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Stop Starting Over Every Time It Gets Hard | S4E42 BEYOND THE LETTER PODCAST
Adam MesaEpisode · 1 hr 1 min · September 28, 2026
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Why do so many people keep starting over before anything has time to work?In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Will, Sammy, and Adam talk about consistency, leadership, success, discipline, mentorship, and what it actually takes to build something that lasts.The conversation starts with lessons Will picked up while
spending time with Pastor Craig Groeschel and quickly expands into a bigger discussion about why highly effective leaders think differently, why routines matter, and why successful people often stay committed to the same thing much longer than everyone else.They also unpack a lesson attributed in the conversation to Warren Buffett: sometimes success requires being willing to “watch paint dry” — staying patient and consistent instead of constantly abandoning one opportunity for another.But the conversation goes deeper than personal success.The guys ask whether a leader has really built something healthy if everything depends on that leader’s personality, charisma, or presence. Adam shares why discipleship and developing other leaders has become central to how he approaches ministry — and why multiplication matters more than simply building a platform around one person.Because sometimes the breakthrough isn’t another opportunity.Sometimes you just need to stop starting over and stay long enough to grow.--Do you feel distant from God?Visit Faith at the Table to get your free resource today!https://tablefaith.com/--Connect with:Will Chung https://www.instagram.com/willkchung/Sammy Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/--Join our study on the book of Acts on our Bible Club Podcast!https://www.youtube.com/@bibleclubpodcast--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/
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