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Couples Q&A: Laughs, Roasts & Real Talk | S2E44 BEYOND I DO PODCAST
August 14, 2025 · 51 min
Adam and Ashlee are back — and this time, they’re putting each other on the spot with a round of fun, random questions. From imaginary arrest records and life-swaps to cartoon alter-egos (yes, there’s a Care Bear involved), nothing is off-limits.Along the way, you’ll hear about missing license plates, loud tooth-brushing, sun-induced sneezing fits, and why Ashlee will absolutely step in if anyone disrespects Adam — even at 6 AM in an airport. It’s all love, laughs, and just enough roasting to keep things interesting.Whether you’re married, dating, or just need a good laugh, this episode shows that sometimes the best way to grow together is to have fun and not take yourself too seriously.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Alize & Nancyhttps://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
Series Beyond the Letter August 14, 2025 · 51 min · Beyond the Letter
Adam and Ashlee are back — and this time, they’re putting each other on the spot with a round of fun, random questions. From imaginary arrest records and life-swaps to cartoon alter-egos (yes, there’s a Care Bear involved), nothing is off-limits.Along the way, you’ll hear about missing license plates, loud tooth-brushing, sun-induced sneezing fits, and why Ashlee will absolutely step in if anyone disrespects Adam — even at 6 AM in an airport. It’s all love, laughs, and just enough roasting to keep things interesting.Whether you’re married, dating, or just need a good laugh, this episode shows that sometimes the best way to grow together is to have fun and not take yourself too seriously.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Alize & Nancyhttps://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com ...more Show the full description Show less Adam and Ashlee are back — and this time, they’re putting each other on the spot with a round of fun, random questions. From imaginary arrest records and life-swaps to cartoon alter-egos (yes, there’s a Care Bear involved), nothing is off-limits.Along the way, you’ll hear about missing license plates, loud tooth-brushing, sun-induced sneezing fits, and why Ashlee will absolutely step in if anyone disrespects Adam — even at 6 AM in an airport. It’s all love, laughs, and just enough roasting to keep things interesting.Whether you’re married, dating, or just need a good laugh, this episode shows that sometimes the best way to grow together is to have fun and not take yourself too seriously.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Alize & Nancyhttps://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
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0:12 Hey, Andy. Hi. How are you?0:15 I'm doing great.0:16 Good. Hey. How was that how was that follow-up podcast, from a couple weeks ago, Andy, about you sharing about your love life?0:25 It was good. You mean, like, the follow-up of after what happened?0:28 Did she0:29 say Why have we got less and less cameras as this show has progressed?0:32 They literally have moved everywhere.0:35 Well, we I think we have the same amount of cameras as last time, but the the 1 that from the incident0:39 Not within the months, but we used to have a camera 32. 8 on you. There, and there was 1 in the corner.0:45 At Nancy. Now I can't see them eating.0:48 It's okay. I'm still here.0:50 Behind the scenes.0:51 I don't like it. Behind the screens.0:53 Behind the screens.0:55 It's good. Did she she listen to that podcast?0:57 She did list actually, she just listened to the full thing Uh-oh. Sunday. Uh-oh. No. But I had I had told her,1:05 said, you want to go sit over
1:06 there? Oh.
1:06 No. He can stay right there. That's okay. He he could be a voice in the wilderness over there. We got a lot of people that listen on on the audio.
1:13 Yeah. But I had told her after we filmed that I was like, hey. So I kinda went on the podcast and and spilled my guts. And then she was like,
1:23 oh, it's okay. And then I kind
1:24 of I I was genuinely blanked about everything I said
1:27 afterwards. But
1:29 but she never had to pick up herself after that. Right? You pick No.
1:34 I I I always pick her up.
1:35 Oh, okay.
1:36 Yeah. But, yeah. She she listened to it. She said I did great. So I did a good job. But, yeah, I I
1:44 I haven't watched it back
1:45 yet because I I don't want to. I She she has seen.
1:49 I saw her yesterday. Right?
1:50 Yes. What was oh, yeah. Yesterday was the the shoot.
1:53 Filming for actual movies. I saw
1:55 her there.
1:55 Yeah. She did
1:56 I'm hanging out with her today Yeah. Before leadership.
1:58 Yeah. I heard about that too.
2:00 Oh, gosh.
2:01 She'll have a yeah.
2:02 Sorry, Andy.
2:04 We don't know what the outcome will be after the meeting, I can't Yeah. We'll we'll shoot. RIP, Andy. We'll be sending you tissues. I'm kidding. He's like,
2:15 hey. Alright, everybody. Welcome to Beyond I Do. Thanks for joining us today. I finally made it. And, yeah, whatever. She Ashley's, like, 20 minutes
2:26 late because she forgot she had this today.
