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Rise Up, Dangerous Dads 0:00 Hi. I'm Justin Batt. I'm the chief dad officer of Daddy Saturday, and I have the pleasure of partnering with every man to bring you the dangerous dad series. Dangerous dads have the0:12 5 power principles every dad needs to know to become a dangerous dad. Well, look, dads. Fatherhood is no longer a playground. It's a battleground. Let's face it. We0:23 live in a society and are raising kids in a dangerous world, and we need more dangerous dads. What does it mean to be a dangerous dad? When I think of someone who's dangerous, a few people come to mind. Maybe a few0:35 people come to your mind as well. 1 of those people in my eyes is Jocko Wilnick. Jocko is a former Navy SEAL, Brazilian jujitsu trained MMA fighter, and he has the look and build of 1 of those0:47 tough dudes. He was asked in a recent interview about being a dangerous man, and he said it was the ability to do harm, but also the discipline to control it. He learned the art of Brazilian Jiu0:59 Jitsu and competed as an MMA fighter. This gave him the self confidence and eliminated the insecurity of having to posture himself physically in almost any situation because he knew he could handle the majority of1:11 people in a physical altercation. He also decided to become a Navy Seal, to go into combat, to lay his life on the line and be okay with facing death. Finally, he decided to become a husband and a1:22 father and to protect and serve his family with the same intensity that he brought to MMA fighting and military combat. Well, look, you don't need to be an MMA fighter or a Navy SEAL to be a dangerous dad.1:34 Although, at times, it can sure feel like you're in the trenches of hand to hand combat with the enemy. What you do need are 5 power principles built on God's word that will give you the confidence1:46 to build a lasting marriage and raise resilient kids with a biblical worldview who thrive in a dangerous world. Power principle number 1 for all dangerous dads1:58 is intentionality. You've got to be intentional. Well, I've had the pleasure of hosting fatherless kids on our farm for 3 day life changing intensives. 1 of the young boys recently had a2:10 father figure enter his life for the the first time, and he was amazed by the simple fact that this man came home from work every night, ate dinner with his family, spent his paycheck on them, and although he wasn't2:22 perfect, he was present. The example this man set by being intentional will shape this young boy's life forever. Breaks my heart to think that something that simple could shape his2:33 life. The fact is, there are so many young kids out there today who don't have a present father figure in their life. And there are 2 forms of fatherlessness. There's the lack ofBreaking the Fatherlessness Cycle 2:45 a biological father living in the home, and there are fathers who are physically present, but they're emotionally absent. So many men have vacated their roles fathers, resulting us living in the most fatherless2:57 generation in history. Our masculinity is being challenged at its very core and the definition of manhood is now under attack. We live in an age where millions of kids grow up without a dad3:09 around or a dad isn't there because he's not engaged. So many young men grow up without the example of a man in their life, showing them the basic traits of masculinity. How to treat women. How3:21 to demonstrate and teach them a value system that instills character, compassion, and courage. So many young girls also grow up without a dad to demonstrate how a man should treat them and who will speak words of3:33 affirmation into their life saying things like, I love you, I see you, you matter, and you're beautiful. Things every young girl should hear. Let's face it. Young boys are not being taught how to be3:45 a man, and young girls are being left in the dark when it comes to what to look for in a man, and the buck stops with us as fathers. The trillion dollar question is how do you, how do we as fathers who3:56 are raised in a fatherless generation end the perpetuation of fatherlessness, engage our children and change the next generation? Well, I believe that God is going to reignite you and4:08 fathers just like you in this generation to engage your children with intentionality. He has a plan to connect the hearts of fathers to their children and children back to their fathers. You were not meant to4:20 simply survive as a dad, but to have a thriving relationship with your kids and to raise resilient kids. Here's the thing. Like you, when I became a father, I didn't receive a manual on how4:32 to be the world's best dad. I had no instruction guide. I've been a father for 13 years and I recently thought to myself, am I