"The Cost of Holding On: Why Forgiveness Sets You Free" With Yana Jenay Conner
Episode · 36 min · November 21, 2025
About this episode
In this deeply needed conversation, Jayme Elizabeth sits down with author and Bible teacher Yana Jenay Conner to discuss her new book, Living Beyond Offense: Doing the Hard Work of Forgiveness. Yana unpacks why forgiveness is one of the most challenging yet freeing commands God gives us—and how we can walk it out in
real life.Yana shares her personal journey of navigating abandonment, the pain of her father’s absence, and how those early wounds shaped her view of God. She opens up about the anger she had to confront, the grief she had to acknowledge, and the healing that began when she learned what forgiveness truly is—and what it is not.Throughout the episode, Jayme and Yana talk through:✨ What the Bible actually means when it calls us to forgive✨ A powerful definition of forgiveness rooted in mercy, not emotions✨ Why forgiveness doesn’t require an apology✨ How unforgiveness keeps us stuck, closed off, and spiritually imprisoned✨ What happens when confrontation doesn’t go the way we hoped✨ The difference between forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and forgetting✨ How to release control and trust God with justice, healing, and redemptionThis conversation is full of biblical wisdom, rich theology, and tender honesty for anyone walking through the pain of betrayal, disappointment, or relational hurt. If you're ready to move beyond offense and step into the freedom Christ offers, this episode will strengthen and guide you!Get Yana's Living Beyond Offense Book on Amazon!Get to know Yana! https://www.yanajenay.com/Personalize Scripture With Me! Get Your Serenity Journal & Connect: https://www.jaymeelizabeth.com/CONNECT WITH JAYME ON SOCIALS: Instagram l YouTube l Pinterest l Facebook
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