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Faith Through Pregnancy & Motherhood | S2E43 BEYOND I DO PODCAST
August 7, 2025 · 59 min
Pregnancy isn't just a physical journey—it’s a deeply spiritual one. In this powerful episode, Ashlee Mesa is joined by guests Alize and Nancy to unpack the highs and lows of motherhood through a lens of faith. From morning sickness and fear to unexpected complications, this conversation draws from the stories of Sarah, Hannah, Elizabeth, and Eve to show how God shapes both body and soul in the process.Whether you're expecting, hoping to be, or simply supporting someone in the journey, this episode will stir your heart toward deeper trust in God’s timing and plan. It’s a reminder that we’re not alone—that even in the waiting, the pain, and the uncertainty, God is working. And through it all, community, prayer, and faith are the anchors that carry us.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Alize & Nancyhttps://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
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Adam Mesa is Lead Pastor of Patria Church and speaks to a congregation of 12,000 about how the gospel of Jesus Christ brings purpose to every life. Patria
August 7, 2025 · 59 min · Beyond the Letter
Pregnancy isn't just a physical journey—it’s a deeply spiritual one. In this powerful episode, Ashlee Mesa is joined by guests Alize and Nancy to unpack the highs and lows of motherhood through a lens of faith. From morning sickness and fear to unexpected complications, this conversation draws from the stories of Sarah, Hannah, Elizabeth, and Eve to show how God shapes both body and soul in the process.Whether you're expecting, hoping to be, or simply supporting someone in the journey, this episode will stir your heart toward deeper trust in God’s timing and plan. It’s a reminder that we’re not alone—that even in the waiting, the pain, and the uncertainty, God is working. And through it all, community, prayer, and faith are the anchors that carry us.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Alize & Nancyhttps://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com ...more Show the full description Show less Pregnancy isn't just a physical journey—it’s a deeply spiritual one. In this powerful episode, Ashlee Mesa is joined by guests Alize and Nancy to unpack the highs and lows of motherhood through a lens of faith. From morning sickness and fear to unexpected complications, this conversation draws from the stories of Sarah, Hannah, Elizabeth, and Eve to show how God shapes both body and soul in the process.Whether you're expecting, hoping to be, or simply supporting someone in the journey, this episode will stir your heart toward deeper trust in God’s timing and plan. It’s a reminder that we’re not alone—that even in the waiting, the pain, and the uncertainty, God is working. And through it all, community, prayer, and faith are the anchors that carry us.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Alize & Nancyhttps://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
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1:57 that's within both my children. Yeah. So and just the aspect of what it takes to be a mother, and I know there's mothers that are all different. It could be adoptive mother. It could be a
2:09 godmother. It could be a mother mother. It could be there is so many levels to motherhood Yeah. And how we talk about how God has created us innately just to be a mother Mhmm. And how he
2:20 has designed us to be motherly. Yeah. Regardless if we have our own or not, it's just something that's within us Right. That we have inherited, and God has graced us with to have the patience, love,
2:32 kindness, sometimes a little bit drenched. But but we
2:35 get there. Yes. It always impresses me with like the energy, the things that moms do. I'm like, wow, I'm tired and I have no kids at all. So I'm like, this is crazy. But yeah, I
2:47 just was thinking about it more and more because, like, my sister, obviously, she has a 1 year old, and so I've seen her kinda walk through that from a distance. And now I'm like, oh my gosh. She tells me about certain
2:58 things, how her labor and delivery went. Mhmm. And I was like, this is the perfect time with this just girl so we can kind of be, you know, just full on cramps or whatever. I know
3:05 we have some guys in the room.
3:06 Like, all that good stuff. So I'm just, like, curious because it I've never really had the like, these craving desires to be a mom. I I would just always think, Okay, maybe 1
3:18 day. But I've always just wanted to achieve a career and then possibly 1 day get married. So I have friends on the opposite side where all they want is to be a mother. They're like, I don't get the man, that's
3:30 fine, but I just wanna be a mother. And I'm like I know, Jose.