2:28 Dude, I was I was knee deep in
2:30 some hot wings. Sure was. This In hot you're supposed to be eating healthy.
2:36 That is protein. It's chicken.
2:39 That is chicken. Fried chicken wings is not protein chicken.
2:42 It's fried
2:43 in oil.
2:44 It's like 1500 calories. There was only 5 because it was half hour.
2:49 What is today? Wednesday? Tuesday. You made it to you started Sunday. You made it to Tuesday.
2:54 I worked out today.
2:55 Does it matter?
2:56 Extra calories burning. I could feel it burning in me now. If I never mind. You know, the clean didn't look appetizing, so it actually
3:08 made me like, oh, I don't wanna eat that. So maybe I'll have it tonight for dinner. Maybe. We'll see. I I'll have the peach While we were
3:17 waiting on you, Matthijs, what did we do while we were waiting on mommy for this show? Good talk. He said he didn't know.
3:25 I don't know. He don't care. But I thought we could do something fun today and ask fun episode.
3:32 K.
3:32 And there's on the spot questions that we're gonna answer. And it's literally it the the topic is but I'm gonna switch it up. It's 5 ridiculously fun questions to ask your I'm a say husband
3:44 because it says your boyfriend, but I'm gonna ask your husband. Because now that we've been married almost 10 years together for 12 years, I would just love to know your answers to these because they're Okay. They're
3:54 pretty funny.
3:55 They are.
3:55 You don't. I didn't I didn't tell him anything. I just said, I wanna do and ask the question. None of them are deep, so maybe we could do a deep 1 of transparency. Okay. Whenever you're ready. Whenever you're open
4:07 up.
4:08 When you open movie today. Somebody was messing with these controls. The headphones went low. I think I often look at it after this episode.
4:15 You look Don't have Nancy cleaned them for you because you guys are funky. All the boys other episode, the girls episode?
4:21 No. Yeah. No. Clean them. What would they think? No. We They were dirty? What it was. That's what
4:29 it was.
4:29 Okay. Yeah. Then we'll fix it later. Alright. We're good. I have I'm hard of hearing, so I have to
4:35 Are you Oh, you turned it down. That's what you're talking about. Really?
4:38 I did like a health 3 60 assessment last summer, and I had I had I had what did they say? Like, moderate to no. That. I'm supposed to get a thing
4:50 for that at some point. He said I have moderate to poor hearing. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
4:57 No. I think you just have selective hearing because you just don't even wanna be hearing me half the time. You said, oh, I can't hear it. No. You just just chose to not hear me. There is
5:05 no lose lose. I go to the doctor. They tell me I have moderate to poor hearing, and then I tell my wife, no. I just think you'd ignore me. Like, yeah. Okay. Science literally.
5:16 Or or he probably has like, you when you seen those TikToks where you have all that ear wax in, what if you did what if you have so much let's get let's buy 1.
5:23 That I don't.
5:24 No. You probably do.
5:25 No. I know. I know for a fact.
5:26 Do you clean your ears?
5:27 Yeah. All the time.
5:28 My my Q tip container is pretty full just for mine.
5:31 Well, you're talking to someone that knows a little bit about everything. Q tips aren't made for your ears. It's not how you clean your ears.
5:37 Clean your ears. What do you do? You do the little
5:38 fire thing the sting and No. Actually, I've scientifically researched it before, and the best way to do it is you actually, tilt your head in the shower. You allow water to run-in it.
5:49 Oh, gosh.
5:50 And then you just let it you let it kinda circle. Yeah.
5:52 That's what he does every time in the pool.
5:55 Well, I don't want I don't want swim I don't want swimmer's ear. That's why people like you always have issues.
6:00 I don't have issues in my ears. My ears are perfect and beautiful.
6:02 You have other issues.
6:03 Have some.
6:05 So in the shower, I let water go down in my ears, and I let it sit. I let it wash. And then I and then, yeah, then you shake your head out, and then it it all comes out.
6:13 So it's like almost like a dog.
6:14 Like almost every day. Yeah. My ears are it's it's not my heart of hearing
6:19 I'm gonna buy 1. I'm gonna buy 1. And I want to see.
6:22 What? Like a camera thing?
6:23 Yeah. A little camera thing and just scrape it out. I'm sure that if you're hard of hearing, I'm sure that's exactly what is in there.
6:29 Play your dumb game. Okay.
6:34 First question. If I got arrested, what crime would you assume I committed? Oh.
6:42 Okay. Wait. So let me understand the question thing.
6:45 You gotta answer these questions.
6:46 Answer it, but then do I I ask you Yes. In return? Yes. You you answer the thing. Okay. Okay.
6:52 Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Because I'm gonna answer with that thing for you because I gotta think about it.
6:57 If you got arrested if you got arrested, it would be well, practically, more than likely, would be
7:10 it'd be you not having plates on your car and you hitting someone and probably be arrested because you waited 9 months to
7:20 Oh.
