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7 Sentences That Train a Child for Life - Fighting for the Children, Part 2
August 10, 2025 · 52 min
Scripture: Isaiah 59:19-21; Proverbs 29:15
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0:00 You are listening to Waters Church podcast. Waters Church is a multisite, multigeneration community of faith on the East Coast of America. Now for a message from our pastor.0:13 And so we're in part 2 of this series, fighting for the children. And I want you to do me a favor right on top of that. I want you to circle the word for because we are not fighting with the children. If you are fighting0:23 with your children, you are doing it wrong. You are not equals. You fight with equal people, but you don't fight with children because they are not your equals. They are0:35 not equal they are not on the equal level as you are. You are above your children. You are not on their level. If you are on your you if you are on their level, you are becoming a0:47 child. And your job is not to go down to their level. Your job is to bring them up to your level. Now that's gonna take a long time, and it's gonna take work and patience, and it's0:59 gonna suck all the energy out of your young adulthood. And that's why I would encourage the young adults in our church, stop shopping for somebody1:10 and pick someone, marry them, and have babies while you're young. I've had children in my twenties and I've had children a child in my thirties. Let me tell you. Big1:22 difference. 30 year olds having children. Man, no wonder why we have a crisis. And we have a generation that encourages parents to well, not not parents, but young people to put1:34 off put off marriage, put off getting committed. You don't wanna lock yourself. You don't wanna tie yourself down. Don't you wanna play the field? Don't you wanna explore? Don't you wanna have a lot of fun? And and and1:45 and what happens is before you know it, you've had all the fun, you've used up all your energy on fun, and then when it's time to actually be an adult and have kids, you got no energy left. And I'm I'm encouraging young1:56 people, get married, have babies, get started early. I I I I don't understand this mindset. I started having children when I was 25. We had a we had our firstborn before our first2:08 anniversary. Amen. People don't like that either. You see how quiet you are? Everybody's uncomfortable. You people are the early services. Right? You're you're good at getting things done2:19 early. Apply this to more than this part of your life. Okay? Or maybe the early service people are people who already have the kids out of the house and you're done with this point. Okay. I I got it. Whatever it2:31 is, get started early because, look, we I remember, how much more energy I had in my twenties than in my thirties. And, you know, I was so thankful now that2:43 I did it early because kids take work, effort, and energy. But you have to fight for them. And I want you to get that in your mind. We're fighting for2:55 them, but we are fighting. The word parent comes from the Latin word parare. Now we get the word transparent from it as well, but the word la in Latin parare actually has several meanings. It means to bring forth. It3:07 means to prepare. We actually get the word prepare from the same Latin word as parent for parent. And so think about what you're doing with your kids. You're not just producing, you're preparing3:18 them. And I wanna give you 7 sentences that train a child for life. 7 sentences sentences that train a child for life, and I want you to write this sentence down as a kind of a foundation for the whole message. Parents3:30 don't just produce children. They prepare them, cause, and make visible who they will be. You are preparing your children, you are causing your children, and you3:42 will make visible who they will be with your parenting. Now this is an overwhelming task for anybody. And to be honest with you, I've been a Christian my whole life. I thank God that I had3:54 Christian devoted parents, and by that I mean parents who put the Lord first in their house. Do not look at me4:06 as if I'm successful because I'm great. I am not. I would have been a hot mess with different parents. I'm just telling you that right now. My parents made going to the lord's house4:18 nonnegotiable in our home. We didn't just go on Sunday. We were old school. We had church on Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Wednesday night. And we were there every single service. I4:30 remember that I felt utterly ripped off as a young child that I could not watch the latest episode of Three's Company with all of my friends because I was at4:41 church, and my mother would drag me there. My father would work, like, sometimes he would get there late, and he would show up at church. My father would come from church to work from work to church on Wednesday night4:52 bible study. Do you understand the indelible