3:35 Jose's a mother
3:36 to me.
3:37 She's a mother to to Malorie.
3:38 So good at Malorie.
3:39 There's a 2 different species. Your children, your dog,
3:43 mother to a planet perhaps. No. And you're so good at it. So I'm just like, just seeing her go through
3:49 that
3:50 journey and everything, I'm just like curious when it comes to obviously preparing when you are pregnant. Everybody has different stories during pregnancy and stuff. I'm just like, that's always scared me.
4:01 Like, I'm like, oh my gosh. The delivery process. People talk about, like, the symptoms that they get, like, all these crazy things. I don't know if I should say, but I'm like
4:11 and all that cravings and all that stuff. Yeah.
4:15 So I'm like, how could would you be okay sharing, like, your
4:17 experience with the boys? Yeah. Like, how that So when first, I'll just start off. Like, when Adam and I decided that we wanted to be get pregnant, it
4:28 was obviously a topic of conversation because I I'll be full transparent. I was on birth control. Mhmm. I wanted to enjoy the first years of our marriage. Yeah. And so there's a lot of
4:41 couples that I do talk to and they say they don't want kids right away. Mhmm. Mhmm. But I I my first question then is what are the preventatives? Like, what are you doing to not get
4:53 pregnant? Yeah. If you don't and I'm not saying birth control and some people have their own reasons behind it, and they may not like that my answer, and they have a different tactic. But for me,
5:04 my last thought of intimacy with my husband was something that I had to be scared of of because in reality, when you are intimate with your spouse,
5:16 intimacy is to create a child. Like, it's obviously for pleasure, but it's also to The point is. The point is, so when people say, like, I was so shocked I got pregnant, and then I'm like,
5:28 did you have sex? And they're like, yeah. I don't know why you're shocked. Right. Right. That's what happened.
5:33 Right. Someone told you this? Right.
5:35 Like, if you continually go to McDonald's every day for a Big Mac, you will get big. Right. And be a Big Mac. So I don't understand, like, do the, like, the math will math. Like, it just makes sense.
5:47 Mhmm. So when Adam and I were having the conversation about, like, wanting to have kids, we said for the first at least 2 years, we wanna enjoy our marriage. Mhmm. So for the first 2 years, I was on birth control. And it
5:57 was a conversation that I had with him because at first, he's like, I don't want you to be on it. I I'm against it sort of. Not against it, but more so natural. Natural. Like Yeah. Mhmm. Don't put things in your body
6:07 that shouldn't. And and so and then I was like, I hear you out, but you don't get pregnant. Like, you don't like, that that is not something you have to worry about. Yeah. I do. So for
6:19 me, I would feel more comfortable and free in our marriage if I was on birth control. And that's just how I did it. Yeah. So then after for because they have a lot of
6:30 thoughts behind birth control. They say that it could interfere with infertility. Mhmm. It could take longer to get pregnant depending on how long you've been on it. Mhmm. But I was fully transparent with Adam. I've been
6:41 on it for a minute. Mhmm. Mhmm. So and that was just me regulating and knowing what the time of the month. That was what I wanted to know. Right. So telling him beforehand, before we even got
6:52 married, hey, this is what's gonna happen. Yeah. And having that conversation now and not after we get married and then all of a sudden say, well, I wanna get on birth control. And the husband's like, well, I I don't
7:03 want you on it. I just whatever happens happens. Mhmm. So having the topic of conversation not only of your protection if you guys don't wanna have kids right away Mhmm. But also understanding if you do wanna have
7:15 kids right, what that looks like. Yeah. Having those type of conversations because understand, like, after you get married, intimacy, you are going to want to have with your spouse. Mhmm. So if you do not want to get
7:26 pregnant, what are you preventing yourself? Like, how are you preventing it? So then when Adam and I got, it was about 2 years in, and I was like, hey. Do you think we're because at the first because the first 2 years,
7:38 we were like, yes. Let's do that. Like, we can have a kid whenever. Dun dun dun. Yeah. Then we were at each other's throats. That's when we were arguing and bickering and fighting and the intimacy side of things, the
7:47 jealousy side for me. Mhmm.
