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Understanding the Shadow Self 0:00 Hey, men. Kenny Luck here, founder of Everyman Ministries. I'm so glad you're here from wherever you are, on your way to work, in the backyard, around a fire pit, with your men's group, in a church hall. We're just so0:10 glad as a part of Everyman team that you've chosen to open up God's word and grow spiritually. Now a couple coaching tips. Just make sure you have your bible handy. It's always a great reference point. Make sure you have0:21 the downloaded notes. Those help you not only follow along, but then you can teach it and give it away. Now, fun fact, you know, this live stream is only 1 time a week. But we0:33 have a community of 70000 plus men who receive fresh insight and encouragement from God's word in the Everyman daily devotional. You wanna join that community and get just a fresh0:44 encouragement on a daily basis versus just the once a week meeting, go ahead and go to the bottom of the home page. There's a little space there. You put in your email and just sign up. Lastly, before we go to the0:56 study, if you have been ministered to or blessed by the every man in life for you, let me encourage you to bless another man. Somewhere in the world, on a military base, maybe it's a group of friends, maybe it's a1:07 church, give financially.1:19 There's a little donate there. It just helps us to get what you're gonna watch out into the spaces and places where men are so they can become like Jesus.1:31 Now, let's join today's study. If you have a Bible, I want you to hold a spot for me in Ephesians chapter 3. We're in part 1 of a series we're calling Shadow1:43 Self, and that might sound mysterious to you, but it's really not mysterious. The fact is is that every man has a shadow self, which like the name suggests1:55 is not the person or image that we show publicly. No. The shadow self is the man you want to keep in the shadows. It's the man you want to2:07 stay hidden. It's the man you want to keep private. It's the man who's struggling to be better. It's the version of you you don't want on display.2:19 And when you read the gospels or you listen to the sermon on the mount, you see Jesus directly address the shadow self within men with boldness,2:31 with intention, especially with religious men. He would say things like, you have heard it said, don't commit murder. But I say to you,2:44 whoever is angry with his brother is the guilty 1. You would hear Jesus say, you've heard it said, don't commit adultery. But I say to you, that every2:55 man who looks at a woman with lust in his heart is guilty of adultery. Now, why would Jesus say things like that? It's because Jesus knows that3:07 the persona that religious men have on the outside, in that they're not hurting people, they're not murdering people, they're not they're not cheating on their wives, that doesn't mean3:19 that their hearts are right. Their outward persona doesn't necessarily represent the inner reality. No. In fact, Jesus is pointing out that3:31 problems don't exist at the level at which you finally see it. Problems exist below the water line inside of a man3:43 at the anger level, at the lust level, and those are the sources of the problems that we do eventually see. So Jesus went3:54 boldly under the water line to minister to men, specifically to that shadow self that they didn't want on display. Right? Jesus would say4:06 things to religious guys like, woe to you hypocrites. That's strong language. You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside you are full of greed4:18 and self indulgence. So I just want to be clear that this idea that we all have a shadow self, Jesus affirms it by what he says and4:30 how he interacts with men. And in fact, right now, Jesus says it again, and is saying to me and to you, I see the4:41 real you. I see the good parts of you, and I see the parts of you that you don't want anybody to know about. I see the struggling parts of you. I see the thoughts. I see the negative self perceptions4:53 that you have. So, in this series, we just want to put it right on the table in part 1 at the beginning that the same reality that Jesus was addressing then, He's addressing now in us.5:05 He doesn't want to speak to the persona. He wants to speak to the real us, especially those parts of us that sabotage our best intentions, that sabotage our5:17 relationships with God and people. And you know what the good news is? The good news is is that when I read the Bible, k, I see that I'm in really good company when it comes to this whole topic of having5:29 a shadow self. Right? Look at David in Psalm 51. He has a shadow self. He desperately needs God to change. You look at Paul in Romans chapter 7.5:40 He has this