finally stop narrating the version of your life you wish were real. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #Inspiration #CreateYourNow #DailyMotivation Honesty is not weakness. It's not failure. It's not proof that your faith isn't working. Honesty is the very foundation every real, lasting change is built on. You cannot transform what you refuse to name. You cannot heal what you keep hiding — not from others, but from yourself. Think about what plays on repeat in your mind when no one else is listening. The worry you've dressed up as planning. The resentment you've renamed "boundaries." The sadness you've buried under busyness so deep you barely recognize it anymore. Those thoughts aren't your enemy. They're your starting point. And God already knows every single one of them. The psalmist David understood this. In one of his rawest, most unguarded moments, he wrote, "Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb; you taught me wisdom in that secret place" (Psalm 51:6). God desires truth in the inward parts. Not the public parts. Not the Sunday morning parts. It's the secret place; the place where your real thoughts live. The place you've been afraid to let anyone — including Him — fully into. The K.I.S.S. ~ Speak truth to yourself! God isn't standing at the door of that secret place with a clipboard and a disappointed look. He's standing there with an invitation. He already knows what's inside. He's not shocked by your doubt, your frustration, your grief, your anger, or the prayer you can't bring yourself to pray out loud. He knew it before you thought it. And He's not asking you to clean it up before you bring it to Him. He's asking you to bring it — messy, unedited, and real — because that's where intimacy begins. We spend so much energy performing "fine" that we forget what it feels like to simply be. To sit in the truth of where we actually are without rushing to fix it, spiritualize it, or slap a scripture on it like a Band-Aid. Scripture was never meant to be a Band-Aid. It was meant to be a mirror, a lamp, a sword — something that goes deep enough to do real work. But it can only reach the places we're willing to expose. Thomas Jefferson once said, "Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom." The first chapter. Not the last. Not the climax. The beginning. That means you don't have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to start with what's true. And from that one honest breath — Lord, here's where I really am — wisdom begins to build. So today, I'm not asking you to confess anything to anyone. I'm not asking you to post it, share it, or turn it into a testimony. I'm asking you to be still long enough to hear your own voice — the real one — and then let God meet you there. Tell Him the thing you've been editing. Pray the prayer you've been too afraid to say. Write the sentence in your journal that starts with "The truth is…" and then let your pen keep moving. You are not too much for Him. Your honesty will not break His love. In fact, it's the very thing that opens the door for His love to reach the rooms you've been locking everyone out of — including yourself. Real change doesn't start with a new strategy. 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- 24199 Running On NoiseYou haven't even gotten out of bed yet, and already, the world is talking to you. Notifications are lighting up the nightstand. Headlines are waiting behind the lock screen. Opinions, arguments, comparisons are all lined up before your feet hit the floor. You're running on noise, and you don't even realize it. Yesterday, in Guard Your Heart, Guard Your Path, we talked about why guarding your heart matters — because everything you do flows from it. Today, I want us to go a step deeper. If your heart is the wellspring, then your mind is the gate. And every single day, that gate is being flooded. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #MindsetMonday #CreateYourNow #PersonalDevelopment Here's the thing we don't often stop to think about: the noise of the world doesn't just pass through you. It moves in. It takes up space. It starts shaping your thoughts, your emotions, your responses — and it does it so quietly that you don't even notice until you're reacting to life out of anxiety instead of peace, out of comparison instead of calling. Proverbs 4:23 tells us, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." But guarding your heart requires guarding what gets in. And in a culture that never stops broadcasting, that takes real intentionality. Think about your morning. Before you pray, before you open your Bible, before you sit with God for even one quiet minute — how many voices have already spoken? The news anchor. The social media algorithm. The group chat. The email from your boss. And here's what we don't always see: those first few minutes of scrolling aren't neutral. They're formational. When the first thing you do each morning is absorb the world's headlines, the world's outrage, the world's measuring stick — you are being quietly discipled by a voice that was never meant to lead you. This is just what happens when the first voice you hear every day isn't His. And it's not that any one of those things is bad. It's that the accumulation of it — the sheer volume and relentlessness of it — starts to drown out the still, small voice you were designed to live by. You're not choosing to let the noise rule your mind. You just never chose not to. That's what makes this so sneaky. We don't sit down and consciously decide, "I'm going to let the world set the tone for my thinking today." It just happens. It happens in the scroll before coffee. It happens in the podcast on the commute. It happens in the background noise we've stopped noticing because it's always there. And slowly, without permission, the noise begins to form us. But here's where it turns: you get to choose what forms you. You are not powerless. You are not stuck. You have the authority — and the invitation — to set a different rhythm. To decide that the first voice you hear will be the One who calls you beloved. To build a gate around your mind that doesn't slam shut on the world but opens first to God. The K.I.S.S. ~ Guard the gate! Put some conscious thought into it. Know what you are thinking and what you want to think about. Workbook to Guard the Gate: Download Here. So here's the question: What would change in your thinking if the first thing you gave your attention to every morning wasn't the noise — but the truth? 1. START your day in silence with God first. Before you pick up your phone tomorrow morning, spend five minutes in quiet. Let God's voice be the first one you hear. Not the headlines. Not the notifications. Not the group chat. Just Him. 2. IDENTIFY one source of noise this week. Maybe it's a social media feed, a show, a habit that consistently leaves you feeling less peaceful. You know the one. Set a boundary around it, even if it's temporary. You're not canceling it forever. You're just making room. 3. REPLACE that noise with one intentional input: Maybe a worship playlist, a scripture audio plan, or five minutes of quiet prayer during a time you'd normally scroll. Don't just remove the noise — fill the space with something that feeds your soul. Guarding the gate isn't about shutting the world out entirely. It's about choosing what gets the first word — and the last word — in your day. When you let God speak first, everything else falls into its proper place. The noise doesn't disappear, but it stops running the show and your day. You were never meant to be formed by the scroll. You were meant to be formed by the Spirit. So this week, take back the gate. One morning at a time. "Be present. Be incredible. 