What Love Really Is (And What It Isn’t) | S3E19 BEYOND I DO PODCAST

What Love Really Is (And What It Isn’t) | S3E19 BEYOND I DO PODCAST

February 19, 2026 · 52 min

Love gets tossed around so casually in culture that a lot of couples don’t realize they’re chasing a feeling while neglecting the foundation. In this episode, Adam and Ashlee unpack what love truly is—and what it isn’t—through a deeper dive into Song of Solomon. They confront three common cultural lies: that real love should be effortless, that your spouse should “climb your walls” to earn access to your heart, and that love is proven by how strongly you feel in the moment.Instead, they lay out a biblical picture of love that costs something: pursuit (you don’t drift into closeness—you choose it), vulnerability (love doesn’t demand someone scale your trauma—love invites you to come out of hiding), and sacrifice (love isn’t validated by emotions—it’s revealed by what you’re willing to give). Along the way, they keep it real with marriage stories, parenting parallels, and a practical reminder: feelings shift, seasons change, but covenant love stays anchored in commitment, maturity, and Jesus-shaped character.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

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Adam Mesa is Lead Pastor of Patria Church and speaks to a congregation of 12,000 about how the gospel of Jesus Christ brings purpose to every life. Patria