4227 Who Told You That?

4227 Who Told You That?

October 26, 2026 · 32 min

Somewhere along the way, somebody said something about you — and you believed it. Maybe it wasn't even spoken out loud. Maybe it was a glance. A silence where encouragement should have been. A tone that told you you're not enough without ever using those words. And without even realizing it, you tucked that message into the deepest part of who you are and started building your life around it. So who told you that? Because here's the thing — and I say this as someone who spent years running on a script I didn't write — most of us have never stopped long enough to ask where our thoughts about ourselves actually came from. We just… accepted them. Like hand-me-down clothes that never fit right, but we wore them anyway because we didn't know we had a choice. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com #MindsetMonday #CreateYourNow #PersonalDevelopment Think about it. What have you been told — directly or indirectly — that has directed your decisions, shaped how you see yourself, and colored everything you believe you're capable of? Do you really think about what you think about when it comes to who you are? And maybe the bigger question is this: who decided that for you? Look at Jake Bauers with the Milwaukee Brewers. You know the name of the team because they are playing in the 2026 World Series as we speak with the third game tonight. He broke into the MLB in 2018 with the Tampa Bay Rays. Imagine that? But as time moved on, his career didn't rev up maybe as he had hoped, being shuffled between the majors and Triple-A. In 2024, he was traded to the Milwaukee Brewers and by November he was removed from the 40-man roster. Free agency was where he was headed. Imagine all the things that went through Bauers' head. We can play mind games with ourselves to the point of burying us alive in the "not good enough" graveyard. I've been there. Headstone already engraved. Flowers laid. And the whole time I was the one digging the hole. Not because the lies were true — but because I never questioned who handed me the shovel. Who wants to live a life on lies? Here's what nobody tells you: every single day requires the act of renewing your mind. Not once a year at a conference. Not when you hit rock bottom and finally cry out. Every. Single. Day. This is deciding what you want to see and what you let into your mind, your body, and your spirit. This is not something to take lightly. And honestly? It's not talked about nearly enough — except in those surface-level conversations about "being more positive" or "having a better posture in what you do." But can I be real with you? Is that really leading your life the way God intended? Romans 12:2 is one of the most quoted verses in the entire Bible — and if you've been in church for any length of time, you've probably heard it so many times it slides right off. But listen to it again like it's the first time: "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is — his good, pleasing and perfect will." — Romans 12:2 (NIV) Did you catch that? This isn't a suggestion. This isn't a self-help tip with a Bible verse attached. As Paul reminds us what God desires: Stop letting the world write the script for your life. Stop letting culture, comparison, social media, old wounds, reels, shorts, YouTube, and other people's opinions shape how you think about yourself. Be transformed. And how? By the renewing of your mind. But here's the part we skip right over — this isn't a one-time event. This is a daily choosing. Every morning you wake up, there's a battle already in motion for what's going to occupy your thoughts. The world is loud. It has an opinion about your worth, your beauty, your success, your role, your body. And if you're not intentionally putting something different in? You're going to default to whatever's been playing on repeat. Paul drives this even deeper in Ephesians: "You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness." — Ephesians 4:22–24 (NIV) Put off. Be made new. Put on. That's not passive. That's an exchange. You don't just wake up one day and think differently because you hoped really hard. You take off the old — the lies, the labels, the limitations, limiting beliefs — and you deliberately put on what God says instead. Not by willpower. By surrender. Marcus Aurelius once wrote, "The soul is dyed the color of its thoughts." And while that's not Scripture, it sure lines up with it. What you soak your mind in is what you become. If you've been marinating in "I'm not enough," "I'll never change," "It's too late for me" — that's the color you're wearing. And it was never the one God picked out for you. "You don't have to stay dressed in what the world put on you. God already laid out something better — you just have to be brave enough to change." — Kristianne Wargo The K.I.S.S. ~ Renew your M.I.N.D.! DOWNLOAD HERE TO RENEW YOUR MIND! So what does renewal actually look like in real life? It looks like catching yourself mid-thought — that old, familiar voice that says you're behind, you're failing, you're not like her — and choosing to interrupt it. It looks like opening your Bible before you open your phone. It looks like saying out loud, "That's not what God says about me," even when your feelings are screaming something different. It looks like deciding, before your feet hit the floor, that today you will not conform. Today, you choose new. You get to dress up in your new jeans, put on the slub tee, those shoes with red bottoms, and the sparkly jewelry that highlights your smile. Dress your mind in what matters. M — MARK the lie you've been living by. Get honest. Write it down. What is the one thought about yourself that you've carried so long it feels like fact? "I'm too much." "I'm not good enough." "I don't deserve good things." "Nothing's gonna change." Name it — because you can't put off what you won't acknowledge. I — INTERRUPT the pattern with God's Word. Find one Scripture that speaks the opposite truth over that lie. Write it on a card, tape it to your mirror, set it as your phone wallpaper. Every time the old thought surfaces this week, read that verse out loud. Out loud matters — faith comes by hearing, and sometimes you need to hear your own voice speaking what God already said. N — NEGOTIATE nothing with the old narrative. Stop entertaining it. Stop giving it a seat at the table. When the lie shows up dressed as wisdom — "I'm just being realistic" — recognize it for what it is: a pattern of this world trying to conform you. You are not being renewed if you're still negotiating with all of your lies trying to make them truths. D — DECIDE before your feet hit the floor. Every morning there are new mercies and a fresh exchange. Before the noise starts, before the phone lights up, before the world gets a word in — declare it: "Today, I put off the old and I put on the new. Today, I choose to think the way God sees me." Make it a daily, deliberate, out-loud decision. Remember Jake Bauers? Well, he told his agent that he was going to retire. Yet 3 days later, his wife announced the pregnancy of their second child. "Guess I get to go back to work." He re-signed with the Brewers and was named the 2026 MVP of the National League Championship Series (NLCS) after helping the Brewers get to the World Series. Do you think he had to renew his mind? Do you think he had to change what he was dressing in every day — mind, body, and spirit? Friend, you were never meant to live under the weight of someone else's verdict about you. You were never meant to carry labels that God didn't write. And the beautiful, messy, brave truth is this — renewal is available to you right now. You don't have to wait for it; you can create your now today! This isn't about being more positive. This isn't about trying harder just to think happy thoughts. This is about surrendering your thought life to the One who created your mind in the first place and letting Him do what only God can do — transform you from the inside out. So who told you that you weren't good enough? Who told you it was too late? Who told you that you are what you've done or what's been done to you? Because God says different. And His Word doesn't return void. "Renewal is not an upgrade — it's an exchange. You give God the lies, and He gives you the truth. Every single day, that trade is available. Take it and run with it. One step at a time leads to miles of greatness." — Kristianne Wargo "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"   🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation  - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. 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