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Cher Kretz

You've found the best show for solution focused families. Raising kids today means facing a brand new reality with all the same parenting demands. Ready or not, you're upgraded! Here we discover solutions, share stories and create

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  1. 241Curiosity: The Key To Great Communication and The Solution Focused Approach (episode 241)Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day conversation training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  In this episode of the Focused Mindset podcast, Cher discusses the importance of maintaining curiosity in educational and counseling settings. She explores the barriers that prevent individuals from engaging fully in the solution-focused approach and emphasizes the need for patience and genuine curiosity when interacting with students and clients. Cher also shares her personal journey with the RAMP program, highlighting the challenges and insights gained along the way. You want to have meaningful conversations, but relationships are complicated, and opportunities are missed. This is why I created the three-day conversation navigation challenge, and you can now join for free with this link.  ALSO, you will get a 50% discount code for my Conversation Navigation Bundle that will give you both audio and video training and two courses and my book 30 Days to Higher Hopes sent to you.  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en  Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Curiosity and Barriers 02:29 The Journey of Becoming a Recognized School Counselor 08:14 The Importance of Staying Curious 15:26 Empowering Through Curiosity 20:28 Updates on the RAMP Journey23 min
  2. 242Better Mindset = Better Hope Talk (Episode 242)Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  In this episode of the Focused Mindset podcast, Cher Kretz explores the relationship between mindset, hope, and the power of listening. She emphasizes the importance of cultivating hope in our lives and the lives of those we serve. Cher discusses practical strategies for training our minds to see hope, the significance of daily hope work, and how to notice hope in everyday conversations. The episode highlights the science of hope, its impact on personal growth, and the necessity of caring for our thoughts to foster a positive mindset. TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher Takeaways   The relationship between mindset and hope is crucial for personal growth. Practicing hope talk can renew our minds and change our perspectives. Listening with a solution-focused lens helps cultivate hope in others. We can train our minds to see hope in everyday situations. Hope is a powerful predictor of success and resilience. Daily practices can help us notice and document moments of hope. Our mindset influences how we respond to life's challenges. Finding hope in conversations can uplift both ourselves and others. Setting personal goals is essential for fostering hope. Caring for our thoughts is vital for maintaining a hopeful mindset. Chapters   00:00 The Science of Hope and Mindset 04:50 Interview with Michael Mushong on Mental Health 05:07 The Importance of Mindset in Difficult Times 08:54 Finding Hope in Everyday Life 19:45 Practical Steps for Daily Hope Work29 min
  3. 243Unlocking the Secrets of Communication: How to Get the Full Story from Your Kids (Episode 243)Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  In this episode Cher discusses the challenges many of us face in communicating with their children. She emphasizes the importance of understanding that kids often do not share the full story of their day, focusing instead on conflicts or negative experiences. Cher provides strategies for parents to encourage open communication, problem-solving, and a balanced perspective in their children's storytelling. By fostering a safe and supportive environment, parents can help their kids feel comfortable sharing their experiences, leading to stronger connections and healthier relationships. TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher Chapters 00:00 Understanding Communication Gaps with Kids 06:29 The Importance of Full Storytelling 12:27 Encouraging Problem-Solving Skills 19:34 Navigating Emotional Responses 28:29 Effective Questioning Techniques 37:04 Celebrating the Good with the Bad40 min
  4. 244Podcast Trailer: Unlocking Hope on The Focused Mindset PodcastStart your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  In this introductory episode of the Focused Mindset Podcast, Cher shares her excitement about the journey ahead, emphasizing the solution-focused approach to counseling and coaching. She discusses her background as a school counselor and her passion for helping parents and educators connect with their children and students. Cher highlights the importance of hope in conversations and the power of effective communication. The podcast aims to provide insights from experts and practical strategies for personal growth and connection. Tune in to Cher's TED, How to Lead with Hope: TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN takeaways Cher is excited to launch the podcast after 200 episodes. The podcast focuses on a solution-focused approach to counseling. Cher emphasizes the importance of hope in conversations. She has a background in school counseling and coaching. The podcast aims to help parents and educators connect better. Cher's journey includes speaking on the TED stage. The solution-focused approach empowers individuals to thrive. Listeners can expect expert insights and practical strategies. Cher encourages leveling up communication skills. The podcast serves as a cornerstone for Cher's work. Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher11 min