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- 34198 Guard Your Heart, Guard Your PathThere is a quiet war happening in every life, and most of us barely notice it. It doesn't announce itself with sirens or alarms. It creeps in through the glow of a screen, the scroll of a feed, the weight of words we never asked to carry. And before we know it, we've wandered. Not dramatically. Not all at once. But step by slow step, we've drifted from the path God laid out for us — because somewhere along the way, we stopped guarding what matters most. If wisdom has taught us anything, it's this: guard your heart, guard your path. Solomon understood this. In Proverbs 4:23, he writes, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." Above all else. Not "when it's convenient." Not "if you remember." Above. All. Else. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #SweetSpirit #CreateYourNow #SoulfulSunday That language is urgent because the stakes are urgent. Everything we do — every decision, every reaction, every relationship, every step forward or backward — flows from the heart. It is the wellspring. It is the source. And if the source is polluted, the path will show it. Think about that for a moment. What flows from your heart right now? Is it peace or anxiety? Is it faith or fear? Is it clarity or confusion? The answer will likely tell you what you've been allowing in. Because the heart doesn't guard itself. It absorbs. It takes in whatever we give it — the voices, the images, the opinions, the noise — and it shapes our steps accordingly. We live in an age of unfiltered access. Technology has handed us the entire world in the palm of our hands, and with it has come an avalanche of distraction. News cycles designed to stir outrage. Social media platforms built to hook our attention and hold it hostage. Conversations that pull us into comparison, into self-doubt, into places God never intended for us to dwell. None of it is accidental. Every notification, every algorithm, every autoplay video is designed to capture your focus — and focus is a resource of the heart. Solomon goes on in Proverbs 4:25–27 to say, "Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil." There's an intentionality in those words that we can't afford to miss. He's not describing a passive walk. He's describing a deliberate one. Eyes forward. Feet steady. No wandering. That kind of focus doesn't happen by accident. It happens by choice — daily, sometimes hourly, sometimes minute by minute. Guarding your heart means becoming a gatekeeper of your own life. It means asking, "Does this belong here?" before you let something in. That podcast you listen to on your morning commute — is it building your faith or eroding it? That group text, that conversation at the office, that late-night scroll through social media — is it drawing you closer to who God created you to be, or pulling you further from it? These aren't dramatic questions. They're practical ones. And wisdom lives in the practical. The Psalmist knew this, too. In Psalm 119:105, we read, "Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path." Notice the imagery. A lamp for my feet — not a floodlight for the entire highway. God's Word gives us just enough light for the next step. And that next step requires a heart that's clear enough to see it. When we flood our hearts with noise and distraction, we dim that lamp. We make it harder to hear the voice that actually matters. We trade the light of truth for the glow of a screen, and then we wonder why the path feels uncertain. The K.I.S.S. ~ Guard your heart, guard your path! But here's the beautiful part of all of this — guarding your heart isn't about building walls. It's about building wisdom. It's not about living in fear of the world. It's about living with such intention that the world doesn't get to dictate your direction. "When your heart is rooted in God's Word, when it's fed by truth and watered by prayer, it becomes steady ground. And from steady ground, you walk a steady path." ~ Kristianne Wargo At some point, our wisdom must meet our walk. It's not enough to know what's right. It's not enough to underline verses and nod along on Sunday morning. Wisdom asks us to live it. To put the phone down when it's stealing our peace. To step away from conversations that plant seeds of doubt. To turn off the noise long enough to hear God whisper, "This is the way — walk in it." That's where the guarding happens. Not in some grand, once-and-for-all decision, but in the small, daily choices that add up to a life of purpose. So today, take inventory. What have you been letting in? What voices are shaping the way you see yourself, your family, your future? And are those voices aligned with the One who created you for something beautiful? Because the path ahead of you is good. God has already laid it out. But to walk it well, you have to protect the place it all begins. Guard your heart, and you will guard your path. "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness! — that's where wisdom meets the walk." ~ Kristianne Wargo And with God lighting the way, not a single step is wasted. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. 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- 44197 Remember When?Every love story has a moment tucked inside that changes everything. Maybe it was the way he looked at you from across the room. Maybe it was a conversation that went three hours longer than it should have because neither of you wanted it to end. Maybe it was nothing dramatic at all — just a quiet knowing that settled into your bones and whispered, this one. Whatever your moment was, it marked the beginning of something God had been writing long before you ever knew his name. Remember when? Because the best way to move your marriage forward is going back to the beginning. Now, I know what you might be thinking. Kristianne, we are not the same people we were back then. And you are right. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow #LoveAndMarriage Life has done what life does. It has layered on responsibilities and routines, sleepless seasons and silent frustrations, moments of deep joy and stretches of deep exhaustion. The couple who once stayed up until two in the morning talking about everything and nothing now falls asleep mid-sentence on the couch by nine. And that is okay. Growth looks different than it feels. Going back to the beginning isn't about pretending those layers don't exist. It is about remembering what is underneath all of them. Because underneath the bills, the carpools, the calendar that never seems to have enough room — there is a foundation. And that foundation was not built by accident. It was built by God. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." It's easy to think that verse is just about your individual life and what you are going to be when you grow up. But we forget that it's about your whole life, which makes it about your marriage too. God had a plan when He brought the two of you together. He saw the beginning, and He already knew every chapter that would follow. When you go back to the start of your story, you are not escaping the present. You are reconnecting with the purpose that has been holding you together all along. Think about it this way. When a tree is struggling — when its leaves are dry and its branches look tired — a gardener does not just look at the surface. She checks the roots. She makes sure the foundation is still being nourished, still being watered, still connected to what gives it life. Your marriage is the same. The fruit you see on the outside — the way you communicate, the way you serve each other, the way you show up day after day — all of it is connected to the roots. And your roots live in the beginning. Song of Solomon 2:10–13 paints a picture so vivid you can almost feel the warmth on your skin: "My beloved spoke and said to me, 'Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, come with me. See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone.'" Do you feel that? There is an invitation in those words. An invitation to come out of whatever cold season you have been standing in and step back into the warmth of what love was always meant to be. Not a love that ignores the hard things. A love that remembers it was built to outlast them. Maybe your beginning was full of butterflies and big romantic gestures. Or maybe it was quieter than that — a steady friendship that slowly turned into something you could not walk away from. Either way, there was something real there. Something true. And the beautiful thing about truth is that it does not expire. It does not lose its power just because time has passed. It simply waits for you to come back and draw from it again. Thomas Merton once wrote, "The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves." When you first fell in love with your husband, you were not trying to change him. You were captivated by who he already was — the way he laughed, the things he cared about, the way he made you feel seen. Somewhere along the way, it is easy to trade that captivation for correction. To start seeing what needs fixing instead of what first made your heart skip. Going back to the beginning is an invitation to see him again — really see him — the way you did before the world got loud. The K.I.S.S. ~ Revisit your roots! So here is the question I want to sit with you today. What if the key to falling in love all over again is not learning something new — but remembering something you already knew? 1. Pull out a photo or memento from your early days together. Open up that wedding album that has been sitting on the shelf untouched since your last anniversary. Dig out the box of old letters, ticket stubs, or that silly souvenir from the trip where everything went wrong and you laughed until you cried anyway. Find something tangible — something you can hold in your hands — and spend ten minutes looking at it together this week. You do not have to plan a deep conversation around it. Just sit next to each other and let the memories do the talking. You might be surprised how quickly a faded photograph can make the present feel a little brighter. One couple I know found their old wedding guest book in the back of a closet and spent an entire evening reading the messages people had written to them. By the time they closed it, she said it felt like their vows had been renewed without either of them saying a word. 2. Ask your spouse one simple question — "What is your favorite memory of us?" This one requires something that does not always come naturally in a long marriage — genuine curiosity. Do not assume you know the answer. Do not fill in the blanks for him. Just ask, and then do the most loving thing you can do in that moment — listen. Listen without planning your response. Listen without correcting the details. Listen the way you used to listen when everything he said mattered to you because you were still learning who he was. Here is the truth — you are still learning who he is. People are not static. The memory he holds dearest might not be the one you expect. Maybe it is not the grand vacation or the wedding day. Maybe it is a Tuesday night when you brought him coffee without being asked, or the way you held his hand in the hospital waiting room and did not let go. When you hear what he treasures, you learn what love looks like through his eyes. And that changes everything. 3. Recreate one small thing from your dating season. This is not about booking a five-star dinner or planning an elaborate date night — although if that is your thing, go for it. This is about intention. Think about the little things that made your early days feel alive. Was there a restaurant where you always split the same meal? A song that played every time you were together? A drive you used to take just because being in the car together felt like enough? Pick one of those things and do it again. If that restaurant closed years ago, find a similar one and order something that reminds you of what you used to share. If the song is buried somewhere in a playlist you forgot existed, pull it up and play it in the kitchen while you make dinner. It does not have to be perfect. It just has to be purposeful. One woman told me she and her husband used to get gas station coffee and drive the back roads on Sunday mornings when they were dating. They had not done it in over a decade. So one Sunday she woke up early, filled two styrofoam cups, and told him to get in the car. She said he smiled in a way she had not seen in years. That is what revisiting your roots looks like — small, deliberate, and full of love. One thing you must understand: the enemy of a good marriage is not conflict. It is not even distance. It is forgetfulness. When we forget where love began, we start to believe it has nowhere left to go. But when we remember — when we go back to the well of what God started and draw from it again — something shifts. We stop measuring our marriage by what it lacks and start marveling at what it has survived. Your love story is still being written, friend. Every single day. And the Author who began it is faithful to continue it. So this week, take a step back — not away from your marriage, but into its beginning. Let yourself remember. Let yourself feel. And let God remind you that what He started in love, He has every intention of finishing in love. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
- 54196 The Unseen HoursEvery mother knows the invisible rhythms. The whispered prayers over sleeping children. The mental checklist that never stops running — appointments, groceries, emotions, permission slips, and that look on your kid's face at dinner that told you something was wrong even though they said they were fine. You caught it. You always catch it. And later, after the house goes still, you lie awake turning it over, figuring out how to help, how to hold it, how to fix what you can and surrender what you cannot; oh, the unseen hours. That's not small work. That is love in its most relentless, most faithful form. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #ConfessionsOfAnUpsetMama #CreateYourNow #TodaysParent But here's the quiet ache so many mamas carry and never say out loud — when no one sees what you do, it starts to feel like it doesn't matter. And when what you do doesn't seem to matter, you start to wonder if you do. That's the lie. And we need to call it what it is. Your worth was never tied to someone else's awareness of your effort. Colossians 3:23–24 says, "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward." Your audience was never your family's attention — it was always God's heart. He sees every unseen hour. Every quiet sacrifice. Every moment you chose love when you were running on empty. And He calls it good. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be seen. It doesn't mean you should keep swallowing the exhaustion and smiling through it. "The lack of recognition doesn't reduce the value of what you've done." ~ Kristianne Wargo The world may not hand you a trophy for keeping your household running, for holding your child's heart with care, for showing up again when you had nothing left. But heaven keeps a different record. Galatians 6:9 reminds us, "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." Your harvest is coming. Not because you earned it by burning yourself down, but because faithfulness has a return — and God doesn't miss a single seed you've planted. But let me be honest with you about something. This series isn't here to glorify the grind. It's not here to say, "Keep pouring until there's nothing left and call it love." No. Love was never meant to cost you yourself. You are more than what you produce. You are more than the lunches and the carpools and the bedtime routines and the late-night text messages. Those things matter because you matter — not the other way around. And you must remember, your children are watching. Not just what you do for them, but how you treat yourself while doing it. They are learning what a woman looks like when she's whole — or when she's disappearing. You get to choose which lesson they carry. Give yourself a gift; honor the unseen. The K.I.S.S. ~ Honor the unseen! And that goes for everything you whisper under your breath, "If you only knew." You matter and the work you do matters. So here's the question — what would it look like to honor the unseen, starting with how you see yourself? 1. Name it. Write down three things you did this week that no one noticed or thanked you for. Look at that list. That's love in action — and it deserves to be seen, even if only by you. 2. Release the scorecard. Stop measuring your worth by whether someone acknowledged what you did. Your labor is not less because it was quiet. Let go of needing the thank-you to feel valuable. 3. Speak over yourself. Before bed tonight, say this out loud: "What I carry matters. What I do matters. And I matter — not because of what I produce, but because of who I am." Mama, the hours are long. There are days when you feel like you're invisible in your own home, running on fumes and faith and not much else. But you are not invisible. Not to God. And not to the woman looking back at you in the mirror who deserves to be told, "You're doing a really beautiful thing." The unseen hours don't make you less. They reveal how deeply you love. And that love is building something you can't even see yet. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
- 64195 Trust the Ground Beneath YouYou've been doing the work. Maybe it hasn't looked glamorous — maybe nobody handed you a trophy for holding it together on a Tuesday afternoon or choosing faith over fear at two in the morning — but you've been showing up. And now? Something is different. Something is shifting. You can feel it in the way you breathe a little easier, the way hope doesn't feel so far away anymore. That first sign of growth is peeking through, and it's real, and it's yours. So trust the ground beneath you — the ground you are standing on right now. Because that ground has already proven it can hold you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #Inspiration #CreateYourNow #DailyMotivation You've been through the waiting. You weathered the uncertainty. Some days you weren't sure the next step would hold your weight—but it did. Every single time. And now that things are starting to shift, now that you can actually see movement in your life, you get to stand a little taller and acknowledge something important: you are standing on ground that has been tested, and it didn't give way. That's not luck. That's faithfulness — His and yours. David understood this feeling. He wrote, "Truly my soul finds rest in God; my salvation comes from him. Truly he is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will never be shaken" (Psalm 62:1–2, NIV). There's something so settled about those words. This isn't a man gritting his teeth and hoping for the best. This is a man who has experienced the holding — who looked down and realized the rock beneath him hadn't moved an inch, even when everything around him did. And now he's resting in it. Not striving. Resting. That's available to you today. The K.I.S.S. ~ Trust the ground beneath you! You don't have to white-knuckle your way into the next season. You don't have to earn the right to exhale. The ground is steady. God made it steady. And the beautiful thing about standing on something solid is that it frees you up to stop looking down and start looking ahead. When you're not constantly worried about falling, you can finally pay attention to where you're going — and friend, where you're going is something worth getting excited about. Here's what I love about this moment you're in. You already have evidence. You're not starting from scratch and hoping for the best. You've walked through something real, and you came out of it with more strength, more clarity, and more faith than you had going in. That's not nothing — that's everything. That is the kind of foundation people spend their whole lives looking for, and you're already standing on it. Corrie ten Boom once said, "Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God." And right now, you are in the most beautiful position to live that out — because the God you're trusting isn't a stranger. He's the same one who met you in the hard days. He's the same one who kept every promise when you couldn't see how any of them would come together. You know Him. You've experienced Him. And that knowing is the very thing that makes the next step feel less like a leap and more like a walk with someone you trust completely. So let your shoulders drop. Let the smile come. You have done the hard work of holding on, and now it's time to enjoy the view from where you're standing. The ground beneath you is good ground — not because life is suddenly perfect, but because the One who placed you here has never once let you down. Trust it. Trust Him. And walk forward with your head high, because this season you're stepping into? You were made for it. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
- 74194 Notice the NewHave you ever caught yourself mid-sentence and realized — that's not what I would have said before? Maybe it happened so quietly you almost missed it. A pause where there used to be a reaction. A prayer where there used to be panic. A steadiness in your voice that wasn't there six months ago. If you've been doing the deeper work, from the inside out, of growing, tending, and trusting God through the uncomfortable middle, then it's time to notice the new — because something in you has already shifted. Growth doesn't always announce itself. It doesn't always arrive with fireworks or a finish line. Sometimes it shows up as the absence of something — the worry you didn't spiral into, the comparison you scrolled past without flinching, the boundary you held without apologizing five times afterward. And sometimes it shows up as the presence of something — a gentleness with yourself that feels foreign, a confidence in your calling that you can't quite explain, a prayer life that sounds less like begging and more like trust. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #WellspringWednesday #CreateYourNow #HealthAndWellness Either way, it's there. And you need to see it. Because here's the truth most of us forget when we're in the middle of becoming: you are not the same woman you were. The ground has shifted beneath your feet. The roots have been doing their work in the dark, and now — right now — something green and tender is breaking through the surface of your life. It may not be towering yet. It may not look like much to anyone standing on the outside. But you feel it, don't you? That quiet knowing that God has been rearranging you from the inside out? "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?" (Isaiah 43:19, NIV). That word — perceive — is God asking you to see and pay attention to what He's already doing. He's asking you to look down and notice the shoot pushing through the soil. He's asking you to stop measuring your progress by the fruit and start celebrating the first sign of green. This is a holy moment in every season of becoming — the moment you stop focusing on how far you still have to go and let yourself marvel at how far you've already come. But I want to be honest with you, because I think this part matters: noticing the new can feel vulnerable. When you name your growth out loud — even just to yourself — it can feel like you're tempting the universe to take it back. Like the moment you acknowledge progress, something will come along and prove you haven't really changed at all. That's not faith talking. That's fear. And it has no business speaking over what God is cultivating in your life. The enemy loves to convince you that your growth isn't real. That the moment of grace was a fluke. That the peace you felt this morning won't last until Tuesday. But Romans 8:28 reminds us that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him. All things. The messy middle. The quiet mornings. The small, almost invisible shifts. He wastes nothing, and He certainly isn't going to let your becoming be undone by a bad day or a bout of doubt. The K.I.S.S. ~ Notice the new! So what do you do when you notice the new? You name it. You protect it. And you refuse to let the old narrative trample what's just breaking through. Think of it like a garden. You wouldn't plant a seed, watch it finally push through the dirt, and then walk across it in heavy boots. You'd kneel down. You'd clear the space around it. You'd water it and speak life over it. Your growth deserves the same tenderness. So here's the question: What has shifted in you that you haven't given yourself permission to celebrate yet? 1. Pay attention this week to one moment where you respond differently than you would have six months ago — and name it as growth. Maybe it's the way you paused before reacting to a critical comment instead of firing back. Maybe it's how you chose worship music over worry at 2 a.m. Maybe you caught yourself saying "no" without guilt or "yes" without resentment. Whatever it is, don't let it pass unnoticed. Write it down. Say it out loud. Tell God, "I see what You did there." Growth that goes unnamed is growth that goes uncelebrated — and you deserve to celebrate. 2. Share it with someone you trust — what you're noticing in yourself, even if it feels small. Text your sister. Call your prayer partner. Sit across from a friend over coffee and say, "I think something in me is changing." Growth was never meant to stay hidden. When you speak it out loud to someone who loves you, it becomes more real — and harder for the enemy to talk you out of. You don't need their permission to grow, but you do need a witness who will remind you of this moment when doubt comes knocking. 3. Protect that tender new growth by guarding your thought life — don't let old narratives trample what's just breaking through. When the old voice whispers, "You haven't really changed — just wait," replace it with truth: "He who began a good work in me will carry it on to completion" (Philippians 1:6). Unfollow the account that triggers comparison. Step back from conversations that always leave you questioning yourself. Treat your growth the way you'd treat a seedling — clear the weeds, water it with the Word, and give it room to reach toward the light. Naming your growth isn't pride. It's praise. It's looking at what God has done in the quiet, hidden places and saying, I see it. I receive it. And I'm not going to pretend it didn't happen just because it's small. You are becoming, my friend. Right here, right now, in this season — something new is alive in you. Don't miss it. Don't minimize it. And whatever you do, don't let anyone convince you it doesn't count because it isn't finished yet. The fresh sign of green; the shoot is through the soil. That matters. You matter. And the God who started this good work in you is still at work in you. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
- 84193 Dare to LookYou know the story — a little girl in a red hood walks through the woods carrying something precious, and somewhere along the way, she realizes that what she's looking at isn't what it seems. The eyes are too big. The teeth are too sharp. The voice is close, but it isn't safe. And yet the part of that story we often overlook isn't the wolf. It's the girl. She looked. She noticed. She didn't just accept what was sitting in front of her — she questioned it. Dare to look. And that is exactly where your courage begins. If you've been walking through this week asking yourself what thoughts you've never questioned, welcome to Rise With Truth — because today, you are daring to look, and you're already braver than you think. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #Inspiration #CreateYourNow #DailyMotivation Most of us grew up hearing the tale of Little Red Riding Hood as a warning — be careful, stay on the path, don't talk to strangers. But there's something deeper in that story when you hold it up to the light. There was a moment when Little Red Riding Hood stood in that room and could have accepted the disguise. She could have ignored the feeling in her gut. She could have smiled and gone along with what she was being told. But instead, she looked closer. What big eyes you have. What big ears you have. What big teeth you have. Question by question, she pulled back the cover on something that had been pretending to be safe. That's what it looks like to examine your thought life. Some of the thoughts you've been living with have been dressed up in familiar voices — comfortable, well-worn, almost believable. They sound like home. They sound like truth. But when you lean in and really look, something doesn't add up. The thought that says you'll never be enough? It's wearing a disguise. The belief that tells you it's too late to change? Its teeth are too sharp to be anything that loves you. The voice that whispers you should just keep quiet and stop hoping for more? That voice is not your grandmother, my friend. That voice is the wolf. And here's the part of the story no one talks about enough — it takes extraordinary courage to question what's familiar. Little Red Riding Hood didn't run at first. She looked. She asked. She let herself see what was really in front of her. That is not small. Mary Anne Radmacher put it this way: "Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow.'" The bravest thing you may do this week isn't to make a grand declaration. It may be pulling back the covers on a thought you've accepted your whole life and finally asking, But is this true? Bravery doesn't begin with the breakthrough. It begins with honesty. It begins the moment you admit, I've been carrying something that doesn't belong to me. Maybe it's a thought about your worth that someone else planted. Maybe it's a belief about what you deserve that was handed to you so long ago you forgot it wasn't yours. Whatever it is, the moment you dare to look at it — really look, the way that girl in the red hood looked — is the moment it starts to lose its power. The K.I.S.S. ~ Dare to look! And unlike Little Red Riding Hood, you don't face the wolf alone. Joshua 1:9 says, "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." Wherever you go — that includes the deep woods of your own thought life. That includes the room where something has been pretending to comfort you while it slowly devours your peace. God doesn't send you in unprotected. He commands courage and then stands right beside you while you pull back every disguise. He's not waiting on the other side of the hard thing. He's with you in the middle of it. So if you woke up today wondering whether you have what it takes to do this — to really begin the work of examining your mind and making it new — I need you to hear me clearly. You've already started. You started the moment you chose to pay attention. You started the moment you stopped accepting every thought at face value and said, What big lies you have. That is not weakness. That is one of the strongest things a woman can do. This journey isn't about tearing yourself apart. It's about opening yourself up — gently, bravely, honestly — and inviting God into the spaces you've been managing on your own. The wolf only has power in the dark. The wolf only wins when no one looks. But you're looking. And the God who walks with you wherever you go has already written how this story ends — not with the wolf, but with the girl who dared to see the truth. So rise, my sweet friend. Rise with the truth that you are held, you are not alone, and the courage you need has already been given to you. One honest look at a time, one surrendered thought at a time, one quiet "I will try again tomorrow" at a time — you are becoming the woman God already sees when He looks at you. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
- 94192 The Thoughts You Don't QuestionYou woke up this morning, and before your feet touched the floor, your mind was already running. Maybe it started with the to-do list — the one that never quite finishes. Maybe it started with a replay of something you said yesterday that you wish you hadn't. Maybe it was that low hum of not-enough that meets you before the coffee does. And yet, you didn't stop to question any of it. You just let it play. We all do. But here's where it gets tricky — because the thoughts you don't question are the ones running your life. Think about that for a moment. Not the loud, dramatic fears — those get your attention. It's the quiet ones. The familiar ones. The thoughts so constant and so close that they don't even register as thoughts anymore. They just feel like you. "I should be further along by now." "Everyone else seems to have it together." "I'll never be the woman I want to be." Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #MindsetMonday #CreateYourNow #PersonalDevelopment These aren't things you'd say out loud to your best friend, but you've said them to yourself so many times they've moved in, rearranged the furniture, and started paying rent. And that's exactly the problem! "The most dangerous thoughts in your head aren't the ones you argue with — they're the ones you never challenge at all." ~ Kristianne Wargo David understood this. In Psalm 139:23–24, he prayed one of the bravest prayers in all of Scripture. "Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." ~ Psalm 139:23-24 David didn't ask God to fix his behavior first. He didn't start with his actions or his habits. He went straight to the root — his thoughts. His anxious thoughts. The ones that sat underneath everything else. David was essentially saying, "God, I need You to go where I can't go on my own. I need You to see what I've stopped seeing." That takes courage. Because asking God to search your thought life means you're admitting you don't have it all sorted out. It means acknowledging that somewhere in the constant hum of your inner dialogue, there might be things that aren't true — things that feel true, things that have been there for years, things you inherited from your childhood or absorbed from the world — but they aren't from Him. And if they aren't from God, they don't belong. Here's what you need to understand today: your thoughts are not neutral. They are not harmless background noise. Every thought you entertain is shaping the woman you are becoming. Proverbs 23:7 says it plainly — "For as he thinks in his heart, so is he." What you think about yourself, what you think about God, what you think about your future — those thoughts are building something. The question is whether they're building the life God designed you for, or a cage you were never meant to live in. You can think of your thoughts like all those Legos lying around waiting to "become" something. And the more they are there, the more likely they will be a part of who you are and who you are becoming. Most of us have never been taught to audit our own minds. We diet. We exercise. We organize our closets and set goals for the new year. But very few women sit down and ask, "What have I been thinking — really thinking — and is it true?" We treat our thought life like the weather: something that just happens to us. But Scripture tells us a different story. Scripture tells us our thought life is a garden — and we get to choose what grows. Joyce Meyer wrote, "You may not be able to control every thought that comes into your mind, but you can refuse to let it stay." That's the distinction. You can't stop a thought from arriving — a worry, a comparison, a whisper of doubt — but you absolutely get to decide whether it gets a seat at the table. And the first step in that decision is noticing it's there in the first place. That's what this week is about. Not fixing your thought life yet. Not replacing every negative pattern overnight. Just seeing. Becoming aware. Because you can't hand something to God that you haven't first been honest about carrying. So question your thoughts! The K.I.S.S. ~ Question your thoughts! What have you stopped seeing? If someone could read the transcript of your mind for the last seven days — unedited, unfiltered — what would they find on repeat? Let's start there and see what you discover. PDF Download HERE 1. PAUSE AND NOTICE — three times a day, write what you're thinking. Set a reminder on your phone for three times a day — morning, midday, and evening. When it goes off, stop what you're doing and write down the thought that was just playing in your head. Don't edit it. Don't clean it up. Don't make it sound better than it is. If it was "I'll never get ahead," write that. If it was "Nobody notices what I do," write that. If it was "I don't know what I'm doing and everyone's going to figure it out" — write it down word for word. This isn't journaling for beauty. This is an honest inventory. You need to see what's actually playing on the loop before you can change the station. By the end of the week, you'll have roughly twenty-one raw snapshots of your unfiltered thought life. That's powerful information. That's the starting line. 2. At the end of the week, CIRCLE THE REPEATS and ask: "Is this mine, or did I pick it up somewhere?" When Friday or Saturday comes, sit down with your notes and look for the patterns. Some thoughts will appear once — just passing clouds. But others will show up again and again and again. Those are the ones to circle. Those are the tenants. Now, next to each repeated thought, ask yourself this question: Where did this come from? Did it come from something someone said to you as a child? From a failure that you never fully processed? From the world's definition of success, beauty, or worth? From the endless scroll of