impression that left on my mind? My father was a truck driver, and he was also the treasurer of our5:04 church. And I remember that on, Sunday or Monday night, he would open this big 3 checkbook. You know, remember the 3 checkbook thing? And he would open this big folder up, and he would write the checks of the5:15 church. I would write, watch my father give his time. He was not paid to be in the church. He was not doing it because somebody gave him money. No. He loved the Lord. Still loves the5:27 lord, by the way. 85 years old and strong and going strong. And I'm thankful for them. My mother would lead singing at VBS, and they gave themselves to the church. And I'm telling you5:39 something. You can avoid a lot of problems with your kids if you give yourself first to the Lord. I think that if you watch after the Lord's house, he will watch after5:51 your house. And so that's first because you're gonna cause your children what you do will be replicated in their life for good or for bad, and it's overwhelming. And so here's the promise of scripture from Isaiah6:02 59, and we read it from the ESV, but I want you to see this in the New King James version. This is a very famous phrase that I will throw out every once in a while. It says at the end of this passage, when the enemy6:12 comes in like a flood. If you've got your notes out, just underline when because it's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when. When the enemy comes in like a flood. And if you've ever been hit by the flood of the6:23 enemy, just give me a good amen. Amen. Yeah. We've all been there. We've all had the enemy come at us, targeting us, feel like the weak is just gonna suck the life out of us, and that's gonna happen. But good news, the6:34 Bible says the spirit of the Lord will raise up a standard against him. I'm so thankful that the lord is not without resources when we are facing the enemy, and the enemy is6:46 stronger than us, and the enemy is smarter than us, and the enemy has been doing this for a lot longer than we have, we still have power over the enemy through the Holy Spirit that God has put into our bodies because6:58 of the Lord Jesus Christ. He has died and rose again, and he sent the Holy Spirit to live in us. That spirit is yours in Christ Jesus. Then Isaiah gives a promise to the people of Israel, and he says this in verse 20,7:10 a redeemer's gonna come to Zion. And I mentioned the word to because it doesn't say from. You you see Jesus came from Galilee. He came from Bethlehem, Nazareth, and he came from the north. He came down to7:22 Jerusalem. He died. He rose again. He was the redeemer. The redeemer meaning that he was the 1 who bought us out of slavery to sin, and it's not for everybody. Look what it says. It's for those in Jacob7:34 who turn from their transgressions. So when there's repentance, that means that you change your mind about sin, about wickedness, that you stop enjoying the things of this world, evil7:46 of this world, the sinful inclinations. I mean, you're still gonna sin as a Christian. If anyone's without sin, they deceive themselves, but but you hate the sin. You want the sin out of your life. You turn from your7:57 transgressions, and then this promise, and God's spirit will come into you when you turn to Jesus and receive the forgiveness of your sins. You get not just forgiveness of your8:09 sins in Christ Jesus, you get the fullness of the spirit in Christ Jesus. Then it says, and here's what happens when the spirit is in you. My words will be in your mouth.8:22 The holy spirit, Jesus says this to disciples when they're about to face persecution. He says, don't worry about what you're gonna say. Don't worry about the thing you're gonna throw out there because in the moment, the8:33 Holy Spirit will give you words to say, and they won't depart out of your mouth. Why? Because it is God in you speaking through you. Now this is a heritage.8:45 This is a blessed this is a promise to every child of God through Jesus Christ. You gotta understand something today. You are not intended8:57 to raise your children on your own. You gotta raise them with the words that God puts in your mouth. And then9:09 he says, and out of the mouth of your offspring. In other words, your words will become their words. And then notice this, and out of your children's offspring. In other words, it's an9:19 intergenerational blessing of speaking God's words over your children. You can change America9:32 in 20 90 or 21 90. What what do I do with 20? 