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Hurt People Hurt People: David's Restraint 0:00 I wanna talk to you this morning on how to hurt without hurting others. How can you be in pain without bringing pain to others? It's0:11 been said, hurt people hurt people. Hurting people will bring hurt to other people. You0:23 get a wounded dog and you go to pick that dog up, what's that dog probably gonna do to you? Gonna bite you. You get a cat bound for an eternal hell, what's that cat gonna do to0:35 you? It's gonna scratch a fire out of you. If you're a cat person, we all have problems. We'll pray for you. Okay. I don't know what to tell you. Now,0:47 unfortunately, you come into a place like this and, man, people are excited and the choir's a blessing. The singing's a blessing. The the teachers are a blessing. Just people everywhere. And you get this0:59 idea that everybody's got it together. Unfortunately, beside you and in front of you and probably behind you, there is a hurting1:12 person. This morning, I cannot make your hurt better. But I can give you some tools this morning from the life of King David1:24 on how you can hurt without hurting other people. First king or first second Samuel chapter 16 verse number 5,1:36 the sixteenth chapter, the fifth verse.1:49 The sixteenth chapter, the fifth verse. And when king David came to Bahurim, behold, thence came out a man of the family, the house of Saul,2:01 whose name was Shimei the son of Gerah. He came forth and cursed still as he came. And as he cast stones at David, and in all the2:12 servants of king David, and all the people and all the mighty men were on his right hand and on his left. You know what that means? That means that he's got people left, right. He's got2:24 people all around him. But watch what happens in verse 7. And thus said Shimei when he cursed, come out. Come out, thou bloody man, thou man of2:36 Belial. The Lord has returned upon thee all the blood of the house of Saul in whose stead thou has reigned, and the Lord hath delivered the kingdom into the hand of Absalom, thy2:47 son. Behold, thou art taken in thy mischief because thou art a bloody man. Then said Abishai, the son of Zeruiah unto the king, why2:59 should this dead dog curse my lord the king? Let me go over, I pray thee, and take off his head. Watch what king David does. The3:11 king said, what have I to do with thee, ye sons of Zaria? So let him curse. Because the Lord hath said unto him, curse David. Who shall then say,3:23 wherefore hast thou done so? David said to Abishai and all his servants, behold my son, which came forth from my bow, seek with my life. How much more now shall this3:34 Benjamin do it? Let alone let him curse for the Lord hath bidden him. It may be that the Lord will look on mine affliction, and the3:46 Lord will require me good for his cursing all this day. Brothers and sisters, this morning we come into the3:58 apex of the judgment of God on the life of King David. You remember what God told through the prophet Nathan in the sin of Bathsheba. He said, David, because you4:10 have brought blood and death upon the life of Uriah, the sword will never depart from your house. David is now walking in the height of the judgment4:22 of God. His own son Absalom has rebelled against him. He's broke the rebellion to a way now. David and all of his mighty men4:34 have to get up out of Jerusalem and make their way down the Kidron Valley, up and over the Mount of Olives, come down the Mount of Olives on the side of Bethany. And as they make their way down into the Jordan4:45 Valley, here is this broken dejected heart shattered man named David whose own flesh and blood has stabbed him in the back. He's walking out to4:57 a city and he gets this place called Bahurim and he gets there and out comes an old foe, the family of King Saul. And he goes by this man and this man from5:09 the family of King Saul, this man named Shimei does 4 things. The bible says number 1, he curses David. Number 2, he mocks David's5:21 person and says, you deserve everything coming to you. Number 3, he picks up rocks and throws it at King David. And then number 4. He starts kicking up the dust5:33 all around King David. What does David do? I'm gonna tell you what I'd have done. I looked at the mighty men on my right side and I looked at the mighty men on my left5:45 side and said, sick them, baby. David looks and says, do nothing.5:57 Don't touch him.' Here is a man trying to hurt a man that's even more hurt and David has all the power in his hand to bring hurt to him. But what does he do?6:10 This hurting man hurts without hurting other people. All across our lives, we deal with hurt and brokenness day after6:22 day. Families that go through brokenness, and what do they do? They don't suffer in silence, but they have those passive aggressive moments where they take out their sorrow and their6:33 brokenness on other people. People that are alcoholics, people that are drug addicts, people that are addicted to all types of things down deep in the inside of their soul, they're broken and6:45 shattered. What do they do? They end up through their own addiction bringing hurt and harm. Hurting people always hurt other people if they're not careful. Let6:57 me give you 3 things about hurting, and I