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In a world where it feels easier than ever to tear each other down, what would it look like if we became women who intentionally build bridges instead of burning them? In this episode, Pastor Lisa walks through the topics of connection, honor, forgiveness, and the holy work of reconciliation. This one will stretch you,

bless you, and remind you of the power you carry as a builder in God's kingdom. This episode dives into the heart of what it means to be a bridge builder, a woman committed to connection, honor, and intentional growth. Pastor Lisa brings real, practical, sometimes hilarious, and incredibly convicting truth about the ways we build up or tear down the relationships God has entrusted to us. From the dangers of gossip and complaining to the beauty of forgiveness and wise building, this conversation invites us into a higher standard: becoming women who reconcile, redeem, and restore. You'll feel encouraged, challenged, and empowered to examine your own bridges and commit to building what lasts. 00:28 — The purpose of a bridge: connecting what's been separated. Pastor Lisa shares why God calls us to be "bridge builders" in the Women of Arise. 01:52 — How complaining, gossip, dishonor, and speaking death burn the very bridges we're called to build. 03:36 — Entering her 50s, Pastor Lisa reflects on the value of connection... and who's going to wipe her later in life! 05:44 — Learning not to burn bridges even after mistakes; choosing not to unfollow people just because we disagree. 07:10 — "No one can hurt me unless I allow them." 08:39 — Becoming wise builders who leave room for reconciliation. The story of keeping the porch light on for Bekah. 11:21 — Matthew 7:24-27: Jesus' teaching on the wise and foolish builders and our ability to build well. 14:00 — Being faithful with what God has given now. Not neglecting blessings simply because they don't look like what we want. 16:30 — Ways we burn bridges: dishonor, disrespect, and the power of valuing others. John Bevere's Influence on Understanding Honor. 19:27 — Gossip and slander: Proverbs 16:28. Gossip separates close friends and destroys bridges. 24:22 — Unforgiveness and bitterness: bitterness builds walls, not bridges. 25:30 — Pride and self-righteousness: how long will we wait to cross the bridge? 26:10 — Division and offense: the enemy doesn't have to destroy the church if he can divide it. 27:57 — Neglect and apathy: ignoring your husband's needs weakens the bridge of your marriage. 30:02 — Complaining and cynicism: Numbers 12. Complaining keeps us wandering when God calls us forward. 36:24 — Five ways to build bridges: Speak life (Ephesians 4:29) Choose forgiveness (Colossians 3:13) Listen with love (James 1:19) Practice gratitude Be a peacemaker 40:18 — Bridges are built intentionally - Matthew 5:9. 41:24 — The ministry of reconciliation (2 Corinthians 5:18–19). 44:04 — Closing prayer and blessing. Plus: a reminder about the February 2026 Arise Conference. REGISTER FOR ARISE CONFERENCE 2026 TODAY! https://www.inspirechurch.live/events/arise-conference/

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