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March 30, 2025 · 49 min
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Adam Mesa is Lead Pastor of Patria Church and speaks to a congregation of 12,000 about how the gospel of Jesus Christ brings purpose to every life. Patria
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0:00 Wonderful. Well, it's so wonderful to see everybody on Saturday night. How many of you love Saturday night service? Because you get to do a lot of0:12 fun stuff on Sunday, I guess. That's great. Probably sleep in for some or maybe some people work or some people have a great breakfast or0:24 or watch sports or binge on Netflix. I don't know what you do, but I would think that that I probably would attend Saturday night service.0:37 I probably would because I love to get up and work out and do some get kinda just chill and take my time. So probably would have been a so this is your Sabbath today. This is your Sabbath tomorrow. It will be Sunday0:49 Sabbath for other people. So thank you so much for coming. You look wonderful tonight. Jesus is Lord. And no matter what you're going through, no matter how tough1:00 life gets, just just remember that we're just sojourners. We're just pilgrims. We're just passing through. This this earth is not your home. You know, when1:12 people transition and die and and go to heaven, I always tell the family that your loved 1 is part of your future, not just your1:24 past. So let's just say somebody lives 60 years. So you had whatever. Let's just say you had 60 years with them. What is 60 years compared to eternity?1:35 Conversations, hugs, experiences, intimate moments. It's it's forever and forever and forever. And and this1:47 world, the Bible says, is like a breath. It's like the twinkling of an eye. It's like 1 raindrop compared to eternity. It seems slow on this side of heaven,1:59 like forever, but like when we you see your loved 1 and you get there, they're gonna turn around and you're gonna think, man, haven't seen you in a long time. They said, I just saw you like a second ago. What are you2:08 talking about? Because eternity, the Bible says, is like 1000 years. So it it just it's good to encourage ourselves sometimes when we go through difficult moments or2:20 reflections like that to remember that. How many of you wanna go to heaven? Yes. Everyone does. You know what? That means you have to die. See,2:33 everybody wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die. You say, well, I'm just believing that Jesus is gonna come back and I'll just be raptured. Well, bless the Lord, me too. We'll all go together. Amen. Let's pray2:45 and I'm just really excited to be here tonight. Pastor Adam will be here next week. He'll close out this series on secret wounds and silent cries. And he commissioned me2:57 to do 2 version of this series that I did 31 years ago. It was the first series that I did in the Southridge home in Fontana. And it was called Secret Wounds and Silent Cries3:09 Why Hurting People Hurt People. And so this is 2, the revision. Father, thank you so much for the few moments I have to share the gospel, the good news of hope and encouragement3:21 with your people today. Thank you. May this investment of time be impactful, God. May it be sticky and kinda just stay with us. In Jesus' name,3:32 amen. We're gonna read a scripture today. I'm gonna ask you to stand on your feet. Actually, tonight we're gonna attempt to work through this entire chapter today, but we're gonna take it in 33:44 parts and begin to dissect it today. An amazing story that is gonna blow your mind. You're gonna think that you're listening to a soap opera or you would think this is rated3:56 r, what you're about ready to read. But it's in the bible for a reason. Because sometimes our lives are not rated g. 5 honest people here today.4:08 Sometimes it's rated r. And r is not just sexual, it's violence. It's murder. It's threats. It's injustices. And so4:20 here we go. In Genesis 31 in verse number 38, excuse me, verse number 1. About that time Judah left home and moved to Adullam where he stayed with a4:32 man named Hirah. The Bible says that he saw a Canaanite woman. I'm highlighting words that are very important to come back to. The daughter of Shua, he4:44 married her when he slept with her. She became pregnant and gave birth to a son, and he named the boy Era. Then she became pregnant again and gave4:56 birth to another son, and she named him Onan. And when she gave birth to her third son, she named him Shelah and the time of Shelah's birth,5:08 they were living in Keshbah. In the course of time Judah arranged for his firstborn son, Era, to marry a young woman named, say this word5:20 with me, Tamar. Tamar. Okay. But Era was a wicked man in the Lord's sight so the Lord took his life. He died.5:33 Then Judas said to Era's brother Onan, which was the custom of the time, go and marry Tamar your sister-in-law to keep the lineage or the line5:44 going, basically, as the law requires the law requires of it. Of the brother of a man who has died, you must produce the heir for your5:56 brother. But Onan was not willing to have a child