20 90. You can change America in 20 90 with the words that you speak in your children today.9:44 Think about this. This is powerful. And I think no matter where your kids might be some of you have kids that are wayward right now. Can I tell you something? If you spoke words into them, those words haven't left.9:55 No. No. No. Those words are still rattling in the back of their minds as they continue to do the things that they know you don't approve of and is bugging them right now. It's driving them crazy. They they're10:07 probably sleeping in on Sunday, and they're thinking, well, I don't need to go to church. And in the back of their mind is mom saying, oh, yes. You do. Oh, yes. You do. Because your words live in your children through10:18 the holy spirit that God has put in you. So you keep praying that those words don't leave, and you keep praying that those words ignite and catch fire, fire, and your children cannot resist. And after a long, maybe10:30 years, decades long battle with those words, they will finally surrender and come to the Lord Jesus Christ once again. Come on, somebody. This is your promise. And so here's what I want you to write down10:42 about this this message. Through God's spirit, parents speak words that will live on for generations. I'm not just the son of 2 born10:53 again parents, but I'm the grandson of born again parents. And I thank God for my spiritual heritage, and the fruit of my life is their hard work and speaking truthful words into my11:04 life that are going to resonate into children that they will never see by god's grace. So to that end, we've gotta know how to talk to our children. 7 statements,11:16 7 sentences that train a child for life. Are you ready? Number 1, very simple, no. In the11:28 words of the great theologian Meghan Trainor, my name is no. My sign is no. My number is no. Nah to the ah to the no. No.11:40 No. You're gonna have fun with this. Your children need to hear. Yeah. Come on. Let me hear you say it. Very good. Wait. Are you telling me11:52 you're not gonna say it or are you gonna say it? Oh, you just say it. No is a wonderful gift from God to you for your children. Folly is bound up in the heart of the12:03 child. Folly is bound up in the heart of the child. I covered this last week, but maybe you weren't here, so let me say it again. Your children were not born good. Your children were not born good. Your12:15 children were born sinful. This is all over scripture. To deny what I'm telling you is to deny scripture. So don't take your beef up with me, take it up with the bible. David12:27 said, surely I was conceived in iniquity. Ephesians chapter 2 says, we all, like the rest, were children of wrath by12:38 nature. That we are born obstinate. We are born rebellious. We are born wanting things that are bad for us.12:51 And the answer to those things should come from a parent in the form of a beautiful 2 letter word called no. Now it has a couple of sister phrases,13:03 like in your dreams, or if you prefer, over my dead body when pigs fly. You can you can come up with your own.13:16 My daughter who's sitting here in the front row will tell you that sometimes she wouldn't even finish the question, and I would say no before I even heard what she wanted. I was the13:28 preemptive knower. Dad, can I no? Dad, what do you want? No. And I still do that with my youngest son. And it get I'm maybe I'm a bad father in some ways, but I don't think13:40 so. I think I'm pretty good. My kids love the Lord. But I I I think that some of you gotta get ahold of this, reclaim your birthright as a parent and say, yeah. It's okay to say no. Now, God, let me ask you13:52 something. Is God a good parent? Yes. That wasn't very confident. Is the Lord a good parent? Yes. Has he ever said no to you? Yes. Now let me ask you a question that's true for14:03 me. I'm sure it's true for you. Has he said more no's than yeses? Yes. Absolutely. Now can you look back on your life and say, thank God for that no.14:15 Yes. So if his no's were good, why can't your no's be good? You you gotta be able to do this. The scripture says in Hebrews 12 verse 6, the lord14:27 disciplines, that means he says no, to the 1 that he loves and he chastens, that means he punishes everyone that he receives as a son. It says if you are left without discipline, in verse14:39 8, it says if you don't get disciplined by the Lord, you're an illegitimate child. You're not a true son of the Lord. If the Lord has said no to you, if the Lord has put you in places where you feel the pains14:50 of mistakes and failures and sins that you committed. Rejoice and be glad. Those pains are proof that you belong to the Lord. He says in verse 11, for the15:02 moment, all discipline seems painful. Underline seems. It just seems painful. I don't wanna disappoint my children. Disappoint them. It's just15:13 temporary. Be because if they're if if they're in pain now, hopefully, you do it right, there's progress later. See, you gotta learn that in15:25 life, god says no to a bunch of things that you want so that he can clear out all of the sinful inclinations of your life and reveal to you the proper yes. But you gotta go through a bunch of no's15:37 to get there. I've prayed for things over this church. I thank god I thank god he said no. I prayed things over my life. Thank god that he said no. Pain in the moment15:49 produces progress in the future. Today's no in your