7:48 Was that just during the first 2 years, or was it because of the conversations of wanting to have kids or maybe because you guys were waiting to have kids? Like or that was just natural
7:57 It was just such experience. Experience. Like, you just naturally have conversations because you're with somebody and you're like, oh, we can add a kid to this. What would this would be a family. This would be fun. This
8:08 would be the right time. You always think it's the right time until it happens and you're like, ah. Yeah. We have a kid coming. Like, now we have to prepare. So every time we brought up a kid conversation, we
8:19 realized within our marriage, it wasn't ready for a child.
8:22 Yeah.
8:23 And so we had Sanaaz and Nathan, pastor Sanaaz and Nathan basically set us down and was like, hey, where you guys are at in your marriage right now, I don't think it would be healthy to bring a child in. Mhmm. 1, you
8:33 guys are Ashley, you have some insecurities that you've got to deal deal with, which was absolutely correct. 2, Adam had some healing that we had gone through through church and everything like that as far as just the
8:44 dynamic of change and us being together, and then we lost friends. So the healing in that space and, like, not having the same community. So that all changed so quickly within the first 2 years of our
8:56 marriage. Yeah. So not only are we trying to navigate us, we're trying to navigate this new season with new friends and lack thereof, and then my insecurities that bled over from my, wrongdoing prior to getting married.
9:09 So it's just a lot. Yeah. So, like, sometimes it's it's really peeling back prior to even having kids and having those hard conversations of saying, am I good? Yeah. Am I good? Because
9:20 not only am I good in myself, am I good in my marriage? Because when you bring a child in, it is no longer about you. Yeah. The child takes up all your space. So there was a point in time where Adam and I, we took my
9:32 niece and nephew. I think I've said it, shared it on the podcast before. We took my niece and nephew. We'd had no kids. We were 2 years in thinking like, oh, we could have kids. Mhmm. And so we took them into Disneyland.
9:42 Mhmm. My niece, Charlie and Noah, we took them to Disneyland, and it was just the 4 of us. Had a blast. Had a great time. Adam and I were like, we can do this. Like, we're we're tag teaming the whole thing.
9:54 The 1 thing at the end of the day that I told him Mhmm. Is I said, I don't feel like I saw you at all today.
10:03 Wow. And you guys were together?
10:06 We we together the whole entire time. Yeah. The whole time. Like, we went from ride to ride to ride to ride. We were together. Yeah. But at 1 point, I have Charlie. We're going to the bathroom. I have
10:17 Noah getting a smoothie. We're going in this line. He doesn't wanna go on ride. I'm standing and not going on a ride. We're maneuvering. We're eating. Hey. What do you guys want? We're sitting at the table. Like, now I'm
10:27 eating because I'm hungry. Then, oh, someone spilled this. Someone got to do that. It's a whole it was a whole it was a eye opening experience to where I'm like, we got a taste of what it's gonna be like if we have
10:39 kids Yeah. And the intentionality him and I would have to have to see each other and to be intentional about having those moments Right. Right.
10:50 To hold each other's hands to connect. Yes. So when we decided to have Matthias, like, I got off birth control, got pregnant within a month.
10:59 Old were you?
11:00 How old are you? Jesus. I'm just curious. In a later stage 7 years ago, I'm 30. 30. 30. Okay. Wait. Yeah. Yes. 30. I was yes. I had him 29. I had him at 29 because then
11:12 the re thank you for that because then I remember the 6 months after I got sick during my birthday. Oh. So I was turning 30.