  5. 245Michael Mushong Speaks about Navigating Mental Health and The Power of Connection (episode 244)In this episode, Michael Mushong shares his experiences in the military and his journey towards helping others with their mental health. He discusses the importance of connection, trust, and being present for those in need, especially in high-stress environments like the military. The conversation emphasizes the need for compassion, understanding, and the role of first sergeants in supporting their troops. Michael's personal stories highlight the impact of being there for someone in crisis and the importance of leading with love and humility. takeaways Mental health awareness is crucial year-round. Connection and trust are vital in helping others. Being present can save lives. Building rapport is essential for effective communication. Humility is key for leaders in the military. Loneliness is a common issue among service members. It's important to listen without judgment. Life is a journey with ups and downs. Support systems within the military are important. Everyone has their struggles; compassion is necessary. Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  You want to have meaningful conversations, but relationships are complicated, and opportunities are missed. This is why I created the three-day conversation navigation challenge, and you can now join for free with this link.  ALSO, you will get a 50% discount code for my Conversation Navigation Bundle that will give you both audio and video training and two courses and my book 30 Days to Higher Hopes sent to you.  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en34 min
  6. 246Three Steps to Mindset Mastery for Holiday Gatherings (episode 245)Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  In this conversation, Cher discusses how to adjust our mindset for the holiday season, focusing on proactive strategies to enhance family gatherings. She emphasizes the importance of planning ahead, taking intentional pauses, and choosing a positive vibe to create a more enjoyable experience. Cher encourages listeners to reflect on positive memories and the qualities they appreciate in their family members, ultimately promoting a mindset of gratitude and intentionality during the holidays. TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Gift Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher Chapters 00:00 Embracing the Holiday Spirit 03:10 Mindfulness and Intentionality in Family Gatherings 05:40 Planning Ahead: Writing Your Own Narrative 08:12 Taking a Beat: The Power of Pausing 10:49 Choosing Your Vibe: Setting the Mood 14:04 Reflecting on Positive Memories 16:54 The Importance of Attitude 19:20 Transforming Interactions: Being Intentional 22:25 Preparing for the Unexpected 24:33 Conclusion: Embracing the Journey Ahead34 min
  7. 247Take Action With A Solution Focused Mindset (Episode 246)Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN In this episode of the Focused Mindset Podcast, Cher discusses the importance of taking deliberate and disciplined action in our lives. She shares personal stories about family, travel, and the influence of her grandmother, emphasizing the significance of intentionality in our actions. Cher encourages listeners to reflect on their own lives and take action on their convictions, highlighting the ripple effect of communication and the value of mentorship. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to embrace their journey with purpose and with a solution-focused mindset. Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ Chapters 00:00 The Challenge of Taking Action 02:04 Reflections on Family and Conviction 09:13 Lessons from Travel and Attitude 10:36 Influence of Grandparents on Life Choices 14:46 The Importance of Deliberate Action 20:33 The Role of Interns in Personal Growth 23:48 Teaching with Intention and Discipline 30:20 The Ripple Effect of Communication 36:32 Taking Action with Purpose TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher34 min
  8. 248What is Your Frame of Mind? Making and Impact with a Solution Focused Mindset Episode 247Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  Your frame of mind matters and in this episode Cher talks about why that is true. Find out more about the significance of mindset in shaping our communication and personal growth. She emphasizes the importance of adopting a growth mindset, the power of neuroplasticity, and the need to adjust our mental settings to foster better communication and relationships. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Cher illustrates how our beliefs and experiences frame our mindset and how we can choose to shift our perspectives to embrace uncertainty and redefine hope. You want to have meaningful conversations, but relationships are complicated, and opportunities are missed. This is why I created the three-day conversation navigation challenge, and you can now join for free with this link.  ALSO, you will get a 50% discount code for my Conversation Navigation Bundle that will give you both audio and video training and two courses and my book 30 Days to Higher Hopes sent to you.  