child's ear can become growth in their spiritual life.16:01 Today's no can become a later go. When you do not say no to a child, you are leaving that child to themselves.16:13 And they are born with sinful inclinations from the time of birth, and you've gotta address it from the jump. No. It's okay to say no. Proverbs 2916:25 15, the rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. If you don't say no today,16:37 you'll be saying, oh, no in 20 years. Uh-oh. Or you've gotta be kidding me. Say it because it's good for you.16:49 It's good for them. Now let's talk about discipline because we've been told by the experts that discipline needs to go, especially corporal discipline. I told you17:01 last week that I was corporally disciplined, and I thank god for it. I needed it. I was a hellion. I was a problem. My mother didn't read17:12 parenting books until I came along. She didn't know what to do with me. Thank god she spanked me. She put me in my place. Now the reason why we have come against spanking is because people have17:24 overdone it. They become abusive. There is a proper way to spank. There's a proper way. Here's the procedure to properly spank your children.17:36 Number 1, you tell them no. And if they do it, you say, I told you no. If you do it again, there will be a punishment in the form of spanking. So you've17:48 given them a clear warning. By the way, the Lord does this in the Old Testament. If you do these things that I tell you not to do, I will hand you over to the nations that surround you. He gives them plenty of warning17:58 and warning after warning. Now you gotta measure out. Each child's different. Some of them need very little warning, and some of them need a lot of warning. That's your call, but you must provide warning.18:11 And then when they do it again, you follow through. Somebody say follow through. Follow You can't just warn. You actually have to wound. Not18:23 cause bruises, but bring the punishment down. And then punish and do so with discretion and self control and not out of18:34 anger because you're not fighting with them, you're fighting For. For them. And then when it's done, you allow them to weep or cry18:46 or get upset and emotionally handle it, and then you'll come back and you reconcile and tell them this was for your good. Now now again,18:58 you can ignore corporal punishment, you can just do the time out thing or whatever you wanna do or take away things. I don't I don't really have a preference that is hard and set and fast. I just know that scripture does19:09 talk about the rod, about hitting the child. We have an overabundance, of course, where people can go crazy. That is not at all what I'm talking about. But if19:21 there's no discipline, there will be unrestrained adulthood that will follow them into the rest of their life. And parents, you gotta put yourself in this position. You are19:32 the first line of defense, the first person that God has called upon to restrain the natural inborn evil in your child. So that brings me to point number 2. Here's19:44 sentence number 2. Are you ready? That's wrong. We live in a culture that doesn't say that anymore. In fact, what our culture says is what's right is wrong,19:57 and what's wrong is right. Now Isaiah warned the people of Israel about this very thing in Isaiah chapter 5 verse 20. He said, woe to them that call good evil and evil good, who put20:09 darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter. In other words, they are going to be come they are going to come upon the world just as it was in Isaiah's day. They're going to20:17 come upon the world certain seasons, certain eras of human history where the, the righteousness quotient is flipped on its head.20:29 And so we live in a culture that, for the most part, the last 45 years, has considered Christian faith wrong, intolerant, bigoted, phobic.20:41 Name your phobia. We got them. Misogynistic. I I've been called misogynistic myself. And and there's all kinds of titles. There's all kinds of name. You know when people don't have an20:53 argument, they call you names. That's what they do. When people don't have an argument, they call you names because they're children. And we live in a culture that is very much like that. And they have they have labeled21:04 the Christian faith evil. They've labeled, the Christian norms regarding sexuality, regarding marriage, regarding personal21:16 self control. Even think about this, we live in a culture where if a girl says she's a virgin, people are shocked. That should that should tell you everything that you need to know about this culture.21:29 We live in a culture where if the were if the girl doesn't have, you know, at least 1 or 2 in her body count before she gets to the altar, she's she's a puritan. She's21:41 a crazy person. This is a culture that calls evil good. Sleeping with people, having sex outside of marriage is evil.21:52 But we're so enculturated because we watched Friends 37 