11:19 And what age did you get married at? 28. 28.
11:22 Yes. Yes. 20. Yeah. 20. No. No. No. No. No. No. Not 28. It would have been 26. 26, 27, 28, 27.
11:31 Like somewhere around that. So, like, maybe, like, around 3 years of being married, you
11:34 guys decided you were ready. So was about 27. Yeah. I I I think. No. You're good. Yeah. And so we decided to have Matthias at that time, and we got pregnant girl right
11:46 away. We ended up we snag. Let's get all pregnant. Burnt all girls. Yes. So it's crazy. So I think it was we yeah. Because we ended up going away for our anniversary, and we
11:58 went to San Diego, which pastor Diego laughs at all the time because we went to their condo. And so we
12:04 San Diego town is crazy. So anytime he's like He's renting
12:09 it Did you wash my shit? And we're like, oh my gosh. Okay. Sorry, pastor Diego.
12:16 Take some advice. Look. This is where you were Hello. I think they got a new bed since then too,
12:22 so we're good. So we ended up getting pregnant right away. So I didn't know, though, right away. I a lot of women that say, like, oh, I'm I'm so in tuned with my body. Yeah. Not until after
12:34 I had Matthias was I very much then in tune with my body. I didn't women say, oh, I know when I'm ovulating. I know this. I know that I'd have I didn't I didn't care to know the concept of it. Yeah. Yeah. Like, those
12:45 weren't my thoughts. I'm like, I don't care. So we end up getting pregnant right away. We got pregnant in October. So around and then Matthias was born in June. Mhmm. And during that time, Adam and I had multiple
12:57 conversations about what we were going to do. Because in that time, I don't I can't remember him and I. I don't think we had yet moved in with Diego and Cindy because
13:08 I was at that moment of, like, I don't feel like our house I didn't feel like the house we were living in was my house. Like, I there was this I know I'm probably crazy.
13:17 Yes. You guys talked to me
13:18 about that. And then how we had said that he he had a whole bunch of people living in it because it was expensive, and then he was like, cut the cost, rent out rooms. And then I'm like then I move in and I'm like, I just
13:30 don't doesn't feel like home. Yeah. And so then he was like, okay, then what we'll do is we'll move in with my parents and then we'll live there. Mhmm. So we end up having Matthias at his parents' house. So we lived
13:41 there for a year with we said we live in yes. 5 of us there lived there. And so during that time, though, of pregnancy with Matthias, I would say I would say I
13:52 did have a fairly easy pregnancy when it came to Matthias. Pregnancy when it came to Matthias. I I know there's a lot of women that have either struggled with the swelling, the bloating, the nausea that happened. First
14:03 trimester is the worst.
14:05 Like, I can't even smell anything
14:07 Yes. That they get it begins to just like your so the senses Heightened. Heightened. So I'll tell you how I knew I was pregnant because during that time, ironically,
14:19 I was like, oh, yeah. Let's try and get pregnant, but people say it takes a while. So I'm like, there's no way. During that time, I'm like, okay. I'm gonna get my I'm gonna get fit, girl. I'm gonna look good. Okay? So
14:27 we're it was our anniversary, everything. I started doing 2 a days. Wow. I started doing 2 a days. Wait. While you're pregnant? Didn't know I was pregnant.
14:35 Oh, okay.
14:37 So I started doing 2 a day workout. So I worked out in the morning, worked out in the evening. So then and then I was eating a high protein diet. So was like, no. 1 a weeks, 1
14:46 a month. 1 every other day. 1 every other month.