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Focused Mindset 01:32 The Power of Mindset in Communication 05:53 Neuroplasticity and the Flexibility of Our Mind 08:38 Understanding the Frame of Mind 16:04 Shifting Mindsets Through Experience 26:34 Choosing a Mindset That Serves Us 31:37 Embracing Uncertainty and Hope  Related podcast episodes to learn more:  Solution Focused Possibilites: Uncertainty and hope with Fred Ehresmann  TEDx Change your mindset, change the game Alia Crum  Mel Robins Podcast simple mindset shifts that transfer your body with Alia Crum Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Takeaways Mindset is crucial for effective communication. A growth mindset allows for new perspectives. Neuroplasticity enables us to change our thought patterns. Curiosity leads to better understanding and communication. Our frame of mind shapes our beliefs and experiences. We can choose to shift our mindset intentionally. Transformative experiences can change our outlook on life. It's important to adapt to change rather than resist it. What we focus on influences our motivation and actions. Redefining hope involves embracing uncertainty. Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher33 min
  9. 249Reframe Your Mind for Growth Part 2: Creating the VIBES Episode 248V= Values I = Investigate and show Interest B = Boldness E = Enjoy each moment S = Start and Start again  Get your free good vibes checklist and pin up HERE https://thefocusedmindset.kit.com/1fb7a7eb6d In this episode of the Focused Mindset podcast, Cher discusses the importance of reframing our mindset to foster hope, growth, and effective communication. She emphasizes the role of mindset in shaping our experiences and interactions, drawing on personal anecdotes and research in neuroplasticity. Cher encourages listeners to embrace uncertainty and curiosity as they navigate life's challenges, ultimately redefining hope and personal growth. Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  You want to have meaningful conversations, but relationships are complicated, and opportunities are missed. This is why I created the three-day conversation navigation challenge, and you can now join for free with this link.  ALSO, you will get a 50% discount code for my Conversation Navigation Bundle that will give you both audio and video training and two courses and my book 30 Days to Higher Hopes sent to you.  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher18 min
  10. 250Dr. Loretta Whitson: The Heart of School Counseling: Advocacy and Purpose Episode 249In this conversation, Dr. Loretta Whitson discusses the vital role of advocacy in school counseling, emphasizing the importance of finding meaning and purpose in the profession. She highlights the significance of curiosity and personal connection in counseling, and offers advice for future educators and counselors. Dr. Whitson also reflects on the moral compass that guides leadership in education, underscoring the need for a supportive and collaborative environment for students. Takeaways Advocacy is essential in school counseling. Finding meaning in work enhances professional fulfillment. Curiosity drives effective counseling practices. Personal connections with students lead to better outcomes. Choosing a career aligned with personal beliefs fosters motivation. Collaboration among educators, counselors, and administrators is crucial. A balanced support system is necessary for student success. Counseling should address personal and social domains for effectiveness. Leaders should have a strong moral compass to guide their actions. Opportunities for students should be prioritized in counseling. Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  You want to have meaningful conversations, but relationships are complicated, and opportunities are missed. This is why I created the three-day conversation navigation challenge, and you can now join for free with this link.  ALSO, you will get a 50% discount code for my Conversation Navigation Bundle that will give you both audio and video training and two courses and my book 30 Days to Higher Hopes sent to you.  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en1 hr 1 min
  11. 251Lori Woodley-Langendorff SEL Muscle Mastery: How to STRETCH Episode 250In this engaging conversation, Lori Woodley-Langendorff discusses her book 'SEL Muscle Mastery' and the importance of practical skills in education. The dialogue explores the journey of writing and publishing a book, the significance of social-emotional learning (SEL), and the application of practical skills in everyday life. Lori emphasizes the need for curiosity, effective communication, and self-reflection in educational settings, while also highlighting the importance of empathy and compassion. The conversation concludes with reflections on personal growth, recognition in the counseling field, and the joy of pursuing one's passions. https://www.allittakes.org/ Chapters 00:00 Introduction to SEL Muscle Mastery 02:54 The Journey of Writing and Publishing a Book 06:07 Understanding SEL Muscles and Their Importance 09:07 Practical Skills for Everyday Life 11:52 The Q-Tip Principle: Quit Taking It Personally 15:06 Curiosity and Its Role in Education 17:48 Creating a Supportive Learning Environment 20:47 Understanding Different Communication Styles 27:48 The Cycle of Self-Criticism 29:58 Empathy and Compassion in Education 32:56 Finding Joy Amidst Challenges 36:04 Authenticity and Self-Reflection 40:57 Celebrating Achievements and Milestones 46:10 Pursuing Passion and Overcoming Doubts Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en55 min