times, and we read the bible for 5 minutes and said, I don't understand22:04 it. So we have joined in with the culture. Christians, stop trying to be like them. We don't care about being like them. We don't want to be like them. They22:16 don't know what they're doing. They are lost. They are in darkness. They are ignorant. They are hardened to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Do not love the world or anything in this world. If anyone loves this world, the22:26 love of the father is not in him. The world and his desires are passing away, but the man who does the will of the father shall endure forever. That's22:37 wrong should be heard from you by your children on a regular basis. Parents, it is not your job to get down22:49 on your knees and talk to your children about why they did something wrong. You just tell them it's wrong. I know that we live a kind of kind of culture where where this is23:00 appropriate behavior for parents. It is not. Hebrews chapter 5 verse 12 says this, for though this time you should be teachers, you need someone to teach you the basic oracles of the of God again. You need milk, not23:10 solid food. For everyone who lives on milk is what? Unskilled. In other words, there should be growth in your Christian life. There should be development in your understanding of the things of God. And parents, this is23:21 on you. You should be people who are no longer dependent on milk. You must grow in Christ so that you can train your children to grow in23:33 Christ. This is why we have life groups. This is why we challenge you to be at Forge Men. This is why we challenge you to go through our classes, to be a part of Christian growth. It is not just come to church and23:45 punch the clock. It is grow in the fear and in the knowledge of Jesus Christ. And you and this is what it says, and then you grow and you become an adult. Verse 14, solid23:56 food is for the mature who have their powers of discernment. Their what what does that mean? Powers of discernment. That that means that you have grown in in the24:08 word to such an extent that God has given you an appetite that recognizes what is good and what is evil. That's why you have it you have a constant practice of distinguishing good24:20 from evil. And a parent's job is to be the distinguisher for their child because a child does not know what is good and what is evil. This is24:32 so important. It is basic. This stuff should be common knowledge. It is not because, again, we live in a world that has flipped the script on what is good and what is not. So it is not your job as a parent to ask now,24:42 Johnny, why did you hit your sister over the head with a frying pan? Were you trying to express feelings of disappointment?24:55 Are you frustrated with mom's cooking? Your job is not to understand why. You understand why. You already know why because they25:07 don't know good and evil. They hit their sister because they were born evil. Your job is25:19 to raise them to the point where they now know what is evil and what is good. In the book of Leviticus, understand, nobody wants to read that book. The theme of that book25:31 is, you shall be holy for the Lord your God is holy. And throughout the book, God tells them in the book of Leviticus, this is clean25:43 and this is unclean. In fact, those 2 words most likely occur more in Leviticus than anywhere else in the bible. What is God doing? Think about it. Ancient people who did not have25:55 sanitizer and soaps and, you know, all these kinds of precautions about germs and bacteria were filled with sicknesses, were filled with diseases. People's26:06 lifespan was maybe 45 to 60 years old if they were lucky. And so God takes his holy people aside, and he says, this is clean, and this is unclean. What is God26:18 doing? He's saying, this is good for you, and this is not good for you. And you're going to be like me. We're going to establish in our house, we're gonna establish what's right and26:30 what's wrong. So there's there's no getting on their level. There is leveling them up to where you are to helping them understand there are things that we do as a pair as as people, and there are things that we don't26:42 do as parents, as a people because God has made us differently. So this was this was groundbreaking in the book of Leviticus. Groundbreaking. No ancient people had these kind of laws, these kind of sanitary codes and26:54 God was making. And it's a wonder because out of all the ancient people of the ancient world, the only ones that still are alive and in their land today are the land of Israel. It works.27:07 Train up a child in the way that they should go. And when they are old, they will not depart from it. Proverbs 22 verse 6. Now listen to me. That's not a promise. That's not set it27:19 and forget it. What you're doing is you're training their child how they should live, what they should do, what they should not do with their bodies, how they should act, and how