Is He Leading You On? Cab-light Theory | S3E9 BEYOND I DO PODCAST

Is He Leading You On? Cab-light Theory | S3E9 BEYOND I DO PODCAST

December 11, 2025 · 56 min

In this episode, Adam and Ashlee respond to the viral “cab-light theory” — the idea that men suddenly “turn their light on,” get serious, and commit to the next girl who shows up… even if they just told the last one they “weren’t ready.” They unpack whether it’s really “right person, wrong time,” or if it’s often a lack of discipline, standards, and honesty in dating.They also talk about Christian sexual ethics, moving in together, “playing house,” and why so many couples give each other all the benefits of marriage with none of the covenant. Ashlee shares how past relationships and breakups shaped her insecurities, Adam shares from years of pastoring couples, and together they offer super practical (and pretty direct) advice on boundaries, timelines, engagement, and why you can’t change someone who never wanted marriage in the first place. If you’re single, dating, or parenting teens/young adults, this one is a must-listen.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

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Adam Mesa is Lead Pastor of Patria Church and speaks to a congregation of 12,000 about how the gospel of Jesus Christ brings purpose to every life. Patria