who would not be his own heir. So whenever he had intercourse with his brother's wife, he spilled the6:08 semen on the ground. It's in your bible. This prevented her from having a child who would belong to his6:19 brother. But the Lord considered it evil, Onan, to deny a child to his dead brother, so the Lord took Onan's life too. 2 sons dead6:31 now. Then Judah said to Tamar, his daughter-in-law, go back to your parents. Go away. Just go away, girl. To your parents' home, remain a widow, I don't6:43 want you to get married, until my son Shelah is old enough to marry you. But Judah didn't really intend to do this6:55 because he was afraid Shelah would also die. Fear. Fear. He's making his decisions out of fear. Not faith, fear. Like his 2 brothers. So7:07 Tamar went back to live in her father's home. We're gonna stop there? Yeah. Let's stop there. You may be seated. That's part 1. What do you think?7:19 You into that? You down with that? Let's read it a little bit. Let's talk a little bit about what this story is. Several years ago when we7:31 were at our old Utica property, I had just moved from Southridge to Etiwanda. And I wanted to raise the boys, my young sons, with a dog.7:42 And I wanted a German shepherd. I'd just always been partial to a German Shepherd, but, you know, we didn't have much money and I didn't know anyone for a breeder. And I didn't necessarily go to a dog pound. Was just I7:54 was literally running around the General Dynamics property, which was across the street from our Utica. And toward the end of the run, I noticed from a distance a little German Shepherd puppy.8:06 And I said, oh my God, there's a lost German Shepherd puppy. And so I made my way to it to not frighten it, but the closer I got, it ran into the bush. The bushes that were there.8:18 I got on my knees to kind of beckon him. You know how we talk real cute to them. Come on little puppy. Come on little puppy. And he wouldn't come out. He just went further and further into the brush.8:29 So I decided to kinda help him by sticking my hand out there to grab him and that little guy growled at me. Now I'm talking about 8 weeks, 10 weeks at the most. He was like that.8:42 First he went further into the the bush. I wasn't gonna hurt him. I actually wanted to take him home to a good home. I wanted to better his life. He was stranded. He didn't know where8:54 his next meal would be. Possibly a coyote or predator could kill him. But he saw me as a threat. He did not see me as a helper. When I extended his my hand toward him, he growled at9:05 me. And I thought, what the heck's wrong with this dog, crazy dog? Then he realized I'm trying to help him. And then I reached in a little further to grab him and then he bit me, tried to bite me.9:17 I spent about 10 minutes trying to coach this dog. I couldn't get him out. And so I just said, you know what? Forget you. And I took off. Now, think oftentimes9:29 what drives us into the bushes, I think about what makes us growl at people, and I sometimes think at what makes us try to bite people. Because something9:41 someone did to us, when when God wants to bring healing to us, he wants to bring health to us, he wants to bring a good relationship to us, he wants to bring a good pastor9:53 or church, We have a tendency to bleed out with our secret wound and our silent cry rather than reaching out and trust God to heal us. So10:05 in 2 point, in original it said, secret wounds, silent cries, why hurting people hurt people? Back then I would tell people, if you've ever been hurt by somebody, it's10:17 because they've been hurt. It's not an excuse and it just doesn't justify, but it kinda explains it. 2 version, secret wound silent cries is10:29 this, to be a healer for Jesus, you first must be healed. And Jesus wants you to heal people all around you, the brokenness of life. But you10:40 cannot heal somebody if you are not healed yourself. So here's the good news. In spite of what's happened to you, you don't have to be a victim.10:52 You don't have to be a casualty. You don't have to be an injured party. You don't have to be a fatality. Oftentimes through these experiences of secret wounds and silent11:04 cries, it makes us untrusting people and judgmental people and angry and mad and bitter people. We are detached and distant. We live isolated lives. We are depressed.11:16 We have destructive behaviors, selfish behaviors, and sometimes can be abusive and neglectful in our secret wounds and in our silent cries. But the reality of this message11:28 is this, you don't have to be perfect. God just wants you to be well. Do you really believe that God wants you to be well?11:40 Because the reality is even in your brokenness, you won't stop loving God and he won't stop loving you. But in your brokenness, you will not be able to serve God to your maximum11:51 capacity. I see a lot of Christians that are going to heaven and they love God, but they're not in service to God. And it usually comes back to a secret wound and a silent cry that they have12:03 not allowed God to heal them from. And it will affect your service towards God. In 2008, I had my right kidney12:14 removed. And