they should not act with their bodies. As27:29 a parent, your job is to say, we don't say things like that. As a as a parent, it's your job to say, we don't go places like that. Do your children27:41 have a sense of what is appropriate and what is inappropriate? And if you don't have a child that has some inner navigational compass that is starting to be refined to the point where they start27:53 to realize that there are things that they don't do because they are your child, my friend, if that's not happening, you're currently failing as a parent, and you just start saying this regularly. That is28:05 wrong. And just because the culture doesn't back you up, doesn't mean you acquiesce to the culture. This is why God gives you a church, pastors, and elders who will watch28:17 over you and gives give care and and counsel to you and empower you to be strong in the Lord for them. K. Number 3, you are not the center of the universe.28:31 You need to say this to your children on a regular basis. Or it's second cousin, it's not all about you. Some of you might say, well, it's time to think of others. Here's another simple 128:43 word phrase, share. No. That's not for you. That's for someone else. And so this is, you know, 1 of the wonderful28:55 promises of scripture is that children will will very quickly latch on to the faith. In fact, Jesus says become like children that you might enter the kingdom of God. What does he mean29:07 by that? He he doesn't mean that you become children as in their children are innocent. No. Jesus would never deny original sin. What he means is that you become teachable, receptive. You understand29:19 that there is a level of Christianity where you get to where you're just no longer teachable anymore. And a lot of people come there, and you know nobody can teach them anything anymore. So Jesus' words to them is become29:28 childlike in your faith. I am here to allow god to speak to me and listen to me in ways that I may not currently like.29:39 We we don't come to church so that the pastor can just affirm everything that we already believe. You people have me worried today. I don't know.29:52 That's not church. Church is about discipline. Church is about growth. Church is about challenge. The scripture says that all god all scripture is god breathed and is profitable for teaching and30:03 training, correction, and rebuke in Christ Jesus. We like the teaching and training, not so much the correction, the rebuke.30:16 But we need the correction, the rebuke to be changed into the image of Jesus. And everything that the pastor says should come from this book. I mean, if it's not from this book, you can ignore30:28 it. But if it's from this book, then this book confronts you and corrects you. Receive it. Because the big message is you're not the center of the universe. The earth does not have the sun30:41 surrounding it. The earth rotates around the sun. The solar system is a picture that we ourselves are not the center of what God is doing on this earth. You gotta tell this to your30:52 kids so that they Philippians 2 verse 3 says, do nothing from selfish ambition or vain conceit, but they count others more significant than themselves. Let each of you not look to their own interest, but also to31:04 the interest of others. Now I hate to share some stories. I don't wanna embarrass my children. I won't tell you who. But 1 of them, they had 2 they had 2 friends over. Each of them had a separate friend over, and the31:16 friend of the other 1 asked the other 1, that wasn't the friend of that 1, can you get me some milk out of the fridge? And my other 1 said, you're not here with me. You're here with them, so ask them. I31:28 said, no. You're gonna help your sibling's friend, and you're gonna serve them now. It was a key instrument instructional moment to shape that31:40 you are supposed to look out for other people. Romans 12 verse 3, for the by the grace given to me, Paul says, don't let anyone think of themselves more highly than they ought, but think of yourself with sober judgment.31:51 In other words, have an accurate assessment of yourself according to the measure of faith that God has given you, that you learn to regard other people as more important than yourself.32:03 Now in some ways, the sinful human nature undermines parenting from birth because what does a what does a baby often do?32:15 Cry. And what do we do when a baby cries? We try to soothe them. Now there is a balance. There is a balance of32:26 soothing, and there's a balance of letting them deal. And I believe it's from birth. I know there are expert psychologists out there that would disagree with me about32:38 this. Your job as a parent is to mediate the necessities of your children and not cultivate a32:49 demandingness within them. And you have to discern through the holy spirit. Again, this is overwhelming unless you have the holy spirit. The holy spirit can give you33:01 guidance that sometimes the baby needs