14:49 I don't know. I was great. I was single. So I was like, oh, I was like, no. Single. I didn't have kids. So it was me and Adam. And so I'm like, I have free time. Like, we can work out. And the funny thing is is our bike,
14:58 we had, like, literally in our living room because I was like, have it in
15:01 the living room so I
15:01 can watch TV too. So I was riding the bike. Yeah. So I'm like, it and it was like an accessory, whatever. Mhmm. So I would do that, and I I did it for maybe 2 weeks. And I'm like,
15:13 man, I'm burning calories. This is good. Like, I wasn't getting on scale or anything like that, but then I'm like, I'm so hungry. I'm so hungry. This is ridiculous. Like and I'm like, because I'm
15:25 working out 2 days. That's just why. Yeah. We were going to I wanna say it was Ezra's birthday party. Ezra I think it was Ezra's birthday party. Mhmm. We're on our way to John's Incredible Pizza, mind you, to go
15:37 eat. Mhmm. To go eat. I'm doing 2 a days still. And all of a sudden, I'm like, I'm starving. And when I mean starving, like, girl, it was 20 minutes to get there.
15:48 Yeah. You were like, we gotta stop.
15:49 I made him stop like as if I had a potty break. I'm like, pull over. I'm I'm pissed. I'm mad. Pull over and get me something. And I'm like and give me something healthy. And so I got a acai bowl.
16:01 Me a salad. I was like, give me an acai bowl. So I got acai bowl, and then we go over there. Then my dumb buddy eats pizza. So I'm like, hey. Whatever. But I was hungry. So then we go we go back to to to
16:13 Nathan's house. Mhmm. And I'm like, something said take a pregnancy test. Something I was like Yeah. I'm so hungry because then after that, I got to their house and they went back out to
16:25 get me more food. I was that hungry. I was like, but I'm I'm doing 2 a days. I'm buff. I'm I'm
16:29 working out. So it was reasonable.
16:31 Yes. It's reasonable. And so then I was like so then something was like, hold on. Okay. You haven't been on birth control. You haven't started your period. I was like, Sonos, do you have 1? She was like, what?
16:43 You did it there in death. Oh, yes, girl. Was like, No. It's fine. I was like, do you have a pregnancy test? She was like, I actually do. She had 1. Girl, peed on it.
16:55 It was the faintest 2 lines, and I looked and I go, Sonoz, I can't read this. She's like, yes, you can. I was like, I can't read this. She goes, you're pregnant. I said, you're lying. I'm doing 2 days. I'm getting fit.
17:07 Like, 6 packs coming in. No.
17:09 Yeah. Yeah. There's I don't need a 1 pack. I need 6 packs. Like, they're they're just gonna be 1 big thing, not 6. So yeah. So then I have the video of everything of showing Adam. And and and, you know Did
17:21 he like, was he, like, shot goes his reaction?
17:23 I think you have to show him the video of Yes. Yes. And it's so enthusia unenthusiastic, and you're like so then so they come back because they come back from where they from
17:35 food. Yeah. Give me hungry. I'm hungry.
17:37 Yeah.
17:37 Give him the the the the pregnancy test, and he's Nathan showed more enthusiasm and cried. No. Yes. Nathan cried and more so
17:48 literally, Adam's like Adam looks and he I was like, hey, I have something for you on the table. And so Sinaz is recording and he's like, what is it? And I was like, oh, just open it. So he opens it and he's like, what's
18:00 this?
18:02 What is this? What's this?
18:04 And then Nathan turns around and he goes, no. No. I'm dying laughing. And so then I walk over to him. I'm a little bit crying laughing because I'm like these 2
18:15 dumb dumbs.
18:17 That dumb is Adam didn't
18:19 that's Adam didn't cry. He was like, what is it? Nathaniel, you're pregnant. And I'm like, if you see the video, it's literally how it is. And he's like, no. And I was like, that
18:30 explains why I'm so
18:31 hungry. Everybody.
18:36 What did you bring me?