if you were to see me without a t shirt, you'd see a scar right here where the kidney was removed. The scar is always there.12:26 It is permanent. I can't hide it. It's very visible. But the reality is I could touch it all day long and there's no more pain. And in life, you're gonna have12:38 scars, but there shouldn't be any more pain. If there's scars and there's pain, you need to go before Jesus and ask him to heal you of your secret wound and your12:50 silent cry. Today, I wanna talk a little bit now. Let's pick up the story. Let's go back to the story of where we are. Some years later, in verse 12,13:02 some year later Judah's wife died. K? Watch this. You you thought it was good up till now. Get ready. Get ready. After that time,13:14 morning was over. Judah and his friend, keyword, Hurrah, the Adullamite went up to Timnah to supervise the shearing of his sheep. Someone13:26 told Tamar, look, your father-in-law is going up to Timnah to shear the sheep. Remember, he sent her away. He made her a promise. Okay? This is Okay.13:37 No. Let me not say it. I'm not gonna give you it away. Tamar was aware that Shelah had grown up, but no arrangement had been made for her to come marry him. And you need to13:49 see that Tamar is the victim in this story. She's the 1 who has secret wounds and silent cries, and I'll break it down in a few moments. So she changed, watch this. I'll add14:01 this word because you're gonna hear it. In her desperation, she changed out of her widow's clothing and covered herself in a veil to disguise herself. Then she sat beside the road at the entrance of the village of14:13 Inna Innaim, which is by the road of Timnah, Judah noticed her and thought she was a prostitute and she covered her face. She's dressing like14:25 a prostitute. She's showing some skin right now. And she knows that's her father-in-law. You still liking this story?14:36 It's in your holy b I b l e. So he stopped and pro made a proposition to her,14:47 let me have sex with you. Intercourse. Let's let's get it on. All night long. Least for a couple minutes. He said not realizing This14:59 is stupid. This is stupid. Watch this. Not realizing that she was his own daughter-in-law. How stupid. You can't even15:11 recognize your own daughter-in-law? How much more how much will you pay to have sex with me, Tamar ass? Negotiation going on right15:22 now. About 3 months later Oh, excuse me, we're gonna stop there. Is that it? Yeah, we're gonna stop there. That's part 2. Part 2, we'll come back to it. Don't worry, we'll come back to it. Because see somebody,15:34 let's read on. We're gonna come back to it right now. Today we're gonna talk a little bit about the subject of secret wounds and silent cries that come from daddy issues.15:47 The passivity of a dad, the abandonment of a dad, the lack of attention of a dad. We're gonna talk about mommy issues. We're gonna talk about family drama, whether it's your aunt, your uncle, your cousins,15:59 your siblings. We're gonna talk about broken homes. Whether it's foster care, section 8, single parents, divorced homes, orphanages, projects you grew up in, or a widow's home. Today16:11 we're gonna talk about dysfunctional house. An arguing house, a house full of strife, anger, division. A house that's full of rape, incest,16:23 substance abuse, physical and emotional abuse. How many remember the old song by the Temptations? Papa was a rolling stone.16:36 It was the third of September, a day I always remember. I know you don't know that.16:48 Why? What the heck? What's going on? Really? Why is this messy, complicated,16:59 drama filled, intense, perverted story in my Bible? Because God wants us to relate because he relates.17:12 If you wanna act like your life is together and you have your act together and you come up from a perfect family then God bless you. But if for a moment you wanna17:24 relate that's what the bible is trying to tell you. It's trying to say, I identify with you. That's what Jesus is saying. This is my family lineage.17:35 And I identify with you. To tell you that you're not the only 1 with a secret wound in a silent cry. To tell you that I, God, can17:47 redeem your story no matter how nasty and perverted it is. And God's saying, the devil wants to erase you from my family, but I will17:59 not erase you, skip over, or edit you out. The bible says all things work together for the good to those that are called. The Bible says what the18:11 devil meant for evil, God will turn it to good. And the Bible says this will turn out for a testimony. I'm gonna give you this amazing scripture right now in Matthew. In18:22 Matthew 1 and in verse number 1 and in verse number 3. Matthew 1. The account of the genealogy of who? Jesus Christ. Jesus18:34 Christ, the son of David, the son of Abraham. Get ready, get ready, get ready. Watch this. Verse 3. Judah fathered Perez18:46 and Zerubitamar. Perez fathered Hezron. Hezron fathered Aaron. Who is the genealogy we're talking about? Jesus.19:02 These are his grandparents. Tamar was his great, great grandmama. You talk about his grandmama, you talkin' about Jesus right now.19:16 He didn't come from a perfect tree