  12. 252Dr. Manal Fakhoury: Increase Your Personal Initiative and Say YES!In a world where influence shapes our communities, few stories resonate as deeply as that of Dr.Manal Fakhoury. From migrating from Palestine as a young girl, to her roots in Southern California, to the life she shaped with her family in Ocala, Florida, Manal embodies the essence of a true woman of influence. Join us as we explore her inspiring journey, her commitment to community, and the lessons she has learned along the way.  Dr. Manal Fakhouy is the Organizer and Curator of TEDx Ocala, President of ollinwomen.org, and founder of Fakhoury Leadership International. These are only a few of the accomplishments she has had and in this episode you will get to hear her stories and benefit from her wisdom.  Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  You want to have meaningful conversations, but relationships are complicated, and opportunities are missed. This is why I created the three-day conversation navigation challenge, and you can now join for free with this link.   TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en  Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher1 hr 15 min
  13. 253How to Build Rapport and Start Conversations That Truly Connect (episode 252)First: Follow this link to get your free 35 Solution Focused Questions worksheet! https://thefocusedmindset.kit.com/620a7a8b4e In this episode of The Focused Mindset Podcast, Cher dives into one of the most important skills in communication: how to build rapport from the very beginning of a conversation. Using the solution-focused approach, Cher shares how small shifts in the way we ask questions can dramatically improve connection, trust, and impact. She also reflects on a powerful insight: sometimes even well-intended positive questions can feel invalidating if we are not fully meeting people where they are. This episode will help you balance hope and authenticity, so your conversations feel real, not forced. ✨ What You'll Learn Why the way a conversation starts often determines how it ends How certain "positive" questions can accidentally feel invalidating The difference between solution-focused vs. overly positive communication How to stay curious and present instead of anxious or self-focused Simple, powerful questions that instantly build connection 🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode Free 35 Solution Focused Questions resourse worksheet  https://thefocusedmindset.kit.com/620a7a8b4e Solution Focused Possibilities Podcast https://sfpossibilities.org/ Vin Giang – Communication & Conversation Skills https://www.youtube.com/@askvinh  6 Powerful Questions to Build Rapport Use these in conversations to create connection and trust: "Tell me more." "That's an interesting way to look at it." "What do you love most about that?" "I see where you're coming from." "That must have been a big moment for you." "What else?" 💡 A Better Way to Start Conversations Instead of jumping straight to: "What's been better?" Try: "What have you been thinking about lately?" "Have you had any new thoughts?" "What's going in the right direction?" These open the door without dismissing real struggles. ⚖️ Real Talk: Avoiding Toxic Positivity Even solution-focused questions can feel too positive or invalidating if we skip over someone's real experience. The goal is not to avoid problems. The goal is to walk through them with someone so they can see possibilities. 🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode Solution Focused Possibilities Podcast https://sfpossibilities.org/ Vin Giang – Communication & Conversation Skills https://www.youtube.com/@askvinh ❤️ Final Message In a world moving quickly toward digital connection, this episode is a reminder to slow down and prioritize real human connection. When we lead with curiosity instead of control, conversations become meaningful, hopeful, and transformational.29 min
  14. 254Deep Purpose and Moral Compass: Loretta Whitson's Keys to Educational Leadership episode 253In this inspiring episode, you can listen in on part of the conversation with Dr. Loretta Whitson, and Cher revisits and reflects upon what she learned from this chat.  She talkes about the unexpected qualities that help us grow like long suffering, and advocacy in the field of school counseling. Discover how deep purpose, moral compass, and boldness shape impactful leadership and help us live in service.  Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Long Suffering in Leadership 12:05 The Importance of a North Star 14:25 Understanding Long Suffering 17:29 The Role of Patience in Leadership 19:39 Persistent Patience and Moral Compass 22:23 Finding Deeper Purpose in Leadership 25:02 Navigating Challenges and Opposition 27:43 Embracing Change and New Beginnings Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en  Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher  Resources California Association of School Counselors (CASC) - https://www.schoolcounselor-ca.org/31 min