7:20 To cancel.
7:21 Oh, so we wanna get real truth in the transparency. No. We really wanna go there. My husband buy me a car from out of state. Don't buy no plates. Gotta send the titles to the leasing people, whatever you call it. The
7:32 finance people, then you gotta get it back to the DMV, then you emailed it. You did it wrong. Then I had to go to the DMV, not once, twice, and get my butt in them long old lines because my husband didn't do the
7:43 paperwork right.
7:44 Something. Did the paperwork
7:45 right. Then you had
7:46 to wait in lines regardless.
7:47 When I finally got guess when I finally got my my license plate. And I feel like, you know what? I feel accomplished. I feel like, man, I'm invisible. I feel like I can go 100 miles per hour now because I got a license
7:57 plate yesterday.
7:59 Well, that's what it feels like to to, like, you know, like, do things for the home. You know? Like like, Ashley, you wouldn't you don't you don't even know who to call
8:10 about water.
8:12 No. No. No.
8:12 No. No. Just I know the trash.
8:15 I know the know the
8:16 I I the the trash. Months ago.
8:18 Bro, I knew where it was, and I've been there multiple times. But the fact that I had to go get a smog the same day. Lord have mercy. I had go talk to what was it? Felipe to get some smog, and then he said I felt like he
8:29 was doing some Your life. Black black what is it? The under the table stuff when he was doing my smog? He was doing all kinds of crazy stuff. Was like, can you yes. He was like, can you put this in your car and this car?
8:38 Look look at this. And I was like, bro, I don't even know what you're doing. You're handing me all kinds of cords. I thought you're supposed to be doing this. It was crazy. You had me in the trenches acting like I was
8:47 not a princess that day. I acted like a slave. You had a slave that day. A pure slave. You made me do some work. That was ridiculous. That was insane. The fact that
8:59 and I sat well, I made my kids sit. Their punishment yesterday was sitting in the DMV for 3 hours because they were getting on my nerves.
9:05 Yeah. Yeah. See?
9:06 So And then you wanna know? I almost bailed out. I was there for an hour and a half, and I was like, I don't wanna be here anymore. And something within me, which I'm I'm I'm gonna say it was the holy spirit, said
9:17 patience. Just like that. And I because I can hear out of both ears. So I listened. And he said, wait. Anyways, okay. So I'd get pulled over because I didn't have any license plates, but now I wouldn't. Yeah.
9:31 What do would you get arrested for? I honestly just think you you know what?
9:43 What would you get arrested for? I don't think it would be I don't think it'd be fighting. I think honestly, like, if you if someone could get arrested for something, I honestly
9:55 think you would be, like, the main man to get arrested out, like, if this was a crime. I'm making up a crime. You'd be arrested for calling people out on their crap and be like, if it was a crime, like, you'd be
10:07 like, oh, I know what you did. You're like.
10:09 You're calling me a snitch?
10:11 Not a snitch. I've never snitched a day. Snitch, but like
10:14 never snitched a day in my life. Don't put me in that guy.
10:16 Well, because what I could I can't
10:18 a snitch.
10:18 I couldn't say what I think you would get arrested for because I'd like, I probably can't say it on a podcast.
10:23 Okay. Well, this is you this is your topic. You chose this.
10:28 It would be protecting our family. That's what I was to say. It you'd get arrested for protecting our family. Yeah. I could say that. Then I could say that. Okay. K. The next 1.
10:36 Yeah. Ashley's like, the reason why I can't say it is because it's not a far long enough
10:40 imagination to It could happen tomorrow. If we swapped lives for a day, what would you struggle with first?
10:51 Oh, man. I would struggle with all the decisions I would have in a day of of what I could do. I like, the lack of stress would be
11:03 incredible. It would just, let's see.
11:06 Would Except if you haven't gone to the DMV.
11:08 I would be oh, yeah. The 1 time in the yeah. It'd be it'd be like, oh, man. Do I do I go work out right now? Do I do I go to coffee with somebody? Do I go to lunch with somebody?
11:22 Yeah. You know, what what what's the question again?
11:25 If we swapped lives for a day, what would you struggle with first?
11:33 Jeez. That's, it's it's a good question. Because it's only for a day. It's not really hard to answer for for a day.
11:45 I like, so if I were to answer you and you know me because you can't stand when I do it, yell, you would hate the fact that you would be yelling all day.
11:53 Oh, so I I have to I have to have your personality.
11:56 You're you're me. You are me.
11:58 Oh, yeah. Yeah. I'd struggle with, with, having my voice at at the scream octave all day. Yeah. I'd struggle with
12:11 yeah. Matthias, how does your mom yell at you in the mornings? My gosh. I don't know. What are you? 19? Like, talking like a teenager right
12:20 now, bro. Don't know.