prompt attention. I am not talking about letting them sit in their filth. I am not talking about them letting them go hungry. That is not what I'm talking about. But there are times33:12 even from birth when a child is just crying, nothing soothes them, let them cry it out. In fact, there are some33:23 doctors, and I will reference a study from the University of Warwick in the UK who says this, where crying is really the only exercise that a baby gets. And in crying, they're exercising and strengthening their lungs for33:35 later in life. But if we're always running to their rescue, running to help them, running to soothe. We inadvertently create a it's all about33:47 me mindset that they will carry into toddlerhood. And when they're infants, people will understand. But when they're toddlers, people will start pointing fingers at you.34:00 And you will be the person nobody wants to have over for their breakfast or their lunch or their picnic. You understand what I'm talking about here. It's not cute after a while, and children34:11 need correction. They need training. They need discipline in that moment to be reminded that you're not the center of their universe. By the way, when they get older and they're34:25 in a sport and the coach is hard on them, let them deal with that.34:37 I feel like I'm all alone up here, pastor Shane. When a when a teacher points them out in class and potentially humiliates them,34:49 don't call the teacher. You you understand? I know. I know. It hurts. Good. They they can't hit them. That's35:01 illegal now. But they might humiliate them. They might point out their faults or failures, and in that moment, you have a precious chance to let that35:13 child learn how to deal with forces that are out of their control and curtail their demanding nature to be celebrated35:24 and sought after and attended to at every moment of their lives. Do understand that this in nature is it puts I in the middle, s I n. I is in the35:36 middle of sin. So it's not just don't steal and don't swear. It's don't put yourself in the middle of the world. Okay. Another 1. And this is kind of tied in with this whole thing about sports and teachers and and35:48 and authority figures. Number 4, call them mister, missus, sir, or ma'am. This is a36:00 lost art in today's generation, and I don't understand it. Your child must never be on a first name basis with any36:12 adult. Ever. Ever. Amen. You know, our culture has a serious problem with pedophilia.36:25 You know why? Because we've taken these walls down that should be there. Adults are different than children. Adults are in a different plane than36:37 children. So you don't have your child call an adult by their first name. They call them mister or missus. I had my mom's36:48 best friend was auntie. Sometimes when you're close, you'll you'll do that. You won't do the missus and missus. It's too informal. You're close, so this person was auntie. She was auntie till her dying day. I was37:00 40 years old and still calling her auntie. Do you understand that I still to this day cannot call my father-in-law by his first name? I can't even say it right now. I can't can't come out of my mouth.37:13 He is pastor Geyser, and he will be pastor Geyser until I die. Because he is in authority. He is an older man.37:26 Respected. He is to be honored, and I am not on equal footing with him in regards to the to the to the authority structure of generational blessing.37:38 This is so important. Some of you to this day in this church, like nails on a chalkboard when your child runs up to me and calls me Tim. I am not Tim, and I will not respond to your children who call me Tim. Just37:49 know this right now, and I am instructing all the pastors and elders the same thing. They are not on a first name basis with your with your child. You tell your that's pastor Tim. And if you don't wanna call me pastor,38:01 even though I'm a pastor, you should have no problem with that. Then it's mister Tim or mister Hatch or reverend Hatch or write reverend Hatch or38:13 his holiness. Take your pick. Leviticus 19 32 says, you shall stand up before the gray head and honor the face of38:25 an old man, and you shall fear your God, I am the Lord. This is scripture. The scripture says in Romans 12, give honor to38:37 whom honor is due. You don't want your you do not want your children to be friends with authority figures. That's where disrespect and disobedience come from because the familiarity quotient is there, and now they feel38:48 like they can just do whatever they want and nobody can tell them whatever they want. Nothing to that that they should do nothing. Nobody can tell them anything. This has to be broken in our culture, and I understand the38:58 culture and agree. In the house of we're gonna set up adults as authority figures, and we're gonna create a good healthy listen to me. A good healthy relational distance Amen.Show more
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