18:38 Brides. You get that. I get
18:40 this. So that's how we found out. Oh, my god. So that and there was no, like, super big surprise or anything like that. Yeah. But then from that, I was just super hungry. And then I started recognizing my hips got out of
18:51 a lot an alignment, and I wasn't recognizing when I was working out. I thought I was working out hard. But like when you when you become pregnant, things loosen up. So like your hips. So the second time when I got
19:02 pregnant with Thomas Mhmm. I knew right away my hip, like when I was running and I was like, oh, no. And then I took a pregnancy test and I found out before I even missed my period with Thomas that I knew I was pregnant.
19:11 That's that's how quick things how your body will change of finding out things. Yeah. So, long story short with Matthias, the pregnancy
19:21 was we I hid it for 22 weeks. Wow. Did not
19:25 You didn't have no nausea?
19:26 Did not have any nausea.
19:27 What the hell?
19:28 High heightened smell.
19:29 Tell me everything you ate.
19:30 Right? Heightened smell. And then so I told you because I I was I was happy pregnant. So I was happy married. So I had gained so much weight. I think I told
19:42 you guys within the 2 years. And girl, I was big girl from sea world. Just just huge. Adam's like, no. You weren't. I go, you will not find in the first 2 years of us
19:54 married any pictures of me. Stop. Mhmm. Because I would wear kimonos, cover ups. That's where Adam was like, I'm not attracted to that. Yes. And I'm like, bro.
20:05 Yes. You're like, I'm
20:06 saving you. I was chafing in places I didn't know someone can shave. This is crazy.
20:10 It's like back of the knee. Yeah. So right.
20:12 Why is there why is that back there? Why it chafing? Literally, it's like my calf is sitting on my ankles. I was felt I felt huge. So then now I'm pregnant. So now I gotta embrace
20:24 this.
20:24 Yeah. Because I'm like, be honest. I feel like sometimes it comes from a vain place where I think about not having kids because I'm like, I don't I work so hard for my body, and don't
20:36 come after me. That's just, like, my thoughts. But, I mean, I know it's a beautiful thing, but it's like you kinda have to mourn your old body. I'm like
20:44 Well, and there's certain things that a lot of people don't take in considerations why Adam has very been very sensitive to women who have gotten pregnant because some women, the elasticity within their
20:55 skin changes. Oh, yeah. So when you become pregnant, sometimes the skin doesn't go back or it I forget what it's called and I know some of ones Abseparate? Yes. Abseparate. Yes. And so the separation to
21:07 where it has to be reconstructed. And so or like just core work. Yes. And your nose will swell. The oh, yes. Your body, your hands, and feet will swell. So my hands and feet did swell not as much. Mhmm.
21:19 But then you gotta be mindful of how much you eat because of gestational diabetes. So you there's a whole process, and sometimes it just happens to where like you can be doing everything right
21:31 and there's certain things that just That's
21:34 good point.
21:34 That just don't aren't gonna align with the way you want pregnancy to go. Yeah. For my sister-in-law, she was nauseous for 7 months. Yes. Every pregnancy. And she's had 3
21:46 pregnancies, 7 months Oh my god. Of just nausea. And so there's things, though, that mothers have to endure as far as, like, I'm carrying something so beautiful, yet I can't eat
21:58 or smell anything because it's just gonna trigger me and I'm gonna lose everything I ate. Yeah. Or I'm just and the other thing I will tell you within the first trimester, you are extremely tired
22:09 because you are creating a child. Yeah. And so I remember after recognizing, hey, you need to slow down on the working out and the eating, I would nap. Like, anytime I came home from
22:21 work, I would be napping for at least 2 hours because I'm like, your body needs to rest Yeah. In order for you To work. To work. Right. And you can't overexert yourself. So so that's where a lot of
22:33 women, they're like, I just wanna make it out of this first trimester because of what I'm battling with. And so I was fortunate enough with Matthias that the nausea. Thomas, I
22:45 am not and I'll say this, I I I am not a thrower upper. Like, when women are say like, oh, I throw up to relieve myself, like, if I'm sick or if I feel sick or absolutely not. Mm-mm. Absolutely. I'd rather have
22:57 diarrhea than throw up. Absolutely. And I think about that all the time. Lord, give it to me because I'd rather do the other way than Yeah. But that was just so with Thomas, I was super nauseous with Tom. Oh my gosh. But
23:09 I I won't throw up. And they're like, you'll feel better. No. I cannot do it. And so there would be like, I'd be swallowing all day, like, just because or just go go to bed go to bed or sleep. I have to sleep
23:20 sitting up because you can't Yeah. Because then, yeah, you don't wanna throw up.