12:21 I don't
12:21 know. I don't know. Over Do you know anything? Okay.
12:24 He don't know anything. Okay. Yeah. That would be a struggle. Yelling. Or like
12:30 The fact, like, you like to cook, so then you couldn't cook.
12:33 Yeah. Not Yeah. That would be tough because Alright.
12:43 I would struggle with, god, forgetting everything. Like, dang, you forgot to close the cabinet? Dang, you forgot to put the toilet seat down? Dang, you forgot where I just told you where something was, and then you
12:55 go, where is it? That would that be not remembering would make me mad. I'd struggle with that because then I just wake up feeling like I'm lost.
13:03 But I remember things. I remember a lot of things.
13:05 Do you remember where you live? When you wake up, are you like, this is my house?
13:09 Most days. Yeah.
13:13 I would that would I think that, and then I think I would struggle with having so many things on my mind. I couldn't like, already, though, I do have a lot of things, but mind things are are family
13:25 oriented. So that I feel like I mean, it's the kids. It's you. It's just the kids and Adam. Yeah. Yeah.
13:35 Her responsibilities There you go.
13:36 That was a very short list. But for you, it's obviously church, connection, employees, finances, breathing,
13:48 ear hearing.
13:49 Yeah. What am I a dolphin? I gotta choose to breathe?
13:53 Without as much as you've got going on? Yes. So the that would be a stroke. I think that would be the biggest struggle is how do I manage all of these
14:04 tasks and feeling like, is there ever a check is there ever a end date for all of these tasks? Is there ever a cutoff? Because I you and I don't discuss those cutoffs because, 1, I don't
14:16 you don't want me to bear those things that you you know you can bear and me feeling like I can help in those aspects. But if I were to be in your shoes, I know for me, if the if I don't see a light at the end of the
14:28 tunnel as far as a task getting done, that would just frustrate me because I think you are a type of person of longevity of of of, what's the right word? Of,
14:39 yeah, longevity. Like, that you can you can do a task even if it doesn't like, obviously, you want it to be accomplished, but you'll continue to expand on that. Like, if you have 1 podcast, you were good with 1, but then
14:51 you're like, you know what? I can do another. And they're like, you know what? I can do another. Me, I'd be like, bro, I'm good with that 1. That's that I'm satisfied in that. I feel like I want and I think sometimes
15:02 with your mentality, it's such it's so amazing to see because speaking of the podcast, you were great with beyond the letter and that 1 took off. And then you were like, let's do a marriage 1. And
15:14 then beyond I do, and then you're like, okay. I can do another 1. Let's do bible. Let's do something. You're always innovated and you're never stuck on 1 thing, but you you don't change the thing. So you didn't change
15:25 from a podcast to then a sitcom then to a movie. You're like, I can see fruit in 1 thing, so let me just keep pouring in, and it just keeps growing outside. So I
15:37 think that's something that I would like to have too, but I don't see the big picture. I see the 1, and I could see expansion, but I don't see as broad as you do. So but I don't know if there's ever an end. So, like,
15:49 with the pod I don't know if there's ever an end to the podcast. So that for me, I'd be like, bro, I don't know if these if this is ever gonna end. You know? Because what's the next podcast? What's the next podcast? How
16:00 do you like, how do I obtain all these feelings and excitement and emotions in my in my life? Because you have so many things on your plate. Me, I'm just like, okay. Did
16:11 my kids eat today? Can he have some cereal? Will he eat this chicken nuggets? Adam said he was hungry. Maybe I could just make him that little cheapo salad, and he'll be satisfied. Like, that's what I think about in my
16:21 day.
16:24 It's a pretty nice day. See, that's what I'm saying. If I was you, I'd be like Oh,
16:29 and then the third 1 but the third 1 is protecting my husband. So then I think of all crazy stuff doesn't happen in my narrative in my own brain, and I just make up a story to make my life more exciting.
16:38 Oh my gosh. Ashley, my goodness. Alright.
16:43 Alright. What cartoon character am I most like when I'm mad?
16:52 Oh my gosh. Cartoon. Let's see. Probably, we're gonna need YouTube for this, Andy. Are you able to pull that up?
17:02 We're
17:03 gonna he's he's great because we're gonna need a visual of it a visual. Gosh. I'm a I'm a I'm a have to probably go with Wile E. Coyote.
17:15 Wile E. Coyote angry. I'm a slap me that that YouTube on
17:19 there. Oh
17:20 my god. Wiley Coyote yeah. No. No. No. No. No. We're not Wiley Coyote.
17:27 Tasmanian devil?
17:28 No. No. No. What's his name? Is his name Sam? What's the other 1? The They
17:34 always is trying to shoot Bugs Bunny?
17:36 They yeah. They're like the cowboy.
17:37 What's his name?Show more
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