line. He didn't come from royal blood. He didn't come from holy or thou people. And yet he was holy.19:28 It doesn't matter where you come from. All that matters is what you allow God to do through you. Don't get all messed up, jacked up, tore up, shame and embarrassment you're dealing with.19:39 Imagine people talking about Jesus and his grandmama Tamar. In the lineage of Judah,19:51 God can redeem your story. There's hope, there's hope, there's hope. That's why the stories in the Bible to tell you it may have started 1 way, but it ain't gonna end that way, baby. It ain't gonna end that20:03 way. I I know you don't you don't wanna show no emotion because you're being ministered to right now. It's okay. Here's a few points that I wanna share as we pick up the story. Now, here we're gonna land it now. Here's a20:15 you all will have read a whole chapter right now. 24 now. Watch this. About 3 months later, Judah was told, Tamar, your daughter-in-law, has acted like a prostitute20:27 now because of this. She pregnant. Who baby that? Whose baby is that?20:42 And now because of this, she's pregnant. He says, bring her out and let her be burned. Judah demanded. As they were20:54 talking her talking taking her out to kill her, she sent this message to her father-in-law. I love this. The man who owns these things made21:06 me pregnant. Look closely whose seal and cord and walking stick are these? See, he21:19 to pay her for prostitution, he was gonna give her a goat, But he didn't have the goat. So she said, instead until you give me the goat, give me your seal, your cord, and your walking21:30 stick that has your name on it and your label. So she kept it. Now he finds out that his daughter-in-law is pregnant. He's quick to judge her, let her be killed and stoned right21:42 now. And she goes like this, does this looks like something you recognize? Look closely. Judah recognized and21:54 immediately said this, she's more righteous than I. Because I didn't arrange for her to be married. I drove her to this. In her22:05 desperation, she had to do this. I failed her as a daddy. To marry my son, Shelah, and Judah, and Judah never slept with22:17 Tamar again. When this time came for Tamar to give birth, it was discovered that she carried twins. While she was in labor, 1 of the babies reached out his22:29 hand. The midwife grabbed it, tied a scarlet string around the child's wrist, announcing this 1 came out first. But then he pulled back his hand out and came and22:41 his brother came his brother. What wait. What what? The midwife explained. How did he how did you break out first so his name was Perez? And you just22:53 read Perez. So here's the first Chicano in the bible right there. So if that's for you. Mexican came out of this Jewish relationship.23:02 Let's let's talk about it. I'm gonna give you 4 quick points with the 12 minutes I have left. Number 1 is this, bad choices produce bad circumstances, which equals23:14 loss of conviction. The first thing you recognize, it says he left his family in the beginning. The second thing is he married wrong. He married a Canaanite woman,23:26 someone outside of covenant. He raised his sons, they were wicked. It's where he raised his family. He slept with a prostitute23:39 and he had a wrong friend that encouraged him to go with this prostitute. So we see nothing but bad choices that led to bad circumstances in his life, which23:51 made him lose, which we He was a Hebrew who loved God. His dad's name was Jacob, but he's not living out his convictions. I'm a man of faith, I know who God is, I24:02 used to go to church, but my lifestyle doesn't represent that now. How did that happen? Because I made some bad choices in my life producing bad circumstances and I've lost my convictions.24:15 Bad circumstances should not be an excuse to compromise your convictions. You can't compromise your beliefs. You can't compromise your integrity, your24:27 value, your ethics, nor your morals. You cannot afford to do that in a world full of temptation or no matter how hard your life is. Compromise allows you to24:39 eliminate the God factor. You won't be in his will, you won't have his ways in your life, and you won't have the word of God in your life. You won't operate in his favor and in his blessings when you live a24:50 compromised life. To quote Michael W. Smith, it reads like this, behind every act of compromise is a Christian who is living for this world25:02 rather than the next. When I was 17 years old, I stole all these avocados from the neighborhood.25:15 I packed up this 19 70 Ford El Rancho all in the back of avocados. I drove to Pico25:26 Rivera, to a Mexican restaurant. I had put a deal together that the owner would buy all the avocados from me so he could make an abundance of guacamole. And then I sold them, and then I went and25:38 bought some marijuana, and I stood on the street corner and I became a small time little drug dealer. Little did I know that that night I would be busted, hauled off to the police25:50 station, strip searched and then my parents would have to come and pick me up. How did that happen? Bad choices, which led to some bad circumstances26:01 