I've had about 7 people say to me, I feel like you're preaching right at me. I'm not meaning to, I'm just trying to.7:10 Too many times preachers preach on things that nobody cares about. At the end of the day, if you don't go into the presence of God and walk out with healing, have you actually been in the presence of7:22 a life giving God? I'm not here to pump my ego. I got enough people telling me on TikTok where to go. Say amen right there. I ain't worried about that. But if you leave7:34 out of this place, not knowing that you've been in the presence of a God that can heal the broken heart, what good are we and what have we accomplished? Let me give you 3 truths that I canThree Truths About Hurt 7:46 imagine. You go eat up like dog food. Number 1. The first thing you gotta understand about hurt, hurt is a consequence of living in a sin cursed7:58 earth. You know why you and I go through pain? We're in a pain filled world. You know why you and I go through brokenness? We're in a broken world. Do you know why you and I go through heartbreak? We're in a8:09 brokenhearted world. Do you know why you and I deal with division? We live in a divided world. This is the world we live in. What did our lord say in the Garden of Eden? He8:21 says, in the day you sin, you will surely die. Boy, Adam and Eve thought they had gotten out of it that day when their bodies did not drop dead. What they did not realize is the8:33 Lord was not talking about sudden death. Physically, he was talking about a slow dying death. You say I didn't do anything to deserve what I went8:45 through indirectly or directly. You may not, but you and I live in a broken sorrow filled world. There are not a single 1 of us to8:57 have a perfect life. Not a single 1 of us to have a perfect existence. And if you are perfect, you better live in a bubble, baby. Because ain't nobody else around you gonna be9:08 perfect. Hurt is a consequence of living in a sin cursed world. Number 2. The second thing that you need to understand9:20 is although we live in a sin cursed world and I can't help the fact that I get hurt, I can make a choice not to hurt other9:32 people. Hurting people is a choice. How do I know? Well, King David is a walking down that pathway of sorrow and dustiness and9:44 dryness and Shimei comes out. And David's got 1 of 2 choices. He can tell the men to kill him or he can keep his mouth closed and keep his heart open and let God9:55 deal with what is going on. I do not have a choice what is done to me, but you and I have a choice in what we do to other people. I can't help what my10:07 father did to me. You can't help what your mother did to you. You can't control when your wife or husband walked out. You may not be able to fathom when your kids threw the peace10:19 sign at you and said I'm gone. You can't control other people, but you can control you. Boy, we love living in an excuse10:31 filled world. Why did you do that? Well, I'll tell you. If you'd only know what they no. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. Hurting other people is10:44 a choice. David made the choice that day to give it to God. Hurting other people is a10:56 chore. Let me put it to you. I can feel that jar. There's a little tension. There's and I'm practicing for when I get my farm 1 day, and they say when you hit roots and rocks, you gotta back up and hit it again11:08 on that massive fur and I'm gonna find me a massive Ferguson tractor, by the way. I've been studying this whole situation. And so I felt a little resistance on that push right there. Let me say it to you in a little bit11:18 plainer English. They might smart off at you. That don't mean you got to smart off at them. They may lie about you, but that don't mean you gotta lie about them. They may be rude to11:30 you, but that doesn't mean you've gotta be rude back to them. They may say that you're useless. That doesn't mean that you fabricate and say things to them. They may belittle you. That doesn't mean you belittle them.11:42 Your daddy, he abused you when he was drunk. That doesn't mean that you have to go and abuse somebody else just because you do that. Ladies and gentlemen, everything we do in life is11:54 a choice. Well, I wouldn't have smarted off Adam if such and such. Tyler, you shouldn't have smarted off12:06 Adam even with such and such because hurting other people is a choice. The problem is not what's been done to us. The problem with old Tyler12:18 is old Tyler. And it don't make me come sit in your lap and look at you in the eyeballs and say you're the problem either. You and I are our own12:30 worst enemy. Hurting other people is a choice. You know, the only reason why Shimei lived that day was the choice of12:42 David. Number 3. You say, why do people hurt? Well, they don't understand lesson 3. You know what we don't understand? Hurting other people12:54 is not a cure. Hurting other people is not gonna cure anything. King David could have looked at Shimei13:06 in the eyeballs, drawn his own sword out, stuck him in the gut like he was gutting a deer. Shimei could have died dead, and the curse would have stopped right there. But guess what? Absalom's still back in13:18 Jerusalem. He could have killed Shimei, but Absalom is still sitting on the throne. You know, you can holler at