shadow self. He has this part of himself that he wants God not just to change him. Right? He wants God to deliver him from this shadow self. You look at Peter, and you5:52 see Jesus' real time interactions with with Peter, the rock. Right? And you you see Jesus telling Peter, hey, there's a part of you that needs to be sifted out. And it's gonna be sifted out6:04 because I'm gonna allow some things to happen in your life that are going to sift out parts of you that need to go. Alright? And then you look at Jesus re recruit Peter in John6:16 21, where now the process is complete. And what I want you to see with these men and what I want you to see in this series is that in humility and6:28 faith, God's man presents himself to God, his full self, not just the nice clean sanctified tidy parts of himself, but also his shadow6:40 self, the angry parts, the lustful parts, the parts of him that are immature, the parts of him that believe lies. We present our full self to God in humility and faith,6:52 and God does new works. Can you say that with me? New works. Right? But to be new, we need to be made new from the inside out and address7:05 the shadow. So so to start this series, I feel led by God to just that we all need to just come together as a community, and we need to pray because on the other side of prayer and this7:17 session and the sessions to come is massive transformation from the inside out. And you know what happens when that happens? That means that that transformation on the inside comes7:28 outside to change the world around you. So let's go to God in humility and faith, and let's pray. Father, like David, we want to ask you7:41 to create in us a clean and new heart. Create in me a clean heart, oh God. We don't want7:53 the old us. We want the new us, the new you. That's who we want. But only you can do that.8:05 Lord, we agree with Paul that if any man is in Christ, he's a new creation. And so, Lord, there's things within me. I know there's things within my brothers who are listening to my8:17 voice that I don't want to be and they don't want to be. And those things, the things that harm our relationships with You and people, the things8:29 inside our character and our thinking, those things require You to move inside of us. So Holy Spirit, come and fill us and give us8:41 insight and revelation today. In Jesus name, and all God's men said, Amen. Alright. So let's road map part 1. In part 1, what I want to do is lay a foundation for the8:52 whole series from God's word. I want to I want us to get our thinking straight. I want us to get our head straight, so that this whole idea that there there is a public self and a private self,9:04 right? That there's a shadow self, a hidden us that God wants to help and minister to, is biblical. Secondly, I want to look at a starting framework and9:16 process that is fundamental if you're gonna transform your inner man in Christ. And then in parts 2 through 4, what I'm gonna do is we're gonna look at men of9:28 God. Because what what scripture models for us is meant for us. So we're gonna look at men of God who addressed their shadow self and discovered relationship with9:39 God and interchange and their process. Alright. So who is the shadow self? Let's keep defining that. I said at the top, it's the9:51 hidden you. Now let's go a level deeper. It's the hidden you seen and known by you and God alone. It's the you that doesn't want to let10:03 others down. It's the you that is fighting sin alone. It's the you that is fighting this lie about yourself10:14 that destroys your self worth. It's that you who struggles to maybe tell the truth. It's the you that fears what others think. It's the you10:26 that that really wants to win the battle of of images. But at the same time, you're losing some battles of life. It's the you who's really anxious10:40 about the future. It's the you who is the worst critic of yourself. Right? It's the you who thinks and does things in10:52 private that you wish you could change. So that's that's the shadow self. It's the you that only God and yourself know and who God wants to minister to.11:04 Now, scripture knows that you know that guy. Scripture knows that this is the dynamic that's at work, and I want you11:15 to see 3 scriptures that address that, and then we're gonna come to 3 conclusions. The first scripture I want you to see is Proverbs 23 7, which says this, for as he thinks within himself,11:28 so he is. Okay? You notice that it's not what he does himself or what job he has or how people perceive him is who he is.11:40 It's as he thinks within himself, so he is. Alright? Look at first Samuel 16 7. God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward11:52 appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. Alright. So