because now I'm grounded and there's a lot of difficulty that's gonna come into my life. Though I was raised in a godly home, though I knew better, but I had lost all26:13 my convictions because of the people that I hung around and because of the choices that I made. The second thing is selfishness26:25 destroys what we were meant to create. What we were meant to build, produce, keep, reproduce, fix, and solve, help change, and bless.26:37 Judah is not doing that right now. He's living a very, very, very selfish life and he's not living out his God given purpose. He's destroying things.26:49 Onan was supposed to perform his duty and fulfilled his duty, but he didn't out of selfishness that took place. How did Judah not know that that was27:01 not his daughter-in-law? Because the lust got the best of him. It's no coincidence. Is this the first time that he's gonna be with a prostitute? Probably not.27:13 Just creating a lifestyle for him. So it's all nothing but selfishness that's destroying something. I'm supposed to be a blessing. I'm supposed to raise a godly family. I'm supposed to27:25 change a generation. I'm supposed to impact, but I'm not doing it because I'm living a selfish life. That's what's taking place in Judah's life.27:38 The broken lies to Tamar leads her to a place of desperation. Daddy, you promised me that you would give me an heir and27:50 you broke your promise and now that's led me to take control of my life and live a desperate life. That's massive How desperate she28:02 will be all because of a broken promise, a broken vow to her. And that will lead her to a place of of desperation that's in her life.28:14 Because selfishness takes from somebody rather than gives. Selfishness puts my needs in front of your needs. Selfishness is a lack of unconditional28:26 love. I'm gonna give you a quote by Ed Cole, and I love this quote about selfishness. The counterfeit to the Trinity is me, myself, and I.28:39 Selfishness. So so all of that is self centeredness, self talk, self indulgence, self promotion, self righteousness, self rationale. All that leads28:51 to selfishness. Let me let me give you a thought here today. The thought is this, what do you think the number 1 destroyer of marriages? Do you think29:03 the number 1 destroyer of marriage is infidelity, lack of communication, financial pressure, abuse, crises, blended families, unrealistic expectations,29:14 inactivity, pride, pettiness. Do you believe that those are the number 1 reason that destroys a marriage? No. Those are symptoms. Those are symptoms.29:26 We are dealing with symptoms. You gotta go to the cause of what's destroying a marriage. And here's the 1 word. The 1 word that destroys marriage, selfishness.29:43 You forgot that you got into that marriage on what I could do for you. Now it turned what you're gonna do for me. And out of selfishness, now comes infidelity. And29:54 because of selfishness, now comes abuse or financial problems or everything else. The number 1 thing that you and I have to deal with in our lives30:06 is dealing with the selfishness. And Judah is showing nothing but selfishness in this story. The third thing is silence covers the wrong instead30:18 of confronting it. He sends her away. Just I just wanna send the problem away. Just wanna ignore it. I just30:30 wanna avoid it. So I'm gonna sign no, no, we don't talk about it. Don't bring that up to me anymore. Don't put me on the stop spot anymore. And the30:42 reality is this, is the silence covering the wrong instead of confronting it. When it's wrong, it's wrong and we've got to confront it. Now we'll work on it together. We'll deal with it together.30:54 But silence never solves anything. Ignoring and avoiding never solves anything. And he just wants to silence the issue in his life. See, because here's31:06 the reality. All of us have ghosts in our past. The ghost of guilt, shame, sorryness, condemnation, embarrassment, remorse,31:18 humiliation, regret, past, and grief. But ghosts have to be confronted with prayer, forgiveness,31:31 changing relationships, going in for counseling. That that you you don't ignore these ghosts. You confront these ghosts. Here's the second thing I know. All of us31:43 have closets. I like this 1. Things nobody in your family can answer. Things in your family we do not discuss. Things31:55 in my family nobody knows about. Things in my family we do not discuss privately. They're hidden secrets. Things we don't talk about. Things we don't ask about. Things we don't know about. These are32:06 behind it. We we don't open that door. I don't know whose son that is. I don't know whose mama that is. I don't know how that family member got. We don't talk about it. We32:21 don't talk about the rape. We don't talk about the incest. We don't talk about the all the the abortion. We don't talk about things like that. But the reality is we all have these. Amen. And we all have these.32:35 God wants us to confess them to him. That's when the healing is going to begin. His guy this guy is jacked up and tore up. It's not until he32:46 says, you are more righteous than me that his healing starts. He said, I'm coming