your own kids, but it ain't gonna fix13:30 how your daddy hollered at you. You know, you can lie on so and so, but it ain't gonna change the lies that were told on you. You can treat your13:42 spouse like dirt, but it's not gonna change what your ex spouse did because hurting others is not gonna cure anything. I love13:54 southern people. I've grown up in the south. Southern people have got prescriptions for everything. You know doing that14:06 ain't gonna make anything better. Yeah. But it'll make me feel better. Unfortunately, it won't. Well, I'll just tell them often and14:18 I'll feel better about the whole thing. No. All you'll do is take a broken heart and break other people's hearts. And at the end of the day, their heart will be broken and your heart14:30 will be broken. Pavarotti, Luciano Pavarotti was probably the greatest tenor that ever lived in modern history. Pavarotti was 1 of the greatest14:42 singers that the world has produced probably in the last 200 years. Pavarotti began singing, was introduced to singing as it by his father at a14:53 young age. In college, instead of following the path of singing, he followed the path of of going down the road of being a teacher. And having that road of being a teacher, he graduated15:06 and he went to his daddy. He said, daddy. He said, let me ask you a question. Should I be a teacher or should I be a singer? His daddy looked at him and15:18 said, Luciano, it doesn't really matter which 1 you do, but if you try to sit in both chairs, you'll simply fall in the middle. You do realize at the end of15:29 the day, you have to make the solid choice that you are going to let God heal you and you're not going to be a curse to other15:41 people. Because if we're not careful, the perpetrators of hurt will come from the padded pews of our churches, and the ones that ought to15:53 be administering healing will actually be the ones that are simply passing out hurt. David was from the city of Jerusalem, the city of peace. The moment he cuts16:05 the throat of Shimei, no longer is he the king of peace. He's now the king of war. Brothers and sisters, today I wish I could tell you that there was something that would take away the shatteredness16:18 in your heart. I wish there was something I could say to the people that we could sit down together and I could give you a tip on something. But at the end of the day, what was done to you was done to16:29 you and it's heartbreaking. It's shattering. It's earth it's mind boggling. I know there are people in this room that are carrying burdens will never ever even understand. There are mothers in this room that have got so16:41 many sorrows that nobody will ever ever understand. There are daddies in this room that are dealing with things that nobody will ever understand. There are people that have walked through the darkest, lowest valleys that16:53 nobody will ever understand. But I encourage you right now, if you do not lift your eyes to the hills whence cometh your help and give it to God, you will simply perpetuate the cycle17:05 and a hurt person will only hurt people. How in the world can I hurt Tyler without hurting other people? I'm gonna look at this passage and give you 4Tip 1: Be Careful Who You Get Counsel From 17:17 tips. 4 things of what King David did on how to hurt without hurting other people. Number 1. Now this this17:29 is gonna be so practical. I don't even think this will make it on the Internet. You gonna look at me and you gonna say, what in the just go with me though because you're gonna find that it's the simple17:40 stuff. The ignoring of that that gets us in trouble. Number 1, how in the world can you hurt without hurting other people? First and foremost,17:53 be careful who you get counsel from. Be careful who you take counsel from. You better be real careful18:05 who you let your ear shot. You say where in the world you get there? Well, look at verse number 9, if you will. Then said Abishai, the son of Zeruiah, unto the king, why should18:16 this dead dog curse my lord the king? Let me go over, I pray thee, and take off his head. You know who David's looking to? He's got18:28 men on his right side and he's got men on his left side. And men old Shimei gets to railing against him, raging against him. And the first person that stands up and says, kill him dead king is a18:40 man named Abishai. Why does that matter? Well, if you were to go back to chapter 3, Abishai had 2 brothers. Joab and18:51 Asahel. And there's a division between the house of Saul and the house of King David. And the house of Saul, Abner goes to Abishai's brother,19:04 Asahel, and sticks a spear under his fifth rib and kills him dead. Do you know what Abishai does to the man that hurt him?19:16 He kills Abner against the words of King Saul or King David. Now go with me here. Abishai was a hurt19:28 man that hurt other people. So whenever David is hurting, guess what Abishai does? He's a hurt man telling this guy to go19:40 hurt somebody else. He's a biased source. Isn't it amazing who we take advice from19:52 in our lowest seasons? Don't y'all sit there and look at me like you take wise counsel. Brothers and sisters, this is what we are very prone to do. You know, the20:03 the human species is an interesting group of people. You know what