a 13 year old father or have I been a 1 year old father4:44 13 times? Think on that for a second. I'm probably somewhere in the middle, but it sure does feel like I've done about everything wrong you can do as a dad with 4 kids under 13 years old.4:56 However, I've also spent over 14000 hours added up with all 4 of my kids and 500 plus Saturdays being intentional and engaged. It has been far from5:08 perfect, but I've had more epic moments with my children and I've developed a formula for developing good kids who become great adults. I've also interviewed and surveyed several hundred fathers on the level of their5:20 satisfaction with their fatherhood. What I found is that all dads say they want their kids to succeed in life. They just don't know how the path to get them there is laid out. The feelings5:31 of being insecure, inadequate, and ill equipped are paralyzing forces for so many men. Dads also feel like they don't know what to do and would rather do nothing than do it wrong, therefore, they5:43 do nothing. Am I speaking to you right now? Is that how you feel? I know I felt that way for a long time as a dad. Well, how do we as fathers who were raised in a fatherless generation end the perpetuation ofNehemiah's Intentional Fatherhood 5:55 fatherlessness, overcome those feelings of being insecure, inadequate, and ill equipped, and engage our children to change the next generation? Well, if we're gonna answer that question, we've got to turn to a man in the6:07 Bible named Nehemiah. Nehemiah was a cupbearer to the King of Persia. And, although this was a very noble and prestigious position, what makes Nehemiah relatable is he was just like us. He was a6:19 layman. That's kind of Bible speak for blue collar. And, he wasn't a priest or a prophet. Nehemiah learned the temple at Jerusalem had been rebuilt, but the Jewish community there was dispirited and and defenseless.6:31 When he heard the news, he was distressed and immediately became a man of action. He eventually led a group of Jews back to Jerusalem in order to rebuild the city walls. Nehemiah's story provides the answer to our6:41 question through 5 big ideas. The first of those big ideas is the fact that Nehemiah was intentional. There was a resistance that came against him trying to dissuade him from achieving his goal of6:53 rebuilding the city. At 1 point, Nehemiah says, I'm doing a great work and I cannot come down. Wow. What if we as fathers applied this statement of focus to our view of7:05 raising our children? What if we set aside our careers? What if we set aside our finances? What if we set aside some of the things in our life that maybe the walls in our life that we're working on building7:16 and instead turned around and said, I'm doing a great work and I cannot come down. We were not distracted, and we had the focus of Nehemiah. Because see, being an intentional father is the key to raising good kids that7:28 become great adults. Intentional fatherhood means pursuing your kids with a purpose and maximizing the time you have with them. The days can be so long when you're raising kids, but the years really are7:39 so short. Don't blink. Right? You have the power to engage your children with intentionality instead of passively letting the time you have with them slide by. Take action today. We wanna see you implement7:51 these principles, so at the end of every module, we have a dangerous dad action step. These action steps will help guide you to put these principles, these power principles in place with your kids and your family8:01 starting today. The first dangerous dad action step we're gonna ask you to do is schedule time on your calendar. I wanna see 1 on 1 time with each of your kids during the week and a few hours in the weekend for your own8:13 daddy Saturday. Put this on paper on purpose and start doing this every single week. Treat these appointments like they were the most important business meeting that you have on your calendar. If you do this, it'll help8:24 you be intentional with your kids and engage them during the week and on the weekends. And I'll tell you what, your wife will love you when you take your kids for a couple of hours on the weekend and do your own Daddy8:35 Saturday. For more information like this, you can go to daddy saturday dot com and find out how to further engage your kids, be intentional, and have great ideas for activities that you can do during those 1 on 1 times8:46 as well as on your daddy Saturdays. Well, that wraps session number 1 in our first power principle. Stay tuned for power principle number 2. It's gonna be 1 that you don't wanna miss.In this video 0:00 Rise Up, Dangerous Dads2:45 Breaking the Fatherlessness Cycle5:51 Nehemiah's Intentional Fatherhood
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