out of the closet now. I'm not blaming nobody for what took place. I'm taking responsible,32:58 girl. You would have never got down to be a prostitute if I would have kept my promise. You would have never done what you did in desperation. And now I take full33:10 responsibility for what I did. And it starts bringing healing to a generation. It brings healing to the family. It brings healing to children.33:24 So silence can't silence can't cover up the wrong. It it must be confronted. And we are really, really good at masking and covering up with33:36 excuses, rationale, ignoring, justifying, pretending, and avoidance. But it will find you out. Your staff is gonna come out33:48 1 day. Your court is gonna come out 1 day. It's gonna tell on you the reality. And we we we can mask and cover up things of secrets with alcohol, and we do34:00 it with drugs, men and women. We do it with sexual promiscuity. I didn't have a daddy, so I lay with all the men in my life that come my way. I don't think I deserve a34:12 good man. We deal with it with yelling. We deal it with threatening. We deal it with being a driven person or a perfectionist all because we're trying to cover up34:23 things. It's amazing how vocal we can be about other people's sins rather than our own's. He was about ready to stone her. It's amazing how34:35 we could get on tangents over someone. You know, those young people are doing this and yet we're gossipers. There's people living these deviant, perverted lives, but we're not34:47 tithing. Watch out what you are so passionate about. So he he gonna destroy her, but dude,34:59 you laid with a prostitute and it's your daughter-in-law. It's amazing how vocal we can be against sin. And the Bible says, he that without sin35:12 needs to watch himself to cast the first stone. So Judah's repentance breaks the cycle of silence. It absolutely does. And and last of all, it's amazing how35:24 vocal we are at blaming others. Blaming others. He blamed, if you look the scripture very very slowly, he blamed35:36 Tamar for his son's deaths. No. The Bible says they were wicked. They're wicked boys. But he secretly35:47 blamed her for those deaths. And that's why he didn't wanna give the third son up because he thought that she'd kill him 1 way or another. But the reality is35:59 it's amazing how we can blame others for our hurts. Let's blame COVID. Let's blame Biden. Let's blame Trump. Let's blame the man. Whoever the man is, it's a man's fault.36:11 Let me blame my ex. It's not my fault. If only if only I had this. I did it because. I36:23 blame it on my skin color. I blame it on my race. But Willie George says this in this amazing quote, and then we'll go to last point and we're done. God can do little36:35 for those who think their problems are everybody else's fault. Here's my last point. The last point. Our36:46 fear creates distance and separation rather than safety for those around us that we love. Protection, security, comfort, peace. The fears that we're living in36:59 is actually creating distance and separation. Judah feared. Judah feared losing his last son. Judah feared of losing his37:10 reputation. If you go back and read the story. He feared losing his reputation. But he did not fear losing his bloodline or his37:22 family lineage or his family blessing or heritage where this woman cared more about the family name than this man did.37:35 He didn't fear not having an heir. So he operated in a level of fear in his life. Let37:47 me show you some common fears, but they're often fears that affect men. Men have a fear of failure. Men have a fear of commitment.37:59 Men have a fear of incompetency. Men have a fear of not having enough money or having a good career. Men fear, again, not having a career, fear38:11 not working. Fear they they fear they fear being weak, not being able to handle the challenge. Men fear rejection. Men fear being judged. Men38:23 fear not measuring up. These are real fears that all of us as men face. But there's fear. And our fears create38:34 separation. We cannot allow our fears to create separation from our friends or our mates or the or our children. We've gotta confront and we've gotta deal with those fears. And the way we deal38:46 with those fears is with faith. I'm gonna have to trust God. I I I I I overcome my fears with faithfulness. I've gotta start doing faithful things38:58 now. We we overcome fears with finishing well. I will not only do these things, faith and good actions, but I will consistently do them day in and39:10 day out. And then I will lead with fruitfulness. I will do it forever. This will begin to bring healing to our families. When we begin to move from fear to faith39:22 to faithfulness to finishing well to becoming fruitful in our lives. I end with this. I went through the TSA39:34 line not too long ago and the guy behind me, as I was getting my luggage, kept tripping the TSA alarm.39:47 So, you know, they pull you out of the line and now they're gonna wave the wand. And it goes off and and you know, take your shoes off, take off a belt, blah blah, they're patting him downShow more
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