  15. 255How the Second Solution Focused Session Can Make a BIG Impact (episode 254)TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN When we first learn about the solution-focused approach apprach it may seem like you spend most of your time learning about how to run the first session or how to have the first conversation.  Because this is an approach, not a step-by-step guided practice, some people do a great job with that first meeting only to choose not to use those skills in the second session. In this episode, we talk about the importance of the second session, and Cher shares an intake method she uses that has helped her second sessions run smoothly and have an even greater impact.  This will also help you bring this practice to fidelity for you so you don't just know about this approach, but you have confidence in using it with clients and in coaching conversations.  Key Topics Importance of deliberate practice in second sessions Using a structured intake to guide follow-up Building client capacity for self-directed change The role of curiosity and listening in solution focused therapy Using scaling questions to measure progress Maintaining solution focus without slipping into problem talk Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  In this episode, you will learn:  Consistency in applying solution-focused techniques is key to client progress. The second session is crucial for reinforcing change and planning next steps. Using visual tools like the four chambers helps clients see their progress. Curiosity about the client's preferred future keeps sessions growth-oriented. Practicing skills in real-life situations enhances naturalness and effectiveness. The podcast Solution Focused Possibilities, episode 19, was discussed in this episode, so feel free to listen to the entire conversation.  You want to have meaningful conversations, but relationships are complicated, and opportunities are missed. This is why I created the three-day conversation navigation challenge, and you can now join for free with this link.  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher33 min
  16. 256Solution Focused VS AI: Questions and Connections (episode 255)TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN This episode explores the profound importance of authentic human connection in counseling and education, especially in an era increasingly influenced by AI. Cher shares insights on how interpersonal communication and rapport remain irreplaceable, emphasizing the value of being deliberate and intentional in our interactions. Learn about: The current AI explosion does not threaten jobs requiring personal communication; human connection remains essential. AI's role in emotional and interpersonal conversations is limited, often reinforcing existing thoughts rather than deep understanding. The unique value of human interaction, particularly in mental health and counseling, is highlighted through the experience of locking in with clients or students face-to-face. Developing rapport and locking in during conversations can inspire quicker action and meaningful change. Expertise and creativity as a counselor or educator are irreplaceable; reliance solely on AI or step-by-step programs diminishes professionalism. Addressing the importance of being intentional, especially when implementing programs like ramp in school counseling, to ensure genuine impact. The significance of authentic listening, understanding worldview, and focusing on the individual's end goals to foster change. The concept of the "paper test"—ensuring interventions lead to real-world change, not just ticking boxes on paperwork. The idea that lasting change happens outside of formal activities, through real conversations and meaningful engagement. The continuous importance of serving with purpose and intention, both in small moments and large initiatives, to truly connect and make a difference. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction: The AI explosion and its limited impact on personal communication jobs 00:31 - Why AI doesn't threaten face-to-face counseling and emotional conversations 01:57 - The reinforcement tendency of AI and its limits in deep human connection 02:52 - The irreplaceable value of face-to-face interactions for rapport and unlocking change 03:21 - The power of genuine presence and face-to-face locking in with clients or students 04:46 - How AI tries to replicate connection through scripted conversation and its limitations 05:43 - The importance of rapport, especially in counseling and coaching, for unlocking potential 06:40 - Developing skills for quick rapport building and why it's critical to service value 07:09 - Human connection as a key differentiator in all professional settings 08:04 - The importance of expertise in counseling—going beyond reliance on programs or digital tools 09:01 - The risk of devaluing your role by doing only what AI can replicate 09:58 - Embracing solution-focused approaches to deepen human engagement 10:27 - The power of asking the right questions and unlocking future-focused thinking 11:26 - The value of intentionality in programming, especially through tools like ramp 12:20 - How deliberate planning enhances effectiveness and personal relevance in counseling 13:19 - The importance of true intervention over checkbox activities—making real change 14:42 - The danger of surface-level activities; real change is driven by meaningful conversations 15:39 - The desire and motivation to create impactful, model programs through intentional work 16:36 - Acting with purpose and serving with deliberate intent in every interaction 17:04 - Unlocking deeper connections through purposeful, authentic engagement 18:54 - The "paper test"—assessing if actions lead to real change beyond paperwork 19:51 - The significance of real-world