we do? We learn through time how to work things. And what we do is we learn who to talk20:15 to that we know will tell us what we wanna hear and then we learn who not to talk to, who ain't gonna tell us what we wanna hear. And all the people that know what I'm talking about say it, yeah. Amen. I'm telling20:27 it right. Yeah. If David listens to Abishai, he's just gonna perpetuate the cycle. He looks at him and he says he doesn't call him20:38 Abishai. He calls him ye sons of Zeruah. Do you know what the name Zeruah means there in that verse? It's the Hebrew word which literally means the cut20:50 or the wound in a tree from where sap runs out. He looks at him and he said, you wounded man. You're gonna tell me to go wound somebody else. You better be mighty careful21:03 who you take advice from. Hey. Can I give you a phrase that you ought to write in your Bible on apply to a lot of different situations? I feel like this is a tweetable quote. I know21:15 Tweeter or Twitter or whatever, it ain't there no more. But I feel like it's a good quote. Are you ready? Do not take advice from people who've been where you've been. Take advice from people who are21:27 where you hope to be because they know how to get there. Do not take advice from people that have walked through divorce. If you're going through divorce, you know why? They may have come out on the other21:38 side bitter, cantankerous, mean, ugly, rude, and I mean just abs do not talk to somebody who's been where you've been. Talk to somebody who's got it together21:50 and say, want you to tell me how to make that happen. Don't talk to people who've been where you've been. Talk to people who are where you hope to be. Y'all know I had a workplace22:02 injury the other week. I did. Now I'll be just downright honest with you. I am an absolute peabody of a22:14 wimp when it comes to needles, doctors, stretching, pulling, cutting, operating, or anything related to the sort.22:27 I knew if I asked my wife what I ought to do, They've put me on this regimen of medicine and then they're trying to get me physical therapy up22:39 to get me hopefully where I don't have to have surgery. And I know if I asked my wife what to do, she'd say, well, you need to do what the doctor said. So guess what? I didn't ask her.22:52 No. I didn't. You know who I asked? Troy. Because I knew he'd tell me what I wanted to hear. I said, Troy, let me walk you through this process.23:04 I said, I'm I said, I'm I'm just, you know, I'm not hurting all the time just when I don't turn. If I turn the wrong way, it kinda would jolt me just a23:16 little bit. He said, oh, that's an easy fix. Just don't turn that way. Well, I like that. I like that. I love that line. You know, so you know what I'm gonna start doing23:28 when I have injuries? I'm not talking to my wife anymore. And my wife still wouldn't know had it not been for Buckeye Drug over there in their texting system. But anyways,23:41 No. No. You know, at the end of the day, if I listen to who makes me feel good in the moment, I'm gonna have issues in the long term. So23:53 I went to that physical therapist and that lady I said, now you tell me what the I said, do I really need to come back? I said, I think I can do all this stuff. She said, no. You ain't gotta come back. I said, oh, I like24:04 that. She said, now look, if you don't do it right, she said, what's gonna happen is scar tissues gonna get in there and fluids gonna start building up and you gonna wake up 1 day looking like a 900 pound man and have24:14 your own show on TLC. You know, I can do what I wanna do. I can get advice from whoever you wanna get advice from, but24:26 you better make sure that you're listening to the right people and who you're getting advice from. Jackie Robinson was the man that broke the color barrier in Major League Baseball. Jackie Robinson24:38 was hated among most southern cities. 1 day he had traveled to an opposing ball play a ball team's park. What happened is he he24:50 he messed up on the field and I mean they were just absolutely letting him have it. He went out to take his position in the field and due to an error, there were people throwing all types of things at him.25:02 A man on the opposing team whose name was Pee Wee Reese left the opposing dugout and walked out to him, stood beside him and put his arm around him.25:15 Symbolizing to the people, I'm with him. There were people on Jackie Robinson's own team that said he's not wearing the right uniform to take advice25:27 from and to be on your side. He said it does not matter if someone has the same outward uniform on as me. It only matters if they've got the inner man that's the same as25:39 me. Brothers and sisters, you better be mighty careful just because somebody acts like you want them to act and knows what you think they ought to know when they give you advice because they will lead you down a path25:49 that can get your life all messed up. Number 2, be careful who you take advice from. Number 2 in verse number 10 and 11, be careful to rememberShow more In this video 0:00 Hurt People Hurt People: David's Restraint7:44 Three Truths About Hurt17:09 Tip 1: Be Careful Who You Get Counsel From25:53 Tips 2 & 3: God's Sovereignty and Sowing Good
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