the heart in the Bible is your inner man, your inner thoughts, your inner emotions,12:04 your inner will. Okay. So so God's not looking at your outsides. He sees your insides. He sees all of you from the inside out. Third scripture I wanna look at is Matthew 1212:16 35, and it's Jesus talking. He says, a good man brings good things out of the good stored up where? In him. And an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up12:28 in him. So based on those 3 scriptures, Proverbs 23 7, first Samuel 16 7, and Matthew 12 35. Let's just lay some foundation. And12:40 the first 1 from Proverbs 23 7 is this, my self perception creates powerful direction in my life. The Bible says that as you think12:51 about yourself, so you are. Really interesting. As you think within yourself about God, as you think within yourself about yourself, as you think within13:03 yourself, your thoughts are the real you. Your inner life is your real life to God. Alright? The second truth13:15 from first Samuel 16 7 is my public perception is not God's perception of me. I love this passage of scripture because it really13:27 just cuts to the core. God doesn't look at you the way men look at you because men look at you on the outward side. You might be in a setting where men are assessing you from13:39 the outside in. God doesn't assess you that way. God assesses you from the inside out. He looks at the heart. So your public perception, the way people see you, that's not the way God13:51 sees you. Newsflash, God sees the real you. God sees your real thoughts. God sees what you do in the dark. Okay. Third truth is14:03 that my inner character determines my outer conduct. Okay. And that's what we read about Jesus pointing out in Matthew 12. Good men bring good14:14 things out of the good that's stored up in them. Evil things come from the same place. Right? So it's the inner dynamics, the inner character14:26 that determine the outer conduct. So here's here's a fact, a shadow self fact that I want you to write down. Okay. And14:38 it's this. Your life story reflects your inner journey. Or in the first person, my life story reflects an inner journey.14:50 Alright? You going from boy to man, and what that looks like, that's an inner journey. Going from immaturity, boy, to maturity, man,15:02 that's an inside thing. You being secure and confident on the inside. Right? Versus being insecure15:15 and not confident, that's an inner journey, and it's a story of transformation. So my life story reflects an inner journey, and because that's true, we need to have a15:27 starting place to now get on the right side of that journey. Right? To transform. To become more like Jesus. To15:39 address the shadow self. Now, in scripture, there is a great prayer from Hebrews chapter 13 that I kind of want us to read and pray15:51 together. So if you're watching on a tablet or your phone, the scripture is gonna come up. And I just I want you to set down your tablet and your and or your phone, and just kind16:03 of put your hands into a receiving position. And let's just pray Hebrews 13 verses 20 and 21 together. Okay? Let's pray.16:14 May God, who puts all things together, makes all things whole, who made a lasting mark through the sacrifice of16:26 Jesus, the sacrifice of blood that sealed the eternal covenant, who led Jesus, our great shepherd, up and alive from the dead, now16:38 put you together, provide you with everything you need to please him, and make us into what gives him most pleasure by means of the16:49 sacrifice of Jesus, the Messiah. All glory to Jesus forever and always. Oh, yes, yes, and yes, and17:01 amen. What a great prayer to kick off part 1 of shadow self. So now, if we wanna deal with the shadow self, I'm I'm coining a term. We want17:13 overshadowing by God of the shadow self, the parts of ourselves that need to change, that that need to grow up, that need to mature, that need to17:25 be locked down. And what we're gonna do is we're gonna look at Ephesians chapter 3, the passage that I hold you told you to kind of keep a spot in your Bible. You can open that up, or we'll have the verses on the screen.17:37 We're gonna unpack Ephesians chapter 3 verses 14 to 20 and see what overshadowing involves. That means God overshadowing the parts of you, and17:49 overwhelming, and taking over the parts of you that you want to change. So let's read Ephesians 3 14 to 20, and then we're gonna walk through and see some key18:01 things that are involved in overcoming your shadow self. Alright? Ephesians chapter 3 14 to 20. For this reason, I bow my knees before the Father, from whom everyShow more In this video 0:00 Understanding the Shadow Self18:07 The Journey to Spiritual Breakthrough
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