application and how counseling creates lasting change 21:47 - The expertise and insight counselors bring that can't be replicated by AI 22:16 - Moving beyond quick fixes; serving with genuine connection rather than check boxes 23:14 - Building ongoing relationships for sustained impact in student and client success 24:12 - The importance of being present and accessible to foster trust and continuous growth 25:10 - The value of authenticity, deliberate listening, and intentional engagement 25:41 - Encouragement to strengthen human connection skills in professional practice 26:11 - How reaching out and staying connected can enhance your impact and professional growth 26:38 - Final message: You matter, your interactions make a difference, and live solution focused.Resources & Links: The Focused Mindset Connect with Cher: Email Website Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  You want to have meaningful conversations, but relationships are complicated, and opportunities are missed. This is why I created the three-day conversation navigation challenge, and you can now join for free with this link.  ALSO, you will get a 50% discount code for my Conversation Navigation Bundle that will give you both audio and video training and two courses and my book 30 Days to Higher Hopes sent to you.  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cherVideo · 24 min
  17. 257How Alignment Matters When Applying for RAMP and the Announcement of 2027 California School Counselor of the Year Finalist (episode 256)Join Cher's Hope Notes newsletter and start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  Cher shares her personal journey of alignment and attitude, and shares what she learned on the road to her recognition as a finalist for the 2027 California School Counselor of the Year, emphasizing the importance of deliberate attitude and alignment in professional and personal life. In her preparation to apply for RAMP, the power of alignment became more important than ever! Hear how this all comes together in this episode.  TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Tip Jar:  Your generous support helps me create more free resources and keep this podcast going strong. Thank you. https://thefocusedmindset.ck.page/products/tips-4-cher  Key topics Authenticity and its impact on relationships The importance of alignment in personal and professional life How to deliberately choose and practice a positive attitude The significance of authenticity in achieving recognition Strategies for maintaining alignment in challenging situations19 min
  18. 258Connection, Empathy and Cultutal Awareness (episode 257)Start your free Solution-Focused  3-day training here: https://www.thefocusedmindset.com/leadwithhopechallenge  This episode explores the power of cultural awareness, empathy, and genuine connection in school counseling. The conversation reflects on a challenging school year in California and shows how understanding the lived experiences of students and families leads to more effective support, stronger trust, and more equitable service. Key topics Reflecting on a school year shaped by turmoil, fear, and uncertainty How demographics shape the needs of a school community A powerful early teaching experience about race, trust, and proving competence Building connection by meeting families where they are The impact of reading culturally relevant books in the classroom Supporting students and families affected by immigration-related fears Creating a safe space for students observing Ramadan Why equity is more than policy and paperwork The importance of listening to parents' concerns with humility Finding shared humanity across different backgrounds and beliefs Timestamps 00:01 - Episode intro and reflection on the school year 00:57 - California turmoil and the emotional weight on schools 03:20 - Why demographics matter in school communities 03:48 - First teaching job and an uncomfortable parent interaction 05:16 - Using books from different cultures to build trust 06:09 - A classroom visit that changed everything 07:05 - Learning the value of connection over proving a point 08:04 - Seeing the community through other people's worldview 09:01 - A student's fear about grandparents being deported 11:26 - Opening recess conversations for worried students 11:55 - Supporting students who fast during Ramadan 13:22 - How small accommodations build trust 15:19 - Equity as listening to real people, not just numbers 17:10 - Finding alignment across faiths, cultures, and fears 18:08 - Final encouragement to seek understanding and serve with humility Notable takeaways Demographics are not just data, they reflect real people with real needs Cultural responsiveness begins with listening and curiosity Small, thoughtful accommodations can have a major emotional impact Equity is lived through relationships, not just policies Shared fears and hopes create the strongest bridges between people TEDx: How to Lead with Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation https://youtu.be/Am3ZoF53BS0?si=ZaflEtnhsdjgJ2oN Instagram: Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset Podcast https://www.instagram.com/cherkretz_thefocusedmindset/ TikTok: @Cher Kretz The Focused Mindset https://www.tiktok.com/@cherkretz?lang=en Closing thought The episode's central message is that genuine service begins when we stop trying to prove ourselves and start trying to understand others.Video · 15 min
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