23:24 Choke on your own. Yeah.
23:26 So there were many instances during pregnancy. With Matthias, I ended up being induced. I know a lot of and some women would say I'm wrong. A doctor could say I'm wrong the way that I viewed
23:38 it wrong. I considered my labor. I went in on Friday because I was induced, because Thomas. With Matthias. Oh, Matthias. I worked VBS all that week Girl. With kids, a
23:49 group. Wow. And I had a checkup at 37 weeks. Adam's at a friend's house getting burgers. And I was like, don't gotta I also wasn't Needy? No. During pregnancy.
23:59 Yeah.
24:00 Yeah. I didn't have any cravings. I was very much and I wasn't the like, I'm I got this on my own. I very much allowed Adam to be in the places that he wanted to be. Mhmm. Hey, I have an appointment today. If you wanna
24:12 go with me, great. Damn, that's really good. But like, I know a lot of people are like, I wanna be there. Like, I'm like, you hear about Harpy? You hear all Harpy? Like, I'm 1 that was me that was me. Like, I'm
24:23 like, there's you could and there were some that he did wanna go to, and I was like, hey. This is what we're doing. 20 week, you can't go to because they do a full anatomy scan of the baby and tell you growth not
24:34 growing. This is what it looks like. This is look like. So because I carried and I was I was able to hide my pregnant I could have hid it longer. I hid my pregnancy for 22 weeks. I Wow. Smoke. So when I hit it for 22
24:45 weeks and then when we announced, I was like, let me get halfway through this thing. And then we announced it 22 weeks.
24:51 Was there a reason you didn't wanna announce
24:53 You know, for me sometime okay. So I'll get hate for this too because it was my first pregnancy and I I I believe a lot of women take so much pride in being pregnant, especially if they it it took
25:05 them a while to get pregnant. Mhmm. So everyone does their thing diff I'm just I'm I'm wired differently. Mhmm. Mhmm. I am not the attention, like, look at me. I'm pregnant. Oh, the first cramp.
25:17 Yeah. Someone will be sticking out their stomach. I'm like, didn't you just announce that? I just see you, bro.
25:24 Like I
25:24 guess you're heavy. Do you be heavy?
25:27 And so that's for me. Like, that's what I I was more I think for me, I was the type of person that I was like, the longer I go Mhmm. The more I don't have to answer questions.
25:39 How are you feeling? What are you doing? How's it going? How's the checkup? How's this? How's that? And it's not to say that I didn't desire right. It really didn't. But there's not I'm growing a kid. Like Yeah.
25:51 I'm growing a they're not the first
25:52 to it, and I'm not the last. Exactly.
25:54 Exactly. And so I've never been the type to be like, look at me, like my pregnancy, and those types of way. I'm just wired different. And I'm I'm wired like my mom because I'll have this converse I'll say tell you what
26:06 I'll tell you. Because I asked her a question and her response, and I was like, that's harsh. And I think I've probably said it before in the podcast, but then I experienced it, and I was like, dang. So
26:18 waited 22 weeks, end up going in on Friday, have to be induced because I don't have a lot of fluid. They're like, did you notice yourself, like, leaking fluid? I was like, girl, it was hot. What do you mean? It's always
26:29 hot. It's always Yeah. I'm sweating. I feel like I'm always sweating everywhere. Like, doesn't matter what crevice is thereShow more
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