someone else's highlight reel? Because here's the truth many of us miss: not every thought in your head started with you. Some were handed to you — by culture, by hurt, by comparison, by fear — and you simply never handed them back. Identifying the source isn't about placing blame. It's about reclaiming authority over what gets to stay. 3. PRAY Psalm 139:23–24 every single day this week — out loud. This is the bravest step, and it's the most important one. Before you try to fix a single thought pattern, invite God in first. Every morning this week, pray David's words out loud — not silently, not in your head, out loud: "Search me, God, and know my heart. Test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." When you pray this out loud, you're giving God permission to show you what you haven't been willing to look at on your own. You're telling Him, "I trust You more than I trust my own narrative." And you're setting the tone — a mind made new doesn't start with a strategy; it starts with a surrender. This week is about paying attention, being aware. Don't fix it yet. Don't pressure yourself to change everything by Monday. Just notice. Become the woman who is aware of what she's been thinking — not the woman who lets her thoughts think for her. The moment you start questioning the thoughts you've never questioned, you create space for God to speak something new. And He will. He always does. He's been waiting for you to make room. A mind made new doesn't happen in a single moment. It happens in a single decision — the decision to stop letting your thoughts run unchecked and start holding them up to the truth of who God says you are. And that decision? You just made it. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
- 104191 The First Step is AskingThere are moments in life when you stand at the crossroads, and everything in you wants to know which way to go. You've prayed. You've weighed the options. You've asked the people closest to you what they think. And still, the path ahead feels uncertain. But what if the breakthrough you've been searching for doesn't start with more information, more advice, or more time? What if the first step is asking — not the people around you, but the God above you? That's where wisdom begins. Not with having the answers, but with being brave enough to admit we need them. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #SweetSpirit #CreateYourNow #SoulfulSunday James 1:5–6 tells us, "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt." God gives generously, without finding fault. He doesn't roll His eyes when we come to Him confused. He doesn't keep a tally of how many times we've asked the same question. He gives — and He gives freely. But here's the part we sometimes rush past. James says we have to ask in faith, without doubting. That doesn't mean we have to be perfect. It means we have to be willing to trust that when God speaks, He means it. Asking without faith is like opening your hands to receive a gift and then pulling them back before it's placed in them. God is extending wisdom to us, but we have to keep our hands open long enough to receive it. Proverbs 2 paints an even fuller picture. Solomon writes, "If you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding." There's urgency in those words. Call out. Cry aloud. Search for it like treasure. Wisdom isn't something that just falls into our laps while we're scrolling through our phones. It takes pursuit. It takes hunger. It takes the kind of seeking that says, "God, I'm not moving until I hear from You." And that might be the most countercultural thing a woman can do today — slow down long enough to seek God before she makes the next move. The K.I.S.S. ~ The first step is asking! We live in a world that celebrates speed. Quick decisions. Fast results. Instant answers at our fingertips. But speed without wisdom is just motion without direction. You can be busy every single day and still be walking in circles. Wisdom is what gives your steps purpose. It's the difference between running hard and running toward something that matters. Think about the women in your life who carry a quiet strength. The ones who don't panic when everything shifts. The ones who seem to know when to speak and when to stay silent, when to move and when to wait. That's not luck. That's not personality. That's the fruit of a woman who has spent time in the presence of God, asking Him for what she cannot manufacture on her own. You don't have to have it all figured out today. You don't have to see every step ahead of you before you take the first one. But you do have to be willing to ask. And not just once — every morning, every decision, every conversation that matters. "God, give me wisdom for this." It's one of the simplest prayers you will ever pray, and it's one He has promised to answer. So wherever you are right now — standing at a crossroads, sitting in uncertainty, or just trying to get through a season that feels heavier than you expected — start here. Ask Him. He's not withholding. He's waiting for you to come to Him with open hands and a willing heart. This is the beginning of something beautiful. Over the coming weeks, we're going to walk through what it looks like to live in wisdom every single day — in our homes, in our relationships, in our decisions, and in our faith. But it all starts right here, right now, with a single, honest prayer: "Lord, give me wisdom." With God, nothing is impossible. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
- 114190 Falling In Love All Over AgainThere is something about the turn of a season that invites us to look at our lives with fresh eyes. The leaves begin to shift, the air cools just enough to remind us that change is not only natural; it's necessary. And if we are honest with ourselves, sometimes the most important thing that needs a fresh look is not our wardrobe or our schedule. It is our marriage. So what if during this beautiful new season, you commit to falling in love all over again. Now, before you close this page and say, "Kristianne, my marriage is fine," let me stop you right there. This is not about fixing what is broken. This is about choosing — on purpose, with intention — to strengthen what already exists. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow #LoveAndMarriage Because here is the truth that nobody tells you at the altar: love is not a feeling you fall into once and ride for the rest of your life. Love is a decision you make every single morning when your feet hit the floor. It is a daily yes. A repeated choosing. And some of us have gotten so busy choosing everything else — the career, the kids, the ministry, the groceries — that we have forgotten to choose each other. Think about it. When was the last time you looked at your spouse — really looked — and remembered why you said yes? Not the version of them that leaves dishes in the sink or forgets to take out the trash. The one who made your heart race. The one who made you laugh until your stomach hurt. The one God handpicked for you. That person is still there. And so is that love. It just needs some tending. Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us, "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." This is your season. Right here. Right now. This fall, we are not just watching the leaves change. We are letting God change us — as wives, as partners, as the women who stand beside the men He gave us. Over the next sixteen Saturdays, we are going to walk through this season together, and by the time we ring in the new year, we will not just be surviving our marriages. We will be celebrating them. I heard someone say once, "A great marriage is not when the perfect couple comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences." That is what this journey is about. Not perfection. Not pretending. Just presence. Just purpose. Just two imperfect people deciding that their love story is worth investing in — again. So wherever you are today — whether your marriage is thriving, surviving, or somewhere in between — you belong here. Pull up a chair. Grab your coffee. And let's begin. The K.I.S.S. ~ Fall into love on purpose! What are you currently doing in your marriage now? Are you making your marriage a priority? Are you making your spouse a priority? 1. Set Your Season with a Conversation. Before this week ends, sit down with your spouse and tell them what you are doing. Say it plainly: "I want to spend this fall being more intentional about us." You do not need a speech. You do not need a plan. You just need to open the door. Let them know they are your priority — not because something is wrong, but because they are worth it. 2. Write Down Three Things You Love About Your Spouse — Right Now. Not three things you loved ten years ago. Three things that are true today. Maybe it is the way they handle stress with patience. Maybe it is how they show up for the kids without being asked. Maybe it is that they still make you laugh. Write them down. Put the list somewhere you will see it this week. Let gratitude be the first seed you plant in this season. 3. Pray a Simple Prayer Over Your Marriage Every Day This Week. It does not need to be long. It does not need to be eloquent. Just honest. Try this: "Lord, thank You for my marriage. Open my eyes to see my spouse the way You see them. Give me a heart that chooses love — today and every day. Amen." Seven days. One prayer. Watch what God begins to stir. One step at a time leads to miles of greatness. And that is exactly what we are doing here — one Saturday at a time, one conversation at a time, one prayer at a time. This is not a race. It is a walk. A slow, beautiful, hand-in-hand walk back to each other. I will meet you right here next Saturday. Until then, love well. Love on purpose. And remember — every great love story has chapters. This is the beginning of a brand new one. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
- 124189 Find Your Calm in the Chaos of ParentingEvery parent knows that moment when the house is loud, the demands are relentless, someone is crying, and you're not entirely sure it isn't you. Parenting was never meant to be quiet or perfectly composed, but somewhere between the sippy cups and the slammed doors, you can find your calm in the chaos of parenting. Not a calm that pretends everything is fine, but a calm that holds steady because it's rooted in something deeper than the moment. Raising kids takes every ounce of dedication and determination you have. It pulls from reserves you didn't know existed and asks you to pour out again before you've had the chance to be filled back up. And through all of it — the tantrums, the teenage eye rolls, the battles over bedtime — the heartbeat underneath it all is unconditional love. You wouldn't fight this hard for anything that didn't matter this much. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #ConfessionsOfAnUpsetMama #CreateYourNow #TodaysParent But here's where the confession comes in. Love doesn't automatically mean we handle things well. Some of the worst moments in our parenting don't come from a lack of love — they come from being so full of love, so full of wanting to get it right, that our emotions take the wheel before wisdom has a chance to sit down. We yell when we meant to listen. We react when we meant to respond. And then the guilt shows up right on time, whispering that a good mom wouldn't have done that. Can I tell you something? A good mom absolutely does that. A good mom is human. The difference isn't perfection — it's what you do next. It's the willingness to pause, to breathe, to look at your child and remember that this tiny or not-so-tiny human isn't your enemy. They're your assignment. And God doesn't give assignments without equipping you for them. Proverbs 15:1 tells us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." That verse isn't just about conflict resolution — it's a parenting strategy. Gentleness is not weakness. It is one of the most disciplined, intentional choices a parent can make. It means choosing your words when everything in you wants to let them fly. It means staying grounded when chaos is spinning around you like a tornado with Legos in it. And let's talk about what calm parenting is not. It's not passive. It's not permissive. It's not whispering through gritted teeth while your blood pressure tells a different story. Calm parenting is a posture — an inner steadiness that says, "I will not let this moment define how I lead my family." It's Galatians 5:22-23 in action: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. The fruit of the Spirit isn't just for Sunday morning. It's for Tuesday at 5:47 p.m. when dinner is burning and someone just drew on the wall with a permanent marker. The K.I.S.S. ~ Lead with love, not with volume! So what does it actually look like to parent from a place of peace instead of a place of pressure? 1. Lower your voice instead of raising it. When tension rises, our volume tends to follow. But raising your voice rarely accomplishes what you're hoping for. A calm, steady tone signals safety. It tells your child, "I'm in control of myself, and you can trust me in this moment." You don't have to match their energy — you get to set it. The next time things escalate, try bringing your voice down one notch instead of up. You might be amazed at how quickly the room follows. 2. Separate the behavior from the child. This one changes everything. There is a world of difference between "You are so disrespectful" and "That behavior is not okay." One attacks identity. The other addresses the action. Your child needs to know that your love for who they are is never on the table — even when what they did needs correction. When we speak to the behavior and not the heart, we leave room for growth instead of shame. And isn't that exactly what God does with us? 3. Give yourself grace to try again. You're going to lose your cool. It's going to happen. And when it does, the enemy would love nothing more than for you to sit in that failure and let it convince you that you're not cut out for this. Don't let him. Every single moment is a new opportunity to model the patience and grace you're asking your children to learn. Apologize when you need to. Reset when you need to. And remember — your kids don't need a perfect parent. They need a present one who keeps showing up. You were chosen for these children. Not because you had it all figured out, but because God knew your love would be fierce enough to keep learning, keep growing, and keep surrendering the hard stuff back to Him. The chaos isn't going anywhere. Kids are loud and life is unpredictable and there will always be another mess to clean up. But you — you can stand in the middle of all of it with a peace that doesn't make sense to anyone watching from the outside. Because it's not about getting it right every time. It's about getting back up every time. It's about choosing love over volume, peace over perfection, and grace over guilt. That